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5 Expert Tips To Help You Master 90% Of Your Body Language

5 Expert Tips To Help You Master 90% Of Your Body Language

I am pretty sure you have already heard the typical expression – almost 93% of our communication is non-verbal. That what you say doesn’t really matter. That what others perceive is actually defined by a combination of our body language, tonality and eye contact, rather than the actual words we use.

When I first heard this idea it blew my mind. I was always trying to focus on what to say and how to make it sound as fancy as possible, but in reality it was not that important. This applies to every human interaction ranging from talking in business meetings and giving presentations, to having a laugh with friends or trying to seduce a girl you like.

It is common knowledge that people who use their body language effectively come across as more:

  • Powerful
  • Dominant
  • Trustful
  • Superior
  • Attractive

And these are only some of the few traits of people who know how to use their body language.

Despite its importance, the great majority of the population neglects non-verbal communication. And the main reason behind this is that it takes much time and effort to master the science of body language. Luckily enough for you, I have been around body language experts my whole life and I am proud to present the five most significant tips they have given to me in order to master almost 90% of your body language.

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Tip #1 – Walk like a leader

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    If you get the chance to examine world leaders, you will find out at most of their meetings and social appearances, they tend to follow a similar pattern.

    • They take big steps. Big steps are a sign of strength and leadership whereas small steps usually convey weakness.
    • They keep a straight posture. A straight posture communicates confidence and superiority and people usually feel protected when they are around you.
    • They never look down. Looking down as you walk is a sign of insecurity and most people lose trust in your abilities if you don’t keep a strong straight look while you walk.

    Walking like a leader unconsciously puts you in a position of one. Others around you feel this shift in your identity and you become more respected, more trustful and more attractive.

    Tip #2 – Find your seductive face

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      Yes you know what I am talking about. That look you take whenever you look at yourself in the mirror and no one is around. A great majority of the people I know, agree this is their most attractive look but because of insecurity they fail to adopt it on a regular basis.

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      Most of the greatest body language experts I know have told me they have trained themselves to adopt this look. Every time they were looking at themselves in the mirror, they were trying to find their seductive face. After that they would take a virtual image of it and they would try to make this image an integral part of their face.

      They were consistent and conscious about it and they managed to make their seductive face their competitive advantage.

      Tip #3 – Eliminate micro-expressions

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        Micro-expressions can be quite confusing. Experts reveal micro-expressions can betray your intentions and even destroy your image in a fraction of a second. They argue that the best way to eliminate them is to keep a stable, rock-solid face whenever you talk. In order to achieve this, they propose an exercise with a mirror again. The exercise goes like this:

        Look at yourself in the mirror but this time start talking. Now, while you talk, focus on weird micro-expressions your face adopts while saying specific words or going through a specific emotional state. Now say the same words or sentence again, while trying to keep a rock-solid, stable, face. If you do this exercise for 15 minutes a day you will be able to reduce micro-expressions within a week.

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        Tip #4 – Talk with a deeper voice

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          A deep voice is one of the most powerful attributes of an alpha male. It is an indicator of dominant masculine polarity and a major attraction switch.

          A deep voice might be something difficult to master. Mainly because in the beginning – especially if you have a high-pitched voice – changing your voice can make you sound like Tony Robbins. However the truth is that it actually works.

          You will start getting compliments from girls and people will start paying a lot more attention to what you say. Again, the secret to mastering a deep voice is to be conscious about it. Pay deep attention to it every time you are in a conversation with somebody. Deepen your tonality whenever you feel it sounds weak.

          Tip #5 – Maintain eye contact

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            In order to improve your eye contact and make yourself comfortable with that, you need to challenge yourself. You need to keep strong eye contact with every single person you may be conversing with. Even if it is Kate Upton!

            Start with your friends so it is easy and continue with strangers. But you need to be conscious about it. It is not as difficult and as awkward as you may think. After a small period of time, you will get used to it and you will become unconsciously good at it.

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            12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

            12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

            Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

            While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

            What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

            Here are 12 things to remember:

            1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

            The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

            However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

            We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

            Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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            2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

            You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

            Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

            Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

            3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

            Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

            Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

            4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

            Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

            No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

            5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

            Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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            Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

            6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

            Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

            Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

            Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

            7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

            Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

            Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

            And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

            8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

            When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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            Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

            9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

            Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

            Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

            Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

            10. Journal During This Time

            Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

            This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

            11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

            It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

            The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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            Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

            12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

            The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

            Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

            When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

            Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

            Final Thoughts

            Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

            Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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