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50 Things A Parent Wants His Kids To Know

50 Things A Parent Wants His Kids To Know

There is nothing better in this life than having kids and being a parent. There is also nothing more challenging then raising kids but also nothing more rewarding. If there are things that I want my children to know when they get older, I would want it to be these 50 things:

1. Know how to cook and clean. It pays to be self sufficient.

2. Know how to manage your money. You will thank yourself later for this.

3. Be prepared to work hard to get what you want. Nobody owes you anything.

4. Follow your dreams, no matter what anybody else has to say. Its your life, not theirs.

5. Your family is the most valuable thing you will ever have. Do not sacrifice them for anything.

6. No matter what you do, I will always be proud to be your father.

7. Life is too short to hold grudges.

8. Life is too short for regrets.

9. If you ever need to talk to somebody, I am always available.

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10. Do not sacrifice your personality for somebody else.  If they don’t respect who you are, they are not worth your time.

11. No matter where life takes you, you are always welcome back home.

12. Always follow your heart, no matter what.

13. If you have a job, and it doesn’t make you happy, then you do not need that job.

14. Karma is real. Keep that in mind.

15. It is the little things in life that truly mean the most.

16. Everything in life happens for a reason.

17. Do not let the bad things in life get you down. If you do, you will miss the good things that are coming up next.

18. If people are talking about you behind your back, take it as a compliment. Whatever you did made such an impression that they can’t stop thinking about you.

19. Learn to love yourself more than any man or woman ever could.

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20. It is better to “blend out” than it is to “blend in.”

21. It is okay to cry.

22. Only God can truly judge you.

23. You have no reason to be insecure. You are the way you are for a reason, so embrace that.

24. Never let a guy treat you like you are not a lady. To my son, always treat your woman like a lady.

25. To my daughter, I will probably dislike most of your boyfriends.

26. Don’t ever be afraid to take a chance.

27. Take great pride in what ever you do.

28. Be proud of where you came from.

29. Besides your family, your health is one of the most important things you have. Keep up on it now so you can avoid complications later.

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30. It is okay to express emotion. Never feel like you have to hide what you are truly feeling.

31. Step out of your comfort zone from time to time. You’ll be surprised what you can experience.

32. It is okay to say “no” from time to time.

33. There is nothing wrong with being the bigger person from time to time.

34. You are only young once in your life. Don’t waste your better years doing something you hate because of somebody else.

35. I am certainly not a perfect parent. I will make mistakes too.

36. If you commit to something, follow through with it.

37. Having a child is the best thing you will ever do with your life.

38. Your siblings are some of the best friends you can ever have. Do not take them for granted.

39. The way you dress says a lot about the kind of person you are. Keep that in mind for dates, job interviews, etc.

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40. I will always voice my opinion, unless you say not to.

41. There are times when it is best to be a leader, or a follower. Learn when it is appropriate to to either of those.

42. The only dumb question in this world is the one that was never asked.

43. Learning to be patient will take you far.

44. No matter how old you are, you will always be my baby.

45. You do not need all of that make up.

46. It breaks my heart to know that there will be another man or woman in your life.

47. I will probably start to cry during every major milestone that happens in your life.

48. Your body is a temple.

49. To my daughter, I will always be up for watching princess movies with you.

50. I never knew how much I could actually love until I found out that I was going to have you.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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