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5 Things Singles Should Do When Their Friends Get Into Relationships

5 Things Singles Should Do When Their Friends Get Into Relationships

We all know how it is: you are best friends with someone, and then they suddenly get into what they call a serious relationship and go AWOL. It may be annoying, it may be depressing; but just like with pretty much anything else, this situation can be turned to your own advantage – if you stay positive and look for new opportunities.

1. Do Things You’ve Been Always Putting off

When your close friends start getting into relationships, it usually means that you are going to spend less time with them. But instead of moping and feeling left out, why not use this time to change your life for the better? There are dozens of things we put off because we just can’t get around to doing them – and now, when you have more free time on your hands is a perfect opportunity to check them off your list.

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Get your car maintenance done. Visit a doctor. Sign up for a gym. Learn something new. Write a will. OK, not a happy thought, but you should at least know how to make a fully legal will online if you are going to leave everything to that cat of yours.

2. Embrace Your Single Status

There may be a ton of reasons why you are single. You’ve probably just never met the right person or your life is full enough without it. It could also be that you simply are not wired for this relationship thing.

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However, we live in the culture of coupling, and when all your friends start getting into relationships, they often perceive it as a good enough reason to look patronizingly at their single friends, suggesting that you should find someone and, worse still, set up dates for you.

But if you are happy staying single, stay single – don’t get into a relationship just to be like all your friends. Best relationships are not the ones you are actively looking for, but the ones that just happen.

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3. Make New Friends

When friends start dating someone new and spend more and more time with them, it is an excellent chance to change and expand your circle of acquaintances. Of course, people are unique and a new friend will never substitute an old one; but there are hundreds of fascinating people around that may enrich your life in ways you have no idea so far. As we go forward with our lives, our interests, habits and we themselves change. Perhaps it is time to find some new friends, too, that will better reflect your own nature?

4. Do Something Big

Getting into a long-term relationship is a serious thing; perhaps you should make some drastic changes in your life as well? The best thing to do it is to do something really big, something you have never done before, something that will send your life in a completely new and hitherto unexplored direction. A business of your own, perhaps?

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Fortunately, we live in the Internet age, which means that you don’t need a great deal of capital to start a business. A standalone blog, a commercial website are the most obvious examples – the more affordable web hosts like Siteground can cost as little as $4 per month – you will need nothing but your own time and enthusiasm to keep you going. And, by the way, it is an excellent way to find new friends, acquaintances and interests.

5. Explore Yourself

Friends getting into relationships and spending less time with you may serve as an excellent motivation to try and find what you really want in this life. Perhaps it is time to try out a new hobby? Or learn a foreign language? Take a trip somewhere far away? Take up jogging? Possibilities are endless.

Don’t get depressed about being the last single in your old circle of friends – being single can be empowering, stimulating and liberating – if you so choose.

Featured photo credit: relationships are complicated/hojusaram via flickr.com

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Last Updated on February 13, 2019

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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    One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

    6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

    People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

    7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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      This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

      8. Happy people are passionate.

      Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

      9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

      Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

      10. Happy people live in the present.

      While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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      There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

      So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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