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32 Things You’ll Miss Out If You’re Not In A Relationship

32 Things You’ll Miss Out If You’re Not In A Relationship

If you are in a relationship or had a relationship before, then you know the sparkles your partner could bring to your life. Kelly Erickson, the owner of VisionPoints The (Small Business!) Experience Designers, shared with us why having a partner makes you happier in life on Quora. What you’ll miss out if you don’t have a girlfriend (or a boyfriend)?

Depends entirely on the girlfriend. Some things you might be missing out on:

  1. Soft smells from her hair, her skin, her extra set of clothes that she leaves in your closet.
  2. Hugs, peekaboo-guess-who, kisses on the back of your neck when you’re hard at work and forgot about the world around you for too long.
  3. Good cooking, or maybe good-morning coffee, or good takeout.
  4. Inspiration, shared jokes, mind-bending middle-of-the-night discussions.
  5. A buddy who’ll hand you a tissue during the sad parts of your favorite movies… you know when Bruce Willis died in that one, you got all choked up, didn’t you?
  6. An enthusiastic fan of your career, your writing, your sense of humor, your (terrible) saxophone playing, your pickup games of basketball on Saturday mornings.
  7. A convert to your football team… at least on the weeks when her favorite team isn’t playing yours.
  8. New music you didn’t know about.
  9. Someone to tell about that new song you just heard… even if it’s kind of cheesy she’ll probably give it a try.
  10. Stories of her life before you.
  11. Someone to brag to, who loves listening to you brag.
  12. Whispered sweet nothings.
  13. A helper when you need a hand.
  14. Someone to help—who shows her appreciation in wild and wonderful ways, like cake when it’s not your birthday.
  15. Tons of new experiences, new places to go, new foods to try, new friends to learn about, new authors and artists to consider, new lingerie to appreciate.
  16. Someone to grow into and grow comfortable with.
  17. Someone to tell secrets to… good ones and bad ones… without judgement.
  18. Tickling.
  19. Teasing.
  20. Phone calls when your boss isn’t within earshot.
  21. Texts when your boss isn’t looking.
  22. A hand to hold, and arms to hold you, when times are tough and you’re not sure you can support your own weight any more.
  23. A perspective very different from your own, but meltingly familiar.
  24. Butterflies in your stomach.
  25. The gentle jealousy of being in a secure relationship with someone who’s a “catch” in your eyes—yet your eyes are the only ones that count to her.
  26. Massages.
  27. Caressing.
  28. French kisses.
  29. Spooning.
  30. Someone to be insanely, animalistically, proud of at all times.
  31. Someone to be insanely, animalistically, protective of at all times.
  32. Someone to be insane and animalistic with. At any time.

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Anna is a communication expert and a life enthusiast. She's the editor of Lifehack and loves to write about love, life, and passion.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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