We all know how it is: you are best friends with someone, and then they suddenly get into what they call a serious relationship and go AWOL. It may be annoying, it may be depressing; but just like with pretty much anything else, this situation can be turned to your own advantage – if you stay positive and look for new opportunities.
1. Do Things You’ve Been Always Putting off
When your close friends start getting into relationships, it usually means that you are going to spend less time with them. But instead of moping and feeling left out, why not use this time to change your life for the better? There are dozens of things we put off because we just can’t get around to doing them – and now, when you have more free time on your hands is a perfect opportunity to check them off your list.
Get your car maintenance done. Visit a doctor. Sign up for a gym. Learn something new. Write a will. OK, not a happy thought, but you should at least know how to make a fully legal will online if you are going to leave everything to that cat of yours.
2. Embrace Your Single Status
There may be a ton of reasons why you are single. You’ve probably just never met the right person or your life is full enough without it. It could also be that you simply are not wired for this relationship thing.
However, we live in the culture of coupling, and when all your friends start getting into relationships, they often perceive it as a good enough reason to look patronizingly at their single friends, suggesting that you should find someone and, worse still, set up dates for you.
But if you are happy staying single, stay single – don’t get into a relationship just to be like all your friends. Best relationships are not the ones you are actively looking for, but the ones that just happen.
3. Make New Friends
When friends start dating someone new and spend more and more time with them, it is an excellent chance to change and expand your circle of acquaintances. Of course, people are unique and a new friend will never substitute an old one; but there are hundreds of fascinating people around that may enrich your life in ways you have no idea so far. As we go forward with our lives, our interests, habits and we themselves change. Perhaps it is time to find some new friends, too, that will better reflect your own nature?
4. Do Something Big
Getting into a long-term relationship is a serious thing; perhaps you should make some drastic changes in your life as well? The best thing to do it is to do something really big, something you have never done before, something that will send your life in a completely new and hitherto unexplored direction. A business of your own, perhaps?
Fortunately, we live in the Internet age, which means that you don’t need a great deal of capital to start a business. A standalone blog, a commercial website are the most obvious examples – the more affordable web hosts like Siteground can cost as little as $4 per month – you will need nothing but your own time and enthusiasm to keep you going. And, by the way, it is an excellent way to find new friends, acquaintances and interests.
5. Explore Yourself
Friends getting into relationships and spending less time with you may serve as an excellent motivation to try and find what you really want in this life. Perhaps it is time to try out a new hobby? Or learn a foreign language? Take a trip somewhere far away? Take up jogging? Possibilities are endless.
Don’t get depressed about being the last single in your old circle of friends – being single can be empowering, stimulating and liberating – if you so choose.
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