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Last Updated on February 12, 2019

4 Ways Physical Touch Helps Your Relationship

4 Ways Physical Touch Helps Your Relationship

Life can become a lonely thing without the physical touch that makes us feel connected to other people. A lack of touch in relationships could make a person feel unwanted, especially if touch is how your partner expresses their love for others. A little hug goes a long way. Here are 4 ways physical touch helps your relationship.

1. Touch can calm your nerves.

Feeling stressed out and exhausted after a hard day of work? A simple hug could be the answer to your ails. A warm embrace with a person you love can help you find a reason to smile when there is a dark cloud overhead. Hugs release the hormone oxytocin which in turn lowers your heart rate and cortisol levels. Cortisol causes things like fat gain, heart disease, and high blood pressure, so physical touch isn’t just calming, but also healthy.

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2. Hugs can make angry people comfortable.

Fights are par for the course in relationships but when they become too frequent, expressions of love can make all the difference. Being constantly mad at a partner isn’t my idea of fun. The next time you find yourself in a fight that escalates to the point that you feel uncomfortable, offer a hug or hold your partner’s hand. While this won’t magically solve your problems, it will make it more likely that cool heads will prevail.

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3. A quick touch can keep you connected on the go.

It doesn’t require a huge amount of touching to create positive connection that will make you feel happy and fulfilled in your relationship. If you’re running out the door to work, give your partner a quick hug and kiss before you go. This will offer a spark of comfort and happiness that will help you get through your day. A light brush of your knees under the table will help you feel connected while you’re out for dinner with friends. You could go see a scary movie or walk at the park for a perfect excuse to hold hands.

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4. Holding your partner can offer comfort in crisis.

A few years ago, a grandmother I loved dearly passed away and I was so upset that I didn’t know what to do. The activity-of-the-day was crying without pause. My girlfriend at the time was worried about me, so I met her at a local park. Without saying a word, she wrapped her arms around me and the flood-gates opened. I cannot express in words how much better this simple embrace made me feel. When it feels like your world has turned upside down, few things offer more comfort than a big hug from the person you love. If your partner comes to you with a crisis, don’t assume you need to say anything: simply open your arms, let them in, and hold them tightly.

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on February 13, 2019

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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    One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

    6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

    People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

    7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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      This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

      8. Happy people are passionate.

      Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

      9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

      Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

      10. Happy people live in the present.

      While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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      There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

      So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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