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9 Childhood Rules Best Forgotten by Adults

9 Childhood Rules Best Forgotten by Adults

I recently read a story about how we get pulled into yesterday each time we follow the sage advice of our parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents.

Do you ever find yourself — at 30, 40, or 50 years of age — still carrying through on that advice?

For the longest time into my adulthood I didn’t go outside for fear that I’d “catch my death of cold.”  Same with going outside barefoot in the winter.

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To this day I still want to throw salt over my right shoulder (or is it my left?) after knocking over the salt shaker because Grandma said it would keep evil spirits away.

I wonder what Grandma would say about the salty evil spirits I’ve consumed?

How about the universal rule that you shouldn’t wear white before Easter or after Labor Day?

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Or–you’ll go blind if you sit too close to the “television set,” but maybe that had something to do with picture tubes.  (Blindness is also attributed to another rite of childhood, but we won’t talk about that one here!)

There is no denying that we bring the yarns of youth with us into adulthood.  The question is, how much do we allow them to influence our adult lives?

Do you follow along because “it’s always been done that way?”  Or, do you plow a new field of independent thinking?

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Here are nine old wives’ tales that have been debunked over the years.  You’ve probably heard them all, and may even know they are untrue.  But do you still practice them?

  1. Never go swimming after eating.

Truth: The American Red Cross reports that there is no increased risk in cramping if you’ve consumed food prior to swimming.

  1. Chocolate causes acne.  Truth:  No food type causes zits, although too much of any food is not good for the body.
  2. Eat carrots, have great vision. Truth: I can speak to this one directly. Mom fed me so much baby carrot food that I turned jaundiced. And I’ve worn glasses since the 4th grade.
  3. If you crack your knuckles, you’ll get arthritis. Truth: Not true, although my thumb joint wonders sometimes . . .
  4. Eating spicy foods can cause ulcers. Truth: Spicy foods CAN irritate ulcers (again, the voice of experience), but not cause.
  5. If you touch a toad, you’ll get warts. Truth:  Nope . . . warts are caused by viruses, not critters.
  6. Coffee stunts your growth. Truth:  While kids shouldn’t have caffeine in their diets, it won’t stunt your growth.  Oddly, my grandfather told me it would put hair on my chest–that’s not true either!
  7. If you cross your eyes, they’ll stay that way. Truth: Why kids do this is really beyond me, but again, not true. Misaligned eyes is called strabismus, but crossing your eyes does not cause the disorder.
  8. Feed a cold/starve a fever. Truth: Wrong in both cases. It’s never good to deprive your body of nourishment when you’re sick nor is it advisable to overeat simply because you’re sick!

Knowing they’re not true, have you spoken any of these tales to your  children or grandchildren?  If you haven’t, congratulations!  If you have, you might want to think about how you allow your past to influence your presence AND what message you’re sending to your kids.

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Words are powerful and teaching them to make good decisions based on facts rather than falsehoods is a tremendous gift to developing minds. Food for thought for the next time it rains, or you encounter a toad or the kids want to go swimming.

(Photo credit: Art via Shutterstock)

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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