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7 Warning Signs You Are Losing Track of Your Life

7 Warning Signs You Are Losing Track of Your Life

Each one of us is sailing uncharted seas every day. Few of us have any idea where we want to sail and most are stuck in a lull in the middle of the sea hoping for a miracle. If you want to avoid losing track of where you are right now in the sea of life, then read the following seven warning signs so you can prepare yourself to face them when they arise.

1. You start each day feeling horrible

If you find yourself waking up with little energy and no excitement, then the chances are high that you are losing track of your life. Those who know what they want in life embrace every new day with exciting plans and the desire to execute them. Be aware that the horrible feelings might also be a sign of depression, so additional help from those around you, especially mental health professionals, might be needed.

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2. You drastically lose or gain appetite

This is something I usually experience when I’m in a ‘down’ state. I am a big eater, so I know that if I lose my appetite then that means that I’m not in tune with myself. Another thing that is also prone to happen to me is I have cravings to eat something even though I just had a huge meal a few minutes ago. These sudden changes in appetite are one of the obvious warning signs you are losing track of your life, so be prepared with a plan to bring yourself back into line if it happens at any point in your life.

3. You start to question the reason you are doing the things you do in life

When you start to question the reason you are doing the things you do in life, then 99.99% of the time you are probably not on the right path. This means that you are unsatisfied with how you lead your life and if you continue leading it that way, you will end up becoming someone who harbors hatred towards life. The solution: change yourself. Finding the right path is not easy because it differs from person to person. By changing the way you lead your life, you increase your chances of stumbling onto the right path that you sought to walk along.

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4. You seek entertainment but find things are not as entertaining as they used to be

I love to play video games. But there are times when even the most novel of games can’t bring me joy. You might experience the same thing even though you don’t like video games. Your interaction with friends felt dull, last night’s World Cup finals match wasn’t that exciting, and the program on the TV seems to be lacking entertainment value. When entertainment loses its ability to entertain you, then nothing will work unless you get your life back on track.

5. You feel as if you are disconnected from the people around you

Friends are source of joy. Other than that, they are also a way we feel connected to the world around us. Have you ever felt that you are alone in this world? If yes, then that’s a sign that you’re losing a grip on life. No matter how many people you meet, that feeling of connection won’t reemerge because there isn’t a ‘thread’ going out from your soul in the first place.

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6.You are constantly thinking destructive, pessimistic thoughts

This is usually the sign of escalating depression. Those who are depressed definitely lose track of their own life. If you are constantly thinking destructive, pessimistic thoughts and finding it hard to turn those thoughts into more positive ones, then you need to check where you are heading right now! Most of the time you may find yourself walking a fine line and even a slight push could make you tumble into the deep, bottomless abyss.

7.You think that there’s no light at the end of the tunnel

If you lose track to the point where you feel you are currently inside a dark cave, then how do you expect to be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel? Someone who doesn’t have a clue where they are is the same as someone who can’t see the solutions to their problems. The solutions are out there but they’ll only reveal themselves to those who have some clarity.

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How to get a compass

When you recognize the above warning signs in your life, bring out your compass. You don’t have one? You don’t know how to use them? The following are some things you can do to help find your life compass:

  1. Ask yourself. Sometimes the answers to all your woes are already buried deep inside you. It’s just that you don’t ask.
  2. Ask others for help and advice. There are many people out there who have experienced the same problem as you and they will gladly help you to find your way back to the right path.
  3. Silence. Sometimes, the problem with those who are walking a path is that they walk a noisy path. It’s inevitable that there are various noises all around you but you do have the capability to silence them. How? Do nothing and just be mindful of the things happening around you. It works wonders!

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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