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5 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

5 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

Building confidence takes time and patience. There is no quick-fix or magical solution to becoming a more self-assured version of yourself besides putting in the time to improve yourself slowly, but surely. Here are some solutions that are guaranteed to boost your confidence in the long run.

1. Program yourself to always think positively

We all have negative voices insides our head, telling us that we do not have the abilities to do something. The good news is that we can change these voices to only say positive things instead. Start out slowly and push yourself to think of three good things about yourself in the bathroom mirror every morning. As you get into a routine, your brain will be programmed to think first of these affirmations and any negative thoughts will begin to recede into the back of your mind. If at first you do not feel progress, make sure to continue on, because practice makes perfect.

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2. Be realistic with what you can change

Take the time to look within yourself and assess what is possible to change and what is out of reach. It is important to focus on changing the things you have control over, because this is where you will see the most self-improvement. Make a list of three things that you would like to improve on and then under each item write a few bullet points on how you will go about making this change. Writing it out is crucial because then you will be better able to  visualize if this is an achievable task for yourself or not.

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3. Focus on the small steps for signs of improvement

Make sure to focus on smaller victories and not use the larger picture as a way to measure your improvement. It is often harder for individuals to see their own self improvement when they are looking at the long term, but is easier to pinpoint changes when you are focusing on daily accomplishments. Want to become better at speaking up for yourself? Start small and have a daily goal of one instance where you practice defending yourself. Maybe it is being honest at work and turning down an extra project that you often feel obligated to assist with. Maybe it is asking for help at home from your spouse with chores. Whatever it is makes sure you follow through and then acknowledge your achievements by making a list and posting it somewhere easily in view, because small steps always add up in the end.

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4. Stop comparing yourself to others

One of the most common pitfalls that humans are guilty of is comparing themselves with each other, when realistically everyone is so different that it does not make much sense at all. Social media does not help, with hundreds of opportunities throughout the day to see friends with literally picture-perfect lives. It is important to remember that what appears on the surface is not always what is reality. If you feel like you are constantly overwhelmed by trying to keep up with others, make a marked effort to limit your usage of social media for awhile to once a day for 5-10 minutes. You will be surprised with all the free time you have to do other things and best of all you will have a clear, more confident self.

5. Focus on improving your body language

Practice being aware of how you hold yourself during the day. Are there specific instances where you intentionally try to make yourself smaller? In these moments force yourself to do the opposite and hold your head up high. Training your body to do the opposite is important because you will eventually get into the habit of appearing more self-assured automatically. Stand in front of a mirror and practice improving your posture. Another trick to give you confidence through body language is doing the superwomen stance in private, where you separate you legs to be shoulder-width apart and put your hands firmly on your hips. This has been proven to instantly give you courage to face anything that might intimidate you.

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Last Updated on August 15, 2018

When You Start to Enjoy Being Single, These 12 Things Will Happen

When You Start to Enjoy Being Single, These 12 Things Will Happen

Being single can make you weary, especially if you didn't initiate a breakup, it could be easy to get carried away with reminiscing and what-if scenarios. Staying caught up in the past is toxic to your growth, however, and interferes with your ability to move forward. Single life can be self-actualizing and enjoyable, but you need to embrace it first. No matter where you are on your journey in coming to terms with being single, the following 12 fantastic things will happen when you accept it.

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1. You will be more focused.

    Once you start to treasure your new-found freedom, you will realize that taking time for yourself will show you what is most important in your life. Enjoying your single time will make what you want clearer and reveal which areas of your life you should build upon. Additionally, studies show that experiencing something alone results in our brain forming a more clear and longer lasting memory.

    2. You will be more active.

      Studies show that unmarried people are also more fit than their hitched counterparts. Let yourself welcome being single, and use this time to your benefit. You'll be more confident and in control when you do meet someone special.

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      3. You will be more likely to have high goals.

        Being single means you can't settle. In case someone who captures your heart comes along, you need to be at the top of your game. By embracing your time being single, you will be more able to pursue your goals and work towards a more complete, fulfilling future.

        4. You will be more creative.

          Spending time alone is also linked to an increase in creative thinking. Spending more time alone will force you to be a deeper thinker, and could lead you to solutions and projects you wouldn't have thought of otherwise.

          5. Your schedule will be your own.

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            Once you get past feeling lonely and realize how wonderful being single is, you will become aware of one of the best perks – your schedule is now completely your own. No longer do you need to have nights out approved, nor will long days at work get interrupted. Relax into loving your single life because nothing is quite as liberating as deciding every moment of your weekly schedule.

            6. You will likely save money.

              Dating is a great way to wave goodbye to all your hard earned cash. When you're with someone, there's nothing more important than impressing them, including your income. However, when the relationship fizzles, you realize how this tactic doesn't pay off. Not only are we more prone to spending when dating, married couples are more likely to have credit card debt than unmarried singles. So don't get depressed when you're eating cheap meals alone – it's really a form of investing in your future!

              7. You won't need to compromise on entertainment.

                Particularly if your significant other tends to have different tastes than you, being single can be a blessing. As soon as you can appreciate being single, you will realize how freeing it is to always watch exactly what you want. There is no longer any need to skimp on your favorite movies, plays, or TV shows that others don't appreciate.

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                8. You will have more time for your family.

                  Another thing you will realize once you learn to relish being single is you now have much more time for family. Especially when it comes to older relatives, time spent with them truly is precious. Make the most of your single time by reconnecting with family members in your life you may have been neglecting.

                  9. You have more time for your friends.

                    Once you start basking in your single glory, you will also find that you have more time for your friends. Not only will increased free time let you reconnect with friends you may have neglected while being half of a couple, studies also show that married people have much weaker social lives than those who are unmarried.

                    10. You will find new haunts in your city.

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                      Once you start to enjoy your single life again you will also find that you have plenty of time to rediscover your city. Where relationships see us fall into the same habit of favorite spots to drink, eat, or dance, when you're on your own you will naturally start to explore fresh venues again.

                      11. You'll find more interests.

                        Similarly, enjoying your time being single will give you more time to consider new hobbies and interests. Instead of repeating the same go-to dates, you can now freely explore activities that really make you passionate.

                        12. You will be more aware of what you want.

                          Ultimately, taking time to ourselves is an important ingredient in discovering what type of person is our ideal match, or what career we can happily commit to. By delighting in your uninhibited life, you are more able to experiment and thereby find out what works for you and what doesn't. Don't look at being single as a drawback, since learning more about yourself and finding out what makes you tick are crucial in forming balanced, healthy relationships in the future.

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