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8 Valuable Life Lessons Blogging Teaches Us

8 Valuable Life Lessons Blogging Teaches Us

As far as jobs or hobbies go, blogging is one of the more fulfilling options out there. We all have something that we’d like to get off our chest and some knowledge to share with others. However, while blogging can be fun and fulfilling, it can also be challenging. Delve a little deeper into it and you will need change the way you think to adapt. If you spend a lot of time doing something you will get better at it and achieve a certain degree of mastery, which in turn will teach you some important life lessons. There is a lot to learn from the journey and blogging on a regular basis can definitely give you some unique insights.

1. It doesn’t take much to get started in a new direction

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    All it takes to get started with a new project in your life is to make that initial leap of faith. Once you’ve resolved to make a change you can jump right in. The progress will be gradual but you can make huge progress initially if you are driven. With some research and a bit of practice you can learn how to run a successful blog and apply the principles that the pros use right from the start. This works for other parts of life quite well.

    Want to get in shape? Find a sound, well-written beginner program and do your research on the right type of exercise and nutrition that will allow you to reach your goals. Then you just stick with it and give it your 100% on a regular basis. Getting started is surprisingly easy. Even if it’s something that you’ve never done before, it’s the consistency and motivation part that trips people up.

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    2. There is always more work to be done

    At first it seems like you can spend an hour or two of your free time at the computer typing away and manage to run a blog without it really affecting your life in a big way. When you start to take it seriously your research can take you in several directions and you will start learning more and more on a subject.

    You will become interested in a few different topics – you brush up on your grammar, work on improving your vocabulary, look at some writing tips, search the web for good pictures or gifs, start doing your own DIY projects or shop around for cool tech gadgets, you spend a few hours on social media… If you decide to do something meaningful you will want to do it well, and you will learn that there is always more work to be done. Self-improvement is a never-ending story and the more effort you put in, the more benefits you reap.

    3. You may have hidden talents that you never knew about

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      We are all born with certain strengths and weaknesses. As much as people like to say that everyone has equal opportunity, it’s hard not to argue that we all have some inborn talents that allow us to potentially reach a much higher level of skill in some areas; however we are often unaware of some of these talents.

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      It’s not until you start reading and writing about all kinds of different topics and try your hand at different disciplines that you start to realize just how much something suits you. Have you tried playing the guitar, cooking, creating DIY furniture, running or singing? You might be pleasantly surprised to find out that you aren’t half bad at it – and that it gives you plenty of enjoyment.

      4. All it takes to get good at something is time and patience

      People always want to hear about secret knowledge and take shortcuts to achieving their goals. One of the biggest truths in life is that mastering something is all about boring repetition. It takes plenty of time to get really good and the most important virtues you can have are patience and grim determination. You always keep coming back to the basics, perfecting them so that you can build upon them and develop further. It may take you an entire afternoon to write 1000 words at first, but if you keep going and write 1000 words every day, you’ll eventually get to a point where things come naturally and motivation isn’t an issue.

      5. A good daily routine will lead you to success

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        The best way to ensure that you stay motivated enough to dedicate the necessary time into a project is to develop a routine. Human beings are creatures of habit and we tend to work best when we have a set schedule. You can try to write when the mood strikes, but it becomes too easy to procrastinate and a whole day can go by without a muse coming to inspire you. Once you start living by a simple schedule and break your day up into several routine tasks, you’ll quickly notice that you are able to get things done much more efficiently. You may even end up with more free time once you learn to be more productive.

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        6. Think twice before you speak

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          It’s easy to get carried away and mention things that may not be completely accurate while talking about a subject. You can also throw around unverified information that you’ve heard somewhere at some point and regard it as a cold hard fact. When you share your thoughts with a large and ethnically diverse audience, you become aware of the importance of fact-checking and thinking about what you are going to say. The backlash in the comments can be a really sobering experience. Thankfully, among the hordes of hateful trolls there are always a few people out there who offer constructive criticism and correct you without trying to insult you in the process.

          Critically considering the ideas you have, checking the credibility of the sources, looking at the possible implications and ways your words can potentially be misinterpreted – all these things allow you to express yourself better. By weighing your words carefully before you speak you ensure that you don’t spread misinformation, draw bad conclusions or come across as ignorant, arrogant or offensive.

          7. Don’t try to impose your views on others – be tolerant of different opinions

          A mistake a lot of new bloggers tend to make is to stick to their specific views and paint them as the “right way” or *cue dramatic music* “the truth”. Things are never black and white; every issue has a wide plethora of vibrant colors, each with a bunch of unique shades. If you believe that you are objectively right because you have personal experience and plenty of facts to back you up, then you can calmly and respectfully critique someone’s claims. Don’t just dismiss beliefs and opinions of others (especially on polarizing topics) as “bad” or “dumb”. You should always come from a place of understanding and be open for an intelligent discussion.

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          8. Don’t waste your energy on things that aren’t important

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            You can sometimes get so caught up in the minutiae that you forget about the big picture, or you end up wasting a lot of time on little things like weighing up which phrase to use or choosing just the right picture. I’ll be the first to say that the devil is in the details, but beyond a certain point your eye for detail becomes an obsession which limits your productivity. Adopt the 80/20 rule to life: focus 80% of your time on a few things that can give you the greatest results and 20% of time on everything else. Another way in which this applies to life is that you shouldn’t waste your energy on people who drain you emotionally and whose company you don’t enjoy. Keep good company and focus on developing connections with people that can help you move forward and improve.

            Anyone who has spent a significant amount of time blogging will agree that you get a whole lot more out of the experience than just the satisfaction you get from writing about what you love. There are plenty of important life lessons that you learn along the way and these can be applied to virtually any facet of life in order to better yourself and become happier.

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            Ivan Dimitrijevic

            Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

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            How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

            How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

            “Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances.” -Dr. Janice Anderson & Kiersten Anderson

            It’s not always obvious if you have someone toxic in your life. A toxic relationship is one that is harmful to you. A toxic person can create distress to the degree you feel inadequate and isolated. So, what makes a toxic person?

            A toxic person has toxic behavior, meaning it’s not that the whole person is toxic[1]. It’s what they do that counts. Most toxic people run from accountability and misrepresent reality to you. They misrepresent your worth and your ability to heal from them can be stifled the longer you keep them in your life. You have a role to play with it as well; if your values are dismissed by them and you don’t act on it, you have allowed room for toxicity to grow.

            When you are in a toxic relationship, you feel less than. You feel as though you are not worth anyone’s time or effort. You feel unheard, and sometimes you feel unsafe. You don’t feel good about yourself in a toxic relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member.

            You may stay in a toxic relationship for a number of reasons. You may believe yourself to be a burden, have a lack of boundaries, resist change, fear conflict, try to be a people pleaser, find yourself codependent, or are partially stuck in a pattern or unhealthy cycle of abuse.

            Letting go of toxic people may not be easy. In order to do so, you have to know why or how they are toxic to you and read between the lines that they do not have your best interests in mind.

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            Letting go of toxic people is hard because you are good and want to see the good in others. You think their apologies are authentic. You have trouble believing they are being dishonest. You don’t spend time healing from it. You get pulled back into the pain because you don’t want it to end. However, if you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t right.

            You should walk away from a toxic person because you need to preserve your peace. You need to feel like yourself again. And you need better support.

            Letting go of toxic people can involve four major steps.

            1. Recognize the Red Flags

            Red flags are signs a person is being toxic. It’s when someone shows characteristics that you should feel caution about. It’s when you feel any level of dissatisfaction and distrust. Trust your gut. When you recognize red flags, you can evaluate whether a person is trying to manipulate you or not. This gives you some level of control over what you allow in your life. The earlier you detect these behaviors, the better off you will be.

            Red flags can include:

            • They always put themselves first.
            • They point out imperfections and sabotage your self-esteem.
            • You may feel drained or used when you’re around them.
            • What you give isn’t reciprocated. They don’t return the goodness you provide as a friend.
            • They ignore your boundaries and get angry when you tell them “no.”
            • You catch them in half truths or outright lies when you confront them about anything.
            • You are the villain; they are the victim.
            • Second chances always lead to repeated patterns of behavior.
            • They may engage in abuse.

            2. Set Boundaries

            There are emotional boundaries that one can set, but there are also physical ones[2]. You can leave any time. Setting boundaries is also an important part of self-care.

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            You shouldn’t walk on eggshells. Tell them how you feel. Are they respecting you, fulfilling your needs, and listening to you? If not, it’s time to set up a healthy emotional distance and start letting go of toxic people around you.

            There are levels to this. You have your inner circle, which could include family, and then you have acquaintances and strangers. If a toxic person is in your inner circle, it’s time to pull back and put up some boundaries for them to follow. If they can’t hear you out, you can cut off the connection completely.

            You can give second chances, but you have to be careful. If someone knows they can get away with something, they will do it again. If there’s any chance for the relationship, they have to know not to cross certain lines.

            3. Invest in Yourself

            You deserve to know you are worthwhile. Try to remember that things will get better and that anything is possible. How do you do so? Invest in yourself.

            This means self care, goal setting, surrounding yourself with positive support, and feeling a sense of peace. Your greatest ambition should be to love yourself. Without self-love, letting go of toxic people will be difficult.

            Every relationship is a risk, but if you know yourself and what you will allow, toxic people will have less of a hold over you. If you are a giver or people pleaser, you are most at risk to being in a one-sided relationship. You shouldn’t be punished for caring, but sometimes trust needs to be earned. If you have self-love, you are treating yourself the best way possible. You know that others need to meet your standards; otherwise, they don’t get to be a part of your life.

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            It’s possible that you can love yourself and still not see the signs. It can be difficult for some to be aware that toxic people exist. However,, if you know how much you mean to others in your life and what you are worth, you will be less likely to take on a relationship that is harmful to you or repeat negative patterns. Self-love is how we get out of toxic relationships, but it’s also how they never begin.

            4. Know When Forgiveness Is Possible

            There are times a person will prove their worth to you. They may make a mistake that makes them seem like a horrible person. They may forget to be good to you because of their own issues. They may just have no example of what a healthy relationship looks like. They may have an inflated ego that really comes from insecurity. The list goes on.

            If they apologize, that’s a start. Look at their actions. Are they changing for the better because they really want to change or just seeming to in order to manipulate you? A person may control others with their image or perceived personality, but if you see through them, you may be able to discern the degree to which they are willing to be there for you.

            If they start to do the right thing, you may begin to trust them again. Don’t start forgiving them until time has passed and you are sure there is growth, even if they show vulnerability or remorse. You can give a second chance if they truly have an awakening. Otherwise, it’s best to get out. Don’t let them walk all over you; let them walk out the door.

            If you do give a second change and they still refuse to change, you have every right to remove them and continue the process of letting go of toxic people. The moment you even want to leave may also be a good time to get out. You don’t have to compromise yourself in order to care for them.

            Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger[3]. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. You have to go back to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone. You don’t have to let them back in. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

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            Remember, forgiveness is ultimately for you, not them. You don’t need that person in your life in order to forgive them, and if you give them a second chance, proceed with caution.

            Final Thoughts

            Recognize the red flags, set boundaries, invest in yourself, and know when forgiveness is possible. This is how you cope with a toxic person impacting your life. You have power in the direction of your life and the people who accompany you as you move forward. Use it.

            If a person is worthwhile, they will prove themselves through their actions, not their words. If they cross certain lines that really harm you, you owe them nothing. You have every right to feel what you feel and to be upset. Honor your feelings and communicate them because it’ll only continue to keep happening if you don’t.

            If this is happening to you, it’s time to put a stop to it. It’s time to take control. It’s time to live for yourself, not for what others say about you. It’s time to set your standards higher than they’ve ever been before. And most of all, it’s time to let go.

            Resource reminder: A physically abusive relationship is ALWAYS toxic. There are resources for you. Always speak up.

            If you are in such a cycle or domestic violence or abuse reach out for help. For example, there is The National Domestic Violence Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) which can be reached at 1−800−799−7233. There are other ways to get help if you simply ask for it. 

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