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7 Signs You’re A Highly Sensitive Person

7 Signs You’re A Highly Sensitive Person

I grew up in a household where people held their emotions in. I felt ashamed to be such a highly sensitive person but have learnt through the years that there are some incredible traits that go along with it. Maybe as highly sensitive people, we easily feel pain but we also feel a heightened sense of joy and pleasure. We let it all into us and absorb the good, the bad and the ugly. It takes courage to stay sensitive and serves others much more than you’d probably even realize. There are a lot of us out there too: between 15-20% of the population shares this trait. Embrace everything that it is to be a highly sensitive person because it goes deeper than crying at a sad commercial!

1. You Are Highly Sensitive to Other’s Emotions

You are easily able to tell if something is wrong with someone else even if they try to hide it. It’s almost like a super hero power. You have the opportunity to help people open up by bringing what is obvious to you out into the open. This is something people that are less sensitive can’t do. This makes you one of the best kind of friends to have.

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2. You Are Highly Sensitive to Your Surroundings

If there were any danger around, you would likely be the first to know. You can sense what is around you at all times and while this may be overwhelming, you are always in tune with what’s happening around you. You notice things that others may not, such as a lady bug climbing up a flower stem or a special moment between two random people. You see many beautiful things as you observe the world in all of its detail.

3. Criticism Pushes You to Improve

Often highly sensitive people are natural people-pleasers which means any criticism thrown at you could becomes fuel to really change. It’s not easy for a sensitive person to hear that they aren’t doing something correct. This often motivates you to stop doing that action that may be offending someone. You are flexible and it’s easy for you to evolve with whatever negative feedback you receive.

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4. You Have Deeply Felt Emotions

While a highly sensitive person may feel badly much more easily than others, you also have the capacity to feel wonderful. I always equate the opposite of this to a turtle and his shell. He keeps danger out but he also hides himself from the good stuff. You, on the other hand, feel ultimate joy, bliss and peace. You can’t help but feel so you don’t ignore your emotions. If you’re sad, you let it out. If you’re happy, you laugh until your stomach hurts. You don’t suffer from illness or the bad side effects of holding emotions in all the time.

5. You Have Good Manners

A highly sensitive person remembers their please and thank you’s because it means so much to you. It’s a naturally wonderful trait that you have as a sensitive person, to be sensitive to others around them.

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6. You Have a Creative Mind

A highly sensitive person has highly developed senses which often result in an ability to appreciate art, music and culture. You are easily moved and emotionally touched by creative messages, and are often creative yourself in some way.

7. You Are In Touch With Your Emotions

As a highly sensitive person, you let your emotions show as they arrive within. Perhaps on a deeper level, this alleviates stress and anxiety within the body as you release your emotions. This should never be considered a weakness as it takes courage to look at your feelings and deal with them. There may be some that judge you for crying in public. It may make them uncomfortable because it’s something they are unable to do and probably wish they could.

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In conclusion, embrace your sensitive self because it really does take courage and it’s a natural trait, there is no weakness in it. Denying yourself of the true person you are only makes life more difficult and holding things in is almost impossible anyway. Cry when you need to and laugh just as much – be who you are!

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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