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5 Unconventional Ways to Be More Grateful

5 Unconventional Ways to Be More Grateful

Gratitude is often correlated with high levels of happiness, as it births patience, perspective, and understanding. We all try to be more thankful for what we have, but unfortunately this idea slips between our fingers on a daily basis. Need a solution? Look no further– below are 5 unconventional ways to be more grateful!

1. Wish for what you already have

This weird trick works magic, no kidding! Wishing for what you already have allows you to be more aware of and thankful for the things you usually take for granted.

According to the tendencies of the hedonic treadmill, people constantly feel the need to stay in the loop. Once you satisfy your luxury tooth for the next iPhone, you will once again desire something more, something even better… and so the cycle continues. Through this process, it’s not actually likely that you’d achieve the expected level of happiness– because the hedonic treadmill is a trap. In other words, stop wanting, stop wishing, stop expecting… but I’ll admit, those rules are pretty harsh. Instead, the trick is to wish for what you already have.

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Case in point: Last year, I completely forgot that people receive gifts on their birthdays. So you can imagine my shock when I got presents as I turned a year older! Unlike previous years, I hadn’t been counting down the days to my birthday with a wish list in one hand and expectations in the other. From that point forward, I spent every birthday wish, every 11:11 wish, every shooting star wish… on something I already had.

Your turn: close your eyes and “wish” for a loving family, or “wish” for a home, or even “wish” for your life. Now open your eyes. It’s there, just as it has been there all along.

2. Go volunteer

People often say, “Remember the starving children in Africa.”

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It’s a wake up call for sure, and it’s true and real for sure, but the effect varies. Many people will feel guilty to some extent, although it won’t make them feel much better or grateful. Even still, others may feel annoyed or simply detached because the reminder is so overused.

But there’s a way to avoid that sort of detachment, and there’s a way to grow a fresh pair of eyes. It also involves remembering the less fortunate, but it’s actually hands-on this time: volunteer.

Volunteer and actually help those people or groups in need. Through actual contact and involvement, you will experience it for yourself. Helping others is fodder for a much-needed paradigm shift, and one that will make you more thankful.

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3. Remember that things could be worse

This is a mental trick that helps keep ingratitude at bay. Challenge yourself to think of a worse scenario than the one you encounter, and make it a point to repeat this process each time you experience adversity. Rather than being frustrated after misfortune, be thankful that it wasn’t something worse. Lost your wallet with $50 in it? Phew, at least you didn’t lose $100, or at least that one card with your life savings wasn’t in your wallet! Got a nose-bleed while giving a presentation in front of 20 people? At least it wasn’t in front of 2,000, or at least it wasn’t a gusher!

4. Write down your blessings

Don’t just count your blessings; write them down! By giving yourself 5 minutes every night (or morning) to jot down what you’re thankful for, you practice active mindfulness. The physical act of writing can also make you remember better, and what better way to take advantage of that fact than to write your blessings?

5. Share the attitude of gratitude

Don’t keep gratitude to yourself! Spread the love. Take the time to thank someone in your life who has made an impact on you, big or small. Sometimes it takes a physical action in order for you to realize how grateful you truly are.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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