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5 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

5 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

Building confidence takes time and patience. There is no quick-fix or magical solution to becoming a more self-assured version of yourself besides putting in the time to improve yourself slowly, but surely. Here are some solutions that are guaranteed to boost your confidence in the long run.

1. Program yourself to always think positively

We all have negative voices insides our head, telling us that we do not have the abilities to do something. The good news is that we can change these voices to only say positive things instead. Start out slowly and push yourself to think of three good things about yourself in the bathroom mirror every morning. As you get into a routine, your brain will be programmed to think first of these affirmations and any negative thoughts will begin to recede into the back of your mind. If at first you do not feel progress, make sure to continue on, because practice makes perfect.

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2. Be realistic with what you can change

Take the time to look within yourself and assess what is possible to change and what is out of reach. It is important to focus on changing the things you have control over, because this is where you will see the most self-improvement. Make a list of three things that you would like to improve on and then under each item write a few bullet points on how you will go about making this change. Writing it out is crucial because then you will be better able to  visualize if this is an achievable task for yourself or not.

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3. Focus on the small steps for signs of improvement

Make sure to focus on smaller victories and not use the larger picture as a way to measure your improvement. It is often harder for individuals to see their own self improvement when they are looking at the long term, but is easier to pinpoint changes when you are focusing on daily accomplishments. Want to become better at speaking up for yourself? Start small and have a daily goal of one instance where you practice defending yourself. Maybe it is being honest at work and turning down an extra project that you often feel obligated to assist with. Maybe it is asking for help at home from your spouse with chores. Whatever it is makes sure you follow through and then acknowledge your achievements by making a list and posting it somewhere easily in view, because small steps always add up in the end.

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4. Stop comparing yourself to others

One of the most common pitfalls that humans are guilty of is comparing themselves with each other, when realistically everyone is so different that it does not make much sense at all. Social media does not help, with hundreds of opportunities throughout the day to see friends with literally picture-perfect lives. It is important to remember that what appears on the surface is not always what is reality. If you feel like you are constantly overwhelmed by trying to keep up with others, make a marked effort to limit your usage of social media for awhile to once a day for 5-10 minutes. You will be surprised with all the free time you have to do other things and best of all you will have a clear, more confident self.

5. Focus on improving your body language

Practice being aware of how you hold yourself during the day. Are there specific instances where you intentionally try to make yourself smaller? In these moments force yourself to do the opposite and hold your head up high. Training your body to do the opposite is important because you will eventually get into the habit of appearing more self-assured automatically. Stand in front of a mirror and practice improving your posture. Another trick to give you confidence through body language is doing the superwomen stance in private, where you separate you legs to be shoulder-width apart and put your hands firmly on your hips. This has been proven to instantly give you courage to face anything that might intimidate you.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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