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5 Things Singles Should Do When Their Friends Get Into Relationships

5 Things Singles Should Do When Their Friends Get Into Relationships

We all know how it is: you are best friends with someone, and then they suddenly get into what they call a serious relationship and go AWOL. It may be annoying, it may be depressing; but just like with pretty much anything else, this situation can be turned to your own advantage – if you stay positive and look for new opportunities.

1. Do Things You’ve Been Always Putting off

When your close friends start getting into relationships, it usually means that you are going to spend less time with them. But instead of moping and feeling left out, why not use this time to change your life for the better? There are dozens of things we put off because we just can’t get around to doing them – and now, when you have more free time on your hands is a perfect opportunity to check them off your list.

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Get your car maintenance done. Visit a doctor. Sign up for a gym. Learn something new. Write a will. OK, not a happy thought, but you should at least know how to make a fully legal will online if you are going to leave everything to that cat of yours.

2. Embrace Your Single Status

There may be a ton of reasons why you are single. You’ve probably just never met the right person or your life is full enough without it. It could also be that you simply are not wired for this relationship thing.

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However, we live in the culture of coupling, and when all your friends start getting into relationships, they often perceive it as a good enough reason to look patronizingly at their single friends, suggesting that you should find someone and, worse still, set up dates for you.

But if you are happy staying single, stay single – don’t get into a relationship just to be like all your friends. Best relationships are not the ones you are actively looking for, but the ones that just happen.

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3. Make New Friends

When friends start dating someone new and spend more and more time with them, it is an excellent chance to change and expand your circle of acquaintances. Of course, people are unique and a new friend will never substitute an old one; but there are hundreds of fascinating people around that may enrich your life in ways you have no idea so far. As we go forward with our lives, our interests, habits and we themselves change. Perhaps it is time to find some new friends, too, that will better reflect your own nature?

4. Do Something Big

Getting into a long-term relationship is a serious thing; perhaps you should make some drastic changes in your life as well? The best thing to do it is to do something really big, something you have never done before, something that will send your life in a completely new and hitherto unexplored direction. A business of your own, perhaps?

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Fortunately, we live in the Internet age, which means that you don’t need a great deal of capital to start a business. A standalone blog, a commercial website are the most obvious examples – the more affordable web hosts like Siteground can cost as little as $4 per month – you will need nothing but your own time and enthusiasm to keep you going. And, by the way, it is an excellent way to find new friends, acquaintances and interests.

5. Explore Yourself

Friends getting into relationships and spending less time with you may serve as an excellent motivation to try and find what you really want in this life. Perhaps it is time to try out a new hobby? Or learn a foreign language? Take a trip somewhere far away? Take up jogging? Possibilities are endless.

Don’t get depressed about being the last single in your old circle of friends – being single can be empowering, stimulating and liberating – if you so choose.

Featured photo credit: relationships are complicated/hojusaram via flickr.com

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10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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