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8 Ways to Improve Yourself with Writing

8 Ways to Improve Yourself with Writing

We often think of writing as a means to communicate with others. Let’s take a look at writing as a means of focusing our attention on the one person who matters most to us—ourselves.

Know Thyself

Self improvement is a laudable goal, but it must begin with an honest self-assessment. If you have never done such a thing, try beginning now, with a list of everything you can do, use, operate, etc. Start with being able to write, either with pen to paper or type on a keyboard, and include everything, no matter how trivial (use a phone, drive a car, grow plants, etc). You will amaze yourself with the number of skills and abilities you have amassed through the years.

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Take Control

Next, you must learn that there is only one thing in life over which you have complete control: your thinking/attitude. What you think and how you feel about it are inseparable. That means how you perceive yourself is inextricably linked to how you feel about yourself. No matter what others may say about you (or think in their hearts), only you know your true thoughts and feelings. Never let the negative influence of other people rule your own thoughts and feelings.

Make a Road-map

With this in mind, you might consider writing down your goals and plans for the future. Having a clear mental picture of where you want to end up not only provides you with a target to aim for, it also protects you from becoming a SNIOP (Susceptible to the Negative Influence of Other People).

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Unless you are already familiar with the process of crafting your future in words, you might find it helpful to use a set of goal setting and planning tools that have proven useful to others, like those available here, for free. The worksheets and manuals will help you through each stage of your plan, including what you don’t want in your life. Weeding out time wasters, stress and other problems can help you reach your goals faster, and with less effort.

Write Your Way, the Right Way

An unusual and surprisingly effective method of self improvement is called Grapho-Therapy. The creator of this method claims that changing your handwriting can change your life for the better. Since the way you write given letters can reveal character traits and behavioral habits, by changing the way you write “negative” letter shapes, you can change the underlying behavior. It’s not free, but I include it as a tool for you to examine.

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Accounting for Change for the Better

Next, make a budget. That means not only writing down each and every source of income and expenditure you have, it means tracking exactly how much money you have on you at any given time. Many people have been amazed at how they fritter away money by just assuming they have enough on them for this or that little thing they want to buy. Those “little things” can add up to a major sum that could be put to better use. Get into the practice of accounting for the pennies, and the dollars will begin to take care of themselves.

Let Go of the Past

There may be things in your past that still bother you today. Whether it’s a bad encounter with another person or something you did that was less than you could have done, it still haunts you. Try writing a letter of forgiveness, in which you describe, in detail, how you perceive what happened. Then, most importantly, forgive whatever hurt or injury was done to you by others and forgive yourself for not being perfect. You don’t have to send the letter—keep it for yourself and your peace of mind.

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Forge Lasting Connections

Finally, no self improvement efforts will be complete unless you include others in your life. That means starting or continuing a dialogue with those you are close to and those you wish to cultivate as colleagues, mentors, etc. Even if it’s only an occasional email, keep in touch with those you value, and tell them you value them. They, in turn, may surprise you with just the right word, at just the right time, that improves your life in ways you cannot now imagine.

The Ultimate Self-Improvement Tool

Writing can be the best way for you to do the one thing many of us never do: change. Self improvement is as much art as it is science. By documenting all the changes you wish to make, you give yourself a fighting chance to make good on your good intentions.

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19 Definitions Of Success You Should Never Ignore

19 Definitions Of Success You Should Never Ignore

What is success?

Is it wealth? Is it happiness? Is it fame?

The late Zig Ziglar was one of the most respected modern day experts on success, motivation, and leading a balanced life. In his book Born to Win!, he argues that success cannot be defined in one sentence, but instead it is comprised of many things. One could argue that the definition depends on the individual and that one size does not fit all[1].

Here are 19 different definitions of success. Not all of these will resonate with you, but chances are at least a few of them will. Use these or find inspiration here to create your own definition of success that can be applied to your unique life.

1. Success is always doing your best.

Success can be achieved when you try your best in all aspects of everything you do, even if that doesn’t lead to big results. If you’ve done your best, you should feel proud of your efforts.

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2. Success is properly setting concrete goals.

Be realistic and concrete when setting goals. Success does not come from setting abstract goals. If you know where you’re heading, that is a success in itself, even if you don’t ultimately arrive to the planned destination.

3. Success is having a place to call home.

Home is where your heart soars. You are always successful when you can call a place home. Home doesn’t have to be a specific structure. It can be a country, a city, or even a person. If you have a place you feel comfortable and safe, you’re already achieving something great.

4. Success is understanding the difference between need and want.

If you can meet your monthly obligations and fulfill your basic needs, you are successful. Being able to identify when you absolutely need something and when you can do without it often leads to financial stability and is a great way to succeed.

5. Success is believing you can.

If you believe you can, you will succeed. Self-belief doesn’t come naturally to everyone, so if you’re able to tell yourself that you can achieve the goals in your plans, you’re doing great.

6. Success is remembering to balance work with passion.

Work without passion creates undue stress and empty achievements. Focus on what excites you. If you’re happy at your job, that’s great. However, even if you aren’t, you can balance your formal job with hobbies or volunteer work you’re passionate about.

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7. Success is taking care of your needs.

Remember to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. Self-care is essential if you want to have any meaningful impact on the world around you.

8. Success is learning that you sometimes have to say no.

Success only comes with a balanced life. Part of balance is learning to say no. Saying no doesn’t mean you are selfish; it simply means you have priorities and know what you need to give your attention to at any given time.

9. Success is knowing your life is filled with abundance.

Love, health, friends, family…life is filled with abundance. Recognizing this is an important step to feeling grateful for all life has given you. If you can feel this, you are already experiencing success.

10. Success is understanding you cannot keep what you don’t give away.

You will only succeed if you help others succeed. Learning to give instead of always take is part of creating a world we all want to live in. When you help others, you will also create an environment where others want to help you.

11. Success is overcoming fear.

Conquering a fear makes you feel invincible. Even if it’s confronting just one small fear each week, that is certainly something to feel proud of. The bigger fears will take more time, but any work you do to overcome fear will lead to success.

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12. Success is learning something new each day.

Successful people understand that learning never stops. Take time each day to converse with someone with opposing views, read an interesting article on a topic you know little about, or watch a TED talk on new research. It doesn’t take long to learn, so get started now.

13. Success is learning that losing a few battles can help you win a war.

Successful people choose their battles wisely. When you know which battles will ultimately help you achieve your goals, you will be successful.

14. Success is loving and being loved back.

Opening your heart to others is difficult and can produce fear. Having the courage to love and accept love from others is a step toward a fulfilling life and great success.

15. Success is standing your ground when you believe in something.

Successful people never give up on things they believe with all their heart. You may hold views that many people disagree with, but if you’ve done your research and know that it’s the right belief for you, you shouldn’t let it go without a fight.

16. Success is not giving up.

Perseverance creates grit, and grit achieves success. Even if it takes years to achieve a goal, persisting is key if you want success.

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17. Success is celebrating small victories.

Anytime a goal is reached or an obstacle is overcome, take time to celebrate, even if it’s something small. All goals require smaller objectives to be achieved first, so each time you complete one, take time to appreciate the work you put into it.

18. Success is never letting a disability hold you back.

Disabilities do not define a person’s success. The body and mind will compensate. Just because you can’t do absolutely everything doesn’t mean you can’t do something. Do what your body and mind allow and always push yourself. That is true success.

19. Success is understanding that you control your destiny.

Your destiny is controlled by you and you alone. Take responsibility for your actions and their consequences and you’ll find that you naturally become more successful.

The Bottom Line

Success can be defined in many ways. If you are experiencing happiness, love, or adventure in this moment, you’ve already found success. Keep it up.

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