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3 Ways To Love And Accept Your Body Unconditionally

3 Ways To Love And Accept Your Body Unconditionally

A lot of us struggle with self acceptance and loving our body for what it is. Read this article, think about what it says & follow these simple steps to finally accept your body unconditionally.

Conditioning

Conditioning is a behavioral process whereby a response to a stimulus becomes more frequent as a result of continuing reinforcement. It was established on the assumption that human behaviour is learned. This means you can teach yourself self-love through constant positive reinforcement. Stimuli can and will vary from person to person. It can be as simple as painting your nails, going for a walk, doing your hair, anything that makes you feel good about yourself. Find a variation of things you can do that have this affect so you’re not doing the same thing day-in-day-out.

Change things up, relax and establish a positive stimuli and reinforce it daily if you have to or just when you need to. By associating certain activities with feeling good about yourself you can teach yourself to recognise them as positive stimuli and learning that such behaviour will have a positive impact on your thoughts and how you feel about yourself.

Try it and see what a difference it’ll make to you and your perspective of yourself.

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Positive Thinking

Positive thinking is a mental and emotional attitude that focuses on the good things in life and expects the best outcome as opposed to always expecting the worst.

Similar to conditioning positive thinking done on regular basis can make you believe in the positives rather than focusing on the negatives in life.

As complex as the mind is you can train it to look at life through a new perspective. All it takes is a bit of willpower and some positive thinking on your side.

So where to start? You’re not going to wake up tomorrow and have a new perspective just because you want one. Like all good things worth having, it’ll take a bit of time. Start off by waking up each day and thinking, “today is going to be a good day”, think of a few things you like about yourself and then smile. A simple smile can elevate your mood and reduce stress, not to mention you probably look a lot nicer when you smile and who knows, you might brighten up someone else’s day.

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When you’re ready to go, rather than focusing on the things that you don’t like, for example if your hair didn’t go the way you wanted it to, focus on something that you do like. This could be your outfit, your nails or even your perfume/aftershave. No one else will know what your hair was meant to look like so just walk outside, stand tall and act as if you’ve intentionally done your hair that way, no one else will know what it was meant to look like.

At the end of each day think of all the good things that happened and all your accomplishments for that day. No matter how small they are, take pride in them and be happy. Go to bed happy and wake up with that positive attitude, you’ll be surprised how much of an effect this positive thinking will have on yourself and your entire day.

Embrace Your Uniqueness

The only thing everyone has in common is that we’re all unique. And there’s a reason for it.

We always get told to embrace who we are, to just be ourselves, don’t try to be someone else or copy someone because it’s what we think we’re meant to do. But why? What’s so great about being you? How can you be happy by just being you?

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Maybe it’s because the things that make you unique are the things that make you stand out from a crowd. You won’t stand out in a crowd if you’re too busy trying to be like everyone else.

Your life and your experiences; your emotions; how you see the world; everything you’ve ever felt; done; seen; smelled; touched and heard make up who you are. No one thinks like you, acts like you or even dreams like you. No one knows what it’s like to be you, so why not just be you?

We get jealous of others who embrace their uniqueness but instead of embracing our own and being empowered by it, we try and copy who they are. Copying others is like having a defeatist attitude and not knowing it. You won’t really ever succeed or be genuinely happy by trying to be someone else for one reason. Your happiness is dependent on someone else, not you.

So why not be happy with who you are? Identify the things you like about yourself and let them shine throughout every day. It’s alright not to love every aspect about yourself but by accepting who you are is a major step towards a happier you. If you want to lose weight, don’t hate yourself because of it, accept where you are and love yourself enough to make a change.

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Hating your body will never get you as far as loving it will. It hasn’t worked for you in the past so why not see where loving it will get you?

Embracing your uniqueness is knowing who you are, working with what you’ve got, owning it and standing tall. It’s not about being inferior or superior to anyone else, it’s about being yourself and being happy about it.

 

Think to yourself at the end of each day; “Why not be yourself? – Everyone else is taken.”

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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