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5 Things A Successful and Happy Person Should Never Say

5 Things A Successful and Happy Person Should Never Say

Do you choose your words before speaking? Do you put them to positive or negative use? If I could hear your self-talk or your conversations, what kind of statements would I hear? Statements that create happiness or statements that repel it?

The words we use have a big impact on our lives. They have the power to create or destroy. I challenge you to chose your words wisely and it’s time to STOP saying….

1. “I don’t have a choice.”

You always have a choice. In fact you are choosing every day, every hour, every minute. Not choosing is a choice, too.  By saying you don’t have a choice in something, you are giving away your ability to choose.If you don’t like something about your live, make a different decision.

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2. “I can’t.”

Yes, YOU CAN! Even if you are in bad situation at the moment – You may feel discouraged. You may feel too old. You may feel upset.  You may be sick.  You may be divorced.  You may be unemployed. . But what is important, is that you are ALIVE! Your journey is far from over.  Realize that you can do anything!

Forget about previous experiences. Just because you couldn’t do something before doesn’t mean you won’t be able to do it in the future.  Everything is possible.

3. “I missed my chance.”

As Charlie Chaplin once said “Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles.”

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You might not be exactly where you had intended to go, but you are exactly where you need to be to take the next best step forward. We can’t change the past; we can only change the present. If you can’t see the opportunity, build it.

It is never too late to become what you might have been.  Keep growing, keep learning, keep adapting!

4. “My goals and dreams can wait.”

Wait for what? Your dreams and goals can’t wait. It would bea disgrace for you to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of your full potential.

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So be brave enough to go after your dreams. We all have dreams for a reason, and that reason is to achieve them. Fly! Spread your wings! Become the person you are meant to be, because you won’t get a second shot at life. That’s why you owe to be a dreamer, a positive person and a believer!

5. “They are probably right, so I must be wrong.”

Don’t let others confuse you. Your heart already knows what’s best for you. Listen to it. Others might know what’s best for themselves, but they surely don’t know what’s best for you.  A favorite quote of mine by Albert Einstein says:

The one who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. Those who walk alone are likely to find themselves in places no one has ever been before.

Even if people do not support you, that doesn’t mean that you are wrong. The truth is that the world isn’t  as it is, but as we see it.  And we all see it differently. Don’t be afraid.. It’s okay to take a different path, as long as you know why you are doing so.

Your turn..

What would you add to the list?  What’s something you should never say if you want to increase your potential for success and happiness?  Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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