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A Brave Email Experiment

A Brave Email Experiment

Imagine what could happen in your company, if your President, CEO, or otherwise-titled Top Dog, conducted this experiment for as little as a week’s time;

The Email Experiment

Please use email only when absolutely necessary, to respond to those who initiate conversations with you via email.

However, those who initiate those email conversations with you should only be customers, guests and prospects, vendors and suppliers, because;

In our own company, we are going to talk to each other again.

No emails may be sent to anyone within the same building as you. Instead, you must visit them.

The only emails which may be sent to another in our own company in a different location, are those to offer a choice of times for a telephone conversation (and their reply will be to call you at one of those times), or to attach a file you must collaborate on.

Conversations will only be held by voice.

Here’s the rub: Only the Top Dog knows it’s an experiment. Everyone else is told that this is the way it will be from now on.

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Would you have chaos, or conversation?

If your answer is chaos, I am guessing your work culture is less than healthy.

If your answer is chaos, is that what happens when your email servers go down? Does everything simply stop until you are online again?

After that week’s experiment, would you go back to your old habits again? Would you have to?

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Methinks miraculous things could happen if we stop the one-way deluge of email and start talking to each other again.

[There’s a Long Version of this article on Talking Story today.]

Article Reference:
On the Kūlia i ka nu‘u warpath: The Email Enemy

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Rosa Say is the author of Managing with Aloha, Bringing Hawaii’s Universal Values to the Art of Business, ManagingWithAlohaOnline and the Talking Story blog. She is also the founder and head coach of Say Leadership Coaching, a company dedicated to bringing nobility to the working arts of management and leadership. During the month of March, she has been on a warpath to banish mediocrity.

Rosa’s Previous Thursday Column was: Everyday Performance Reviews.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

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