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5 Things Singles Should Do When Their Friends Get Into Relationships

5 Things Singles Should Do When Their Friends Get Into Relationships

We all know how it is: you are best friends with someone, and then they suddenly get into what they call a serious relationship and go AWOL. It may be annoying, it may be depressing; but just like with pretty much anything else, this situation can be turned to your own advantage – if you stay positive and look for new opportunities.

1. Do Things You’ve Been Always Putting off

When your close friends start getting into relationships, it usually means that you are going to spend less time with them. But instead of moping and feeling left out, why not use this time to change your life for the better? There are dozens of things we put off because we just can’t get around to doing them – and now, when you have more free time on your hands is a perfect opportunity to check them off your list.

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Get your car maintenance done. Visit a doctor. Sign up for a gym. Learn something new. Write a will. OK, not a happy thought, but you should at least know how to make a fully legal will online if you are going to leave everything to that cat of yours.

2. Embrace Your Single Status

There may be a ton of reasons why you are single. You’ve probably just never met the right person or your life is full enough without it. It could also be that you simply are not wired for this relationship thing.

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However, we live in the culture of coupling, and when all your friends start getting into relationships, they often perceive it as a good enough reason to look patronizingly at their single friends, suggesting that you should find someone and, worse still, set up dates for you.

But if you are happy staying single, stay single – don’t get into a relationship just to be like all your friends. Best relationships are not the ones you are actively looking for, but the ones that just happen.

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3. Make New Friends

When friends start dating someone new and spend more and more time with them, it is an excellent chance to change and expand your circle of acquaintances. Of course, people are unique and a new friend will never substitute an old one; but there are hundreds of fascinating people around that may enrich your life in ways you have no idea so far. As we go forward with our lives, our interests, habits and we themselves change. Perhaps it is time to find some new friends, too, that will better reflect your own nature?

4. Do Something Big

Getting into a long-term relationship is a serious thing; perhaps you should make some drastic changes in your life as well? The best thing to do it is to do something really big, something you have never done before, something that will send your life in a completely new and hitherto unexplored direction. A business of your own, perhaps?

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Fortunately, we live in the Internet age, which means that you don’t need a great deal of capital to start a business. A standalone blog, a commercial website are the most obvious examples – the more affordable web hosts like Siteground can cost as little as $4 per month – you will need nothing but your own time and enthusiasm to keep you going. And, by the way, it is an excellent way to find new friends, acquaintances and interests.

5. Explore Yourself

Friends getting into relationships and spending less time with you may serve as an excellent motivation to try and find what you really want in this life. Perhaps it is time to try out a new hobby? Or learn a foreign language? Take a trip somewhere far away? Take up jogging? Possibilities are endless.

Don’t get depressed about being the last single in your old circle of friends – being single can be empowering, stimulating and liberating – if you so choose.

Featured photo credit: relationships are complicated/hojusaram via flickr.com

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7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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