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3 Signs You Are in the Wrong Job and What to Do About It (without Quitting)

3 Signs You Are in the Wrong Job and What to Do About It (without Quitting)


    What if you are in the wrong job and are too caught up in the rat race of every day life to even take notice?

    Maybe you believe that “all jobs everywhere” mean nothing more than a life of drudgery. Or maybe you ignore the signs that make you wonder why you do what you do. After all, you have responsibilities, you have commitments, and you need the income, so what if you cannot stand your job?

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    Well, you have convinced yourself to put up with it because quitting is not an option!

    While quitting may not be an option, you do have other options. There are many shades of grey and you can do things to make the current situation better. You can find out even the wrong job can become more tolerable and pleasant when you take some action!

    Let’s take a look at 3 signs you are in the wrong job and what you can do about it without quitting

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    1. You Actively Seek Distractions at Work

    If you constantly look for distractions at work and would rather spend your time that way than get any meaningful work done, you are in the wrong job. When your work is not important to you — especially when no one is watching you — you tend not to pay attention to it.

    Now what can you do about it without walking away? Focus on your current job responsibilities. Why are you not interested in them? You may not be challenged enough, you may not be learning anything new, or you may be ready for a new project and a change. Gather your thoughts, do some research on projects and programs in your team and find at least 3 new exciting areas where you can contribute. Then schedule a time with your boss to suggest how you can improve your productivity and contribution to the company by jumping on something new. Share your research and ask if she can readjust your current tasks.

    2. You Have Zero Interest in Engaging with Your Team

    Team dynamics are a huge factor and people do not always get along with other people. Maybe it is a personality conflict. Maybe it is the way they treat you. Maybe you have no idea why — but they rub you the wrong way. Whatever the situation may be, first have faith that you can change it. Then decide what kind of team conditions would create a nurturing workplace environment for you.

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    You can then put together a simple proposal plan and talk to your boss about engaging with better people or avoiding engagement with certain people that you consider negative to your productivity. Do it in such a way that you bring the problem to her attention while offering a solution at the same time. Your boss’s job is to keep the peace within the team while keeping everyone productive and happy. You are helping her cause, so take charge of the situation.

    3. You Are Doing it Just for the Money

    Oh, the money.

    Especially the kind of money I made in my 6-figure job that I did at home in my pajamas. Let’s face it: the money is nice and there is nothing wrong with loving the money. But if you only do it for the money, then you are in the wrong job.

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    To remedy this situation, just conduct this simple exercise: ask yourself what is it you would do for the rest of your life for free. Do this as a free-flow writing exercise, and don’t stop until you come up with the answer. That is your passion. That shows you work is more than just the money, and knowing what that passion is can help you build a path in that direction, even as you keep your current job.

    Over to you: Are you a victim of your job circumstances or are you willing to stand up and ask for a few changes to make your job better tomorrow? Let me know in the comments.

    (Photo credit: Girl in Office Crazy with Work via Shutterstock)

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      Last Updated on October 16, 2019

      5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

      5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

      We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

      They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

      Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

      I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

      Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

      1. Meet More People

      This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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      If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

      And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

      Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

      This is why it’s important to meet more people.

      2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

      A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

      I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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      Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

      3. Express Vulnerability

      Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

      This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

      However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

      Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

      Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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      4. Have Integrity

      Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

      This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

      This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

      Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

      5. Be There for Others

      Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

      Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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      Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

      The Bottom Line

      With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

      And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

      Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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