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5 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

5 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

Confidence is something everyone struggles with. Even if people appear to be confident, there are always aspects of themselves they don’t necessarily love that affect their confidence.

Confidence guides you through life and helps you get to where you want to be. The question is, how do you achieve confidence and maintain it so it can be useful to you? Here are five ways to boost that confidence in yourself:

1. Fake it ’til you make it

Despite what you may think, many confident people who appear to be extremely self-reliant have insecurities that break their confidence down. The trick to emitting a confident vibe is simple: fake it.

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Pretend that your self-confidence level is far above what it really is and soon it will get there without you realizing it. People around you will also notice a difference, which will further boost your confidence. Before you walk into a room, remind yourself to ‘put on your confidence.’

Faking it actually helps you become innately confident without you realizing it. This habitual reminder will become ingrained in your personality and your confidence will grow.

2. Monitor your body positions

It’s easy to let your body fall into positions that you feel comfortable in. To bring out your confident side, be aware of the positions you stand in. Science has shown that a person’s stance has a lot to do with how confident they feel and how confident people perceive them to be.

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A scientific study showed that if a person stands in ‘Superman Pose,’ where they place their hands on their hips and put their shoulders back, they are more likely to be confident and perform better during interviews and other tasks.

Stand upright in this position for five minutes before any situation that demands confidence and you’ll notice a difference.

3. Change your focus

Many people struggle with low self-confidence because the negative thoughts in their heads tend to be a lot louder than the positive ones. When you are about to go into a situation that requires you to be confident, try and brush any thoughts that revolve around things going wrong or you messing up.

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Focus on your thoughts that tell you how great you would be at the task and how happy you will be when things go right. It will unknowingly bring out your confidence.

4. Don’t compare yourself to other people

You have heard it a million times from every authority figure in your life – stop comparing yourself to others. It’s important for you to understand that everyone is different. Knowing this will help you be happy with yourself regardless of what everyone around you is doing.

When you find this happiness within yourself, your confidence will radiate from within. People who tend to compare themselves with other people fall into a cycle of self-depreciation which is incredibly toxic to your confidence.

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Remind yourself that everyone has their own path and you are exactly where you are supposed to be, and you’ll find yourself being more confident than you were before.

5. Connect with everything around you

People who have a low self-confidence are usually stuck in their own mind, battling negative thoughts or thoughts about people around them thinking negatively. Instead of approaching a situation with these thoughts, focus on people and things around you.

When you engage in conversations, shift your attention to what the person is saying and immerse yourself in it. Soon, you will find that you were so involved in your conversation, you didn’t have time to think any of the negative thoughts that were previously clouding your mind.

This will help bring out your confidence and train your brain to push away negative thoughts for further situations that require your confidence.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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