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3 Signs You Are in the Wrong Job and What to Do About It (without Quitting)

3 Signs You Are in the Wrong Job and What to Do About It (without Quitting)


    What if you are in the wrong job and are too caught up in the rat race of every day life to even take notice?

    Maybe you believe that “all jobs everywhere” mean nothing more than a life of drudgery. Or maybe you ignore the signs that make you wonder why you do what you do. After all, you have responsibilities, you have commitments, and you need the income, so what if you cannot stand your job?

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    Well, you have convinced yourself to put up with it because quitting is not an option!

    While quitting may not be an option, you do have other options. There are many shades of grey and you can do things to make the current situation better. You can find out even the wrong job can become more tolerable and pleasant when you take some action!

    Let’s take a look at 3 signs you are in the wrong job and what you can do about it without quitting

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    1. You Actively Seek Distractions at Work

    If you constantly look for distractions at work and would rather spend your time that way than get any meaningful work done, you are in the wrong job. When your work is not important to you — especially when no one is watching you — you tend not to pay attention to it.

    Now what can you do about it without walking away? Focus on your current job responsibilities. Why are you not interested in them? You may not be challenged enough, you may not be learning anything new, or you may be ready for a new project and a change. Gather your thoughts, do some research on projects and programs in your team and find at least 3 new exciting areas where you can contribute. Then schedule a time with your boss to suggest how you can improve your productivity and contribution to the company by jumping on something new. Share your research and ask if she can readjust your current tasks.

    2. You Have Zero Interest in Engaging with Your Team

    Team dynamics are a huge factor and people do not always get along with other people. Maybe it is a personality conflict. Maybe it is the way they treat you. Maybe you have no idea why — but they rub you the wrong way. Whatever the situation may be, first have faith that you can change it. Then decide what kind of team conditions would create a nurturing workplace environment for you.

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    You can then put together a simple proposal plan and talk to your boss about engaging with better people or avoiding engagement with certain people that you consider negative to your productivity. Do it in such a way that you bring the problem to her attention while offering a solution at the same time. Your boss’s job is to keep the peace within the team while keeping everyone productive and happy. You are helping her cause, so take charge of the situation.

    3. You Are Doing it Just for the Money

    Oh, the money.

    Especially the kind of money I made in my 6-figure job that I did at home in my pajamas. Let’s face it: the money is nice and there is nothing wrong with loving the money. But if you only do it for the money, then you are in the wrong job.

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    To remedy this situation, just conduct this simple exercise: ask yourself what is it you would do for the rest of your life for free. Do this as a free-flow writing exercise, and don’t stop until you come up with the answer. That is your passion. That shows you work is more than just the money, and knowing what that passion is can help you build a path in that direction, even as you keep your current job.

    Over to you: Are you a victim of your job circumstances or are you willing to stand up and ask for a few changes to make your job better tomorrow? Let me know in the comments.

    (Photo credit: Girl in Office Crazy with Work via Shutterstock)

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      How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

      How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

      As playwright Wilson Mizner supposedly said all the way back in the 1930s,

      “Be kind to everyone on the way up; you will meet the same people on the way down.”

      The adage is the perfect prototype for relationship building in 2020, although we may want to expand Mizner’s definition of “kind” to include being helpful, respectful, grateful, and above all, crediting your colleagues along the way.

      5 Ways to Switch on Your Relationship Building Magnetism

      Relationship building does not come easily to all. Today’s computer culture makes us more insular and less likely to reach out—not to mention our new work-from-home situation in which we are only able to interact virtually. Still, relationship building remains an important part of career engagement and success, and it gets better with practice.

      Here are five ways you can strengthen your relationships:

      1. Advocate for Other’s Ideas

      Take the initiative to speak up in support of other team members’ good ideas. Doing so lets others know that the team’s success takes precedence over your needs for personal success. Get behind any colleague’s innovative approach or clever solution and offer whatever help you can give to see it through. Teammates will value your vote of confidence and your support.

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      2. Show Compassion

      If you learn that someone whom you work with has encountered difficult times, reach out. If it’s not someone you know well, a hand-written card expressing your sympathy and hopes for better times ahead could be an initial gesture. If it’s someone with whom you interact regularly, the act could involve offering to take on some of the person’s work to provide a needed reprieve or even bringing in a home-cooked dish as a way to offer comfort. The show of compassion will not go unnoticed, and your relationship building will have found a foothold.

      3. Communicate Regularly

      Make an effort to share any information with team members that will help them do their jobs more effectively. Keeping people in the loop says a lot about your consideration for what others need to deliver their best results.

      Try to discover the preferred mode of communication for each team member. Some people are fine relying on emails; others like to have a phone conversation. And once we can finally return to working together in offices, you may determine that face-to-face updates may be most advantageous for some members.

      4. Ask for Feedback

      Showing your willingness to reach out for advice and guidance will make a positive impression on your boss. When you make it clear that you welcome and can accept pointers, you display candor and trust in what opinions your superior has to offer. Your proclivity towards considering ways of improving your performance and strengthening any working interactions will signal your strong relationship skills.

      If you are in a work environment where you are asked to give feedback, be generous and compassionate. That does not mean being wishy-washy. Try always to give the type of feedback that you wouldn’t mind receiving.

      5. Give Credit Where It’s Due

      Be the worker who remembers to credit staffers with their contributions. It’s a surprisingly rare talent to credit others, but when you do so, they will remember to credit you, and the collective credit your team will accrue will be well worth the effort.

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      How Does Relationship Building Build Careers?

      Once you have strengthened and deepened your relationships, here are some of the great benefits:

      Work Doesn’t Feel So Much Like Work

      According to a Gallup poll, when you have a best friend at work, you are more likely to feel engaged with your job. Work is more fun when you have positive, productive relationships with your colleagues. Instead of spending time and energy overcoming difficult personalities, you can spend time enjoying the camaraderie with colleagues as you work congenially on projects together. When your coworkers are your friends, time goes by quickly and challenges don’t weigh as heavily.

      You Can Find Good Help

      It’s easier to ask for assistance when you have a good working relationship with a colleague. And with office tasks changing at the speed of technology, chances are that you are going to need some help acclimating—especially now that work has gone remote due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

      Much of relationship building rests on your genuine expressions of appreciation toward others. Showing gratitude for another’s help or for their willingness to put in the extra effort will let them know you value them.

      Mentors Come Out of the Woodwork

      Mentors are proven to advance your professional and career development. A mentor can help you navigate how to approach your work and keep you apprised of industry trends. They have a plethora of experience to draw from that can be invaluable when advising you on achieving career success and advancement.

      Mentors flock to those who are skilled at relationship building. So, work on your relationships and keep your eyes peeled for a worthy mentor.

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      You Pull Together as a Team

      Great teamwork starts with having an “abundance mentality” rather than a scarcity mentality. Too often, workers view all projects through a scarcity mentality lens. This leads to office strife as coworkers compete for their piece of the pie. But in an abundance mentality mode, you focus on the strengths that others bring rather than the possibility that they are potential competitors.

      Instead, you can commit relationship building efforts to ensure a positive work environment rather than an adversarial one. When you let others know that you intend to support their efforts and contribute to their success, they will respond in kind. Go, team!

      Your Network Expands and So Does Your Paycheck

      Expand your relationship building scope beyond your coworkers to include customers, suppliers, and other industry stakeholders. Your extra efforts can lead to extra sales, a more rewarding career, and even speedy professional advancement. And don’t overlook the importance of building warm relationships with assistants, receptionists, or even interns.

      Take care to build bridges, not just to your boss and your boss’s boss but with those that work under you as well. You may find that someone who you wouldn’t expect will put in a good word for you with your supervisor.

      Building and maintaining good working relationships with everyone you come in contact with can pay off in unforeseen ways. You never know when that underling will turn out to be the company’s “golden child.” Six years from now you may be turning to them for a job. If you have built up a good, trusting work relationship with others along your way, you will more likely be considered for positions that any of these people may be looking to fill.

      Your Job Won’t Stress You Out

      Study shows that some 83 percent of American workers experience work-related stress.[1] Granted, some of that stress is now likely caused by the new pandemic-triggered workplace adjustments, yet bosses and management, in general, are reportedly the predominant source of stress for more than one-third of workers.

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      Having meaningful connections among coworkers is the best way to make work less stressful. Whether it is having others whom to commiserate with, bounce ideas off, or bring out your best performance, friendships strengthen the group’s esprit de corps and lower the stress level of your job.

      Your Career Shines Bright

      Who would you feel better about approaching to provide a recommendation or ask for promotion: a cold, aloof boss with whom you have only an impersonal relationship or one that knows you as a person and with whom you have built a warm, trusting relationship?

      Your career advancement will always excel when you have a mutual bond of friendship and appreciation with those who can recommend you. Consider the plug you could receive from a supervisor who knows you as a friend versus one who remains detached and only notices you in terms of your ability to meet deadlines or attain goals.

      When people fully know your skills, strengths, personality, and aspirations, you have promoters who will sing your praises with any opportunity for advancement.

      Final Thoughts

      At the end of the day, it is “who you know” not “what you know.” When you build relationships, you build a pipeline of colleagues, work partners, team members, current bosses, and former bosses who want to help you—who want to see you succeed.

      At its core, every business is a people business. Making a point to take the small but meaningful actions that build the foundation of a good relationship can be instrumental in cultivating better relationships at work.

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      Reference

      [1] The American Institute of Stress: 42 Worrying Workplace Stress Statistics

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