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5 Steps That Will Squash Your Negative Thoughts

5 Steps That Will Squash Your Negative Thoughts

We have all experienced a constant flow of negative thoughts flooding our minds and corrupting our brains at some time or another. In those moments, we just want to leave everything behind and run as far away as possible. We keep looking for that one place, that one support, that can calm us down. So here are five steps that will help get rid of this flood of negative thoughts:

Realize your own thoughts are the culprit

The foremost essential point is to realize that it is your own thought activity that is the real culprit. In that moment when we are awash with negative thoughts, our mind is not under our control and thus we fail to think sensibly. We start blaming everyone and everything around us, and neglect the fact that we need to work upon our own mind. It is our own thought process that needs to be altered and not the people in our surroundings. Realizing this fact is the first step to get you on track to crush your negative thoughts.

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Move out of the company that triggers negative thoughts

We humans do not have total control of our own selves. We tend to come under the influence of negative thinking and ideas very easily. Hence, the best thing we can do is avoid negative company and negative situations. Understand that this doesn’t mean completely cutting ourselves off from our friends or relatives. All you need to do is to keep some distance when you feel this company is influencing your mindset in a negative way, returning to it when you feel stronger, or only keeping it in small doses.

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Keep the company that thinks positively

There must be people around you who know you well and who know how to look at the positive aspects of life. These are the people who will help you direct your attention towards the brighter side and refrain from thinking about the darker part. This is not running away from the darker part, rather it is a way to gain the strength to crush negative thoughts or convert them into bright ones. Open up your heart completely to these people and they will show you the true path to working upon yourself. All that is required from you is to believe in them and the path that they embrace and follow.

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Try and become one with nature

Nature is pure and it retains the power to freshen you up completely. When you find yourself getting drowned in the current of negative thoughts and wanting to run away from everything, then do run away — and walk into the arms of nature! Go out for a stroll in open air and see how beautiful life is if we simply bend our thought processes in the right direction. Once you start feeling better, ponder upon the positive aspects of life and help yourself maintain that healthy attitude.

Keep motivating yourself every now and then

Not just during the current bout of negative thoughts, but in every instance and at every moment, tell yourself that you are stronger than your negative thoughts: that no such thoughts can influence you or bring you down; that your values and your ideals are strong enough to stand up against the negative current; that you want to see yourself happy and hence you will do anything to maintain that positive inner state.

By following these steps, you can help yourself become stronger and mightier than your negative thinking, and stand up against any such force bravely and eventually gain greater self-control.

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Last Updated on June 26, 2019

7 Ways to Make Life Changing Decisions

7 Ways to Make Life Changing Decisions

Most people don’t know the profound effects of making life decisions. Often times, we go through life oblivious to what thoughts we are thinking and what actions we are taking. Every single decision we make in our days shapes our current reality. It shapes who we are as a person because we habitually follow through with the decisions we make without even realizing it.

If you’re unhappy with the results in your life right now, making the effort to changing your decisions starting today will be the key to creating the person you want to be and the life you want to have in the future.

Let’s talk about the 7 ways you can go about making life changing decisions.

1. Realize the Power of Decision Making

Before you start making a decision, you have to understand what a decision does.

Any decision that you make causes a chain of events to happen. When you decide to pick up a cigarette to smoke it, that decision might result in you picking up another one later on to get that same high feeling. After a day, you may have gone through a pack without knowing it. But if you decide not to smoke that first cigarette and make a decision every five minutes to focus your attention somewhere else when you get that craving, after doing this for a week, your cravings will eventually subside and you will become smoke-free.

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But it comes down to making that very first decision of deciding whether or not to pick up that cigarette.

2. Go with Your Gut

Often times, we take too much time to make a decision because we’re afraid of what’s going to happen. As a result of this, we go through things like careful planning, deep analysis, and pros and cons before deciding. This is a very time consuming process.

Instead, learn to trust your gut instinct. For the most part, your first instinct is usually the one that is correct or the one that you truly wanted to go with.

Even if you end up making a mistake, going with your gut still makes you a more confident decision maker compared to someone who takes all day to decide.

3. Carry Your Decision Out

When you make a decision, act on it. Commit to making a real decision.

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What’s a real decision? It’s when you decide on something, and that decision is carried out through action. It’s pointless to make a decision and have it played out in your head, but not doing anything about it. That’s the same as not making a decision at all.

If you want to make real changes in life, you have to make it a habit to apply action with your decision until it’s completed. By going through this so many times, you will feel more confident with accomplishing the next decision that you have in mind.

4. Tell Others About Your Decisions

There’s something about telling other people what we’re going to do that makes us follow through.

For example, for the longest time, I’ve been trying to become an early riser. Whenever I tried to use my own willpower, waking up early without falling back asleep felt impossible. So what I did was I went to a forum and made the decision to tell people that I would wake up at 6 AM and stay up. Within two days, I was able to accomplish doing this because I felt a moral obligation to follow through with my words even though I failed the first time.

Did people care? Probably not, but just the fact that there might be someone else out there seeing if you’re telling the truth will give you enough motivation to following through with your decision.

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5. Learn from Your past Decisions

Even after I failed to follow through my decision the first time when I told people I was going to wake up early and stay up, I didn’t give up. I basically asked myself, “What can I do this time to make it work tomorrow?”

The truth is, you are going to mess up at times when it comes to making decisions. Instead of beating yourself up over it, learn something from it.

Ask yourself, what was good about the decision I made? What was bad about it? What can I learn from it so I can make a better decision next time?

Remember, don’t put so much emphasis focusing on short term effects; instead focus on the long term effects.

6. Maintain a Flexible Approach

I know this might sound counter-intuitive, but making a decision doesn’t mean that you can’t be open to other options.

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For example, let’s say you made the decision to lose ten pounds by next month through cardio. If something comes up, you don’t have to just do cardio. You can be open to losing weight through different methods of dieting as long as it helps you reach your goal in the end.

Don’t be stubborn to seek out only one way of making a decision. Embrace any new knowledge that brings you closer to accomplishing your initial decision.

7. Have Fun Making Decisions

Finally, enjoy the process. I know decision-making might not be the most fun thing world to do, but when you do it often, it becomes a game of opportunity.

You’ll learn a lot about yourself on the way, you’ll feel and become a lot more confident when you’re with yourself and around others, and making decisions will just become a lot easier after you do it so often that you won’t even think about it.

Anything you decide to do from this point on can have a profound effect later on. Opportunities are always waiting for you. Examine the decisions that you currently have in the day.

Are there any that can be changed to improve your life in some way? Are there any decisions that you can make today that can create a better tomorrow?

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