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9 Childhood Rules Best Forgotten by Adults

9 Childhood Rules Best Forgotten by Adults

I recently read a story about how we get pulled into yesterday each time we follow the sage advice of our parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents.

Do you ever find yourself — at 30, 40, or 50 years of age — still carrying through on that advice?

For the longest time into my adulthood I didn’t go outside for fear that I’d “catch my death of cold.”  Same with going outside barefoot in the winter.

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To this day I still want to throw salt over my right shoulder (or is it my left?) after knocking over the salt shaker because Grandma said it would keep evil spirits away.

I wonder what Grandma would say about the salty evil spirits I’ve consumed?

How about the universal rule that you shouldn’t wear white before Easter or after Labor Day?

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Or–you’ll go blind if you sit too close to the “television set,” but maybe that had something to do with picture tubes.  (Blindness is also attributed to another rite of childhood, but we won’t talk about that one here!)

There is no denying that we bring the yarns of youth with us into adulthood.  The question is, how much do we allow them to influence our adult lives?

Do you follow along because “it’s always been done that way?”  Or, do you plow a new field of independent thinking?

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Here are nine old wives’ tales that have been debunked over the years.  You’ve probably heard them all, and may even know they are untrue.  But do you still practice them?

  1. Never go swimming after eating.

Truth: The American Red Cross reports that there is no increased risk in cramping if you’ve consumed food prior to swimming.

  1. Chocolate causes acne.  Truth:  No food type causes zits, although too much of any food is not good for the body.
  2. Eat carrots, have great vision. Truth: I can speak to this one directly. Mom fed me so much baby carrot food that I turned jaundiced. And I’ve worn glasses since the 4th grade.
  3. If you crack your knuckles, you’ll get arthritis. Truth: Not true, although my thumb joint wonders sometimes . . .
  4. Eating spicy foods can cause ulcers. Truth: Spicy foods CAN irritate ulcers (again, the voice of experience), but not cause.
  5. If you touch a toad, you’ll get warts. Truth:  Nope . . . warts are caused by viruses, not critters.
  6. Coffee stunts your growth. Truth:  While kids shouldn’t have caffeine in their diets, it won’t stunt your growth.  Oddly, my grandfather told me it would put hair on my chest–that’s not true either!
  7. If you cross your eyes, they’ll stay that way. Truth: Why kids do this is really beyond me, but again, not true. Misaligned eyes is called strabismus, but crossing your eyes does not cause the disorder.
  8. Feed a cold/starve a fever. Truth: Wrong in both cases. It’s never good to deprive your body of nourishment when you’re sick nor is it advisable to overeat simply because you’re sick!

Knowing they’re not true, have you spoken any of these tales to your  children or grandchildren?  If you haven’t, congratulations!  If you have, you might want to think about how you allow your past to influence your presence AND what message you’re sending to your kids.

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Words are powerful and teaching them to make good decisions based on facts rather than falsehoods is a tremendous gift to developing minds. Food for thought for the next time it rains, or you encounter a toad or the kids want to go swimming.

(Photo credit: Art via Shutterstock)

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This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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