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26 Things For People in Relationships to Remember (From A To Z)

26 Things For People in Relationships to Remember (From A To Z)

There seems to be an A to Z of everything else, so why not relationships? Here we go…

A is for…Admire

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    Add this to your relationship to feel alive and be amorous and adoring, and let go of anger. Admire each other and yourselves. A little affection goes a long way.

    B is for…Behaviors

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      Both of you need to know what your beliefs about relationships are, about conflict and arguments, about money, honesty, lifestyle, habits—all the things you need to understand about yourself that might be driving your behavior at a deep level. Also, work out who you are and who the other person is. What made them who they are?

      C is for…Communication

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        Have a chat about your communication style. Is it clear? Honest? Do you listen before you speak, or speak more than you listen? What are your feelings about commitment? Do you have confidence in yourself and the other person? How do you handle control? Is it an issue in your relationships? Be there for each other in difficult times, and learn how to communicate together in a way that works for you both.

        D is for…Doubts

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          Every relationship will go through doubts at some point, but you need to learn to be able to discuss them and hopefully work through them. Don’t act instantly on a little doubt when it could be easily resolved.

          E is for…Enthusiasm

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            Look deeply into your relationship: how much energy and excitement do you have? These are important parts of a relationship. How exciting are you and how much excitement do you put into your relationship? How much effort do you make to keep your partner interested in you? Keep your relationship alive and this will help you both feel enthusiastic.

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            F is for…Friendship

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              Friendship keeps relationships lasting longer than lust does. Learn everything about each other, ask lots of questions, and spend time together. Talk about one other’s hopes and fears and deal with them. And have as much fun as possible, as often as you can!

              Friendship can often fly out the window when financial pressures, children, and mortgages take hold of your life, but focus on the positive, fun aspects of your relationship rather than dwelling on the negative.

              G is for…Genorisity

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                Never define yourself by what you own, your money, your status, your income, or your looks—it’s generosity and kindness that give back. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt, and be generous with yourself. Be generous with your spirit and your heart, not just your money. Grow together.

                H is for…Happiness

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                  Remember to be happy! Be honest not only with yourself but with others around you. Give your partner a hug every day; this will help boost your immune system—and theirs. Seeking joy together will help you to feel happier not just in your relationship, but within yourself.

                  I is for…Intimacy

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                    Intimacy is an integral part of a lifelong relationship. Not just physical intimacy, but also emotional intimacy. Make your relationship a safe place for you and the other person to share your innermost secrets with each other. Keep a part of you just for the other person, so they feel special. Keep it interesting,

                    J is for…Joyful

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                      Try and go through your day being joyful about life, even if it’s not as perfect as you would wish it would be. Remember you’re still alive and the sun shines! Do activities together, play sports together, ride bikes together, learn a new hobby together—just make sure you’re doing them together!

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                      K is for…Kindness

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                        Being kind to each other is so important, and remember to be kind to yourself! We usually travel through our days being kind to complete strangers and work colleagues but when we arrive home we turn into monsters! Because now we can “relax” and in the process we forget basic kindness.

                        L is for…Listening

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                          Listen to each other, and really listen! Don’t just wait for a quiet moment to say what you want to say. Ask yourself “What does this person really want from me?” Laugh lots! Lighten up and don’t take yourselves too seriously—life’s too short!

                          M is for…Memories

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                            Moments and memories pass us by each day and we end up forgetting so many of them. Keep a book where you write all the special moments you have spent together. When times get tough, you can open it up and relive those moments; the happiness will make you feel better. And remember: make memories together! Create new experiences and live out your fantasies together.

                            N is for…Non-Verbal Communication

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                              Non-verbal communication is much more powerful than you can possibly imagine. Words account for 7% of the message being delivered to another. Think very carefully before you speak, because remember, the other person is reading into it. You think you are hiding the fact you think they are an idiot or at fault—but you’re not, they can tell!

                              O is for…Optimism

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                                Be optimistic. This makes you a happier person and makes you more fun to be around, boosts the immune system, reduces stress, and generally makes life better. Openness in your communication reduces misunderstandings and conflict. Have other interests outside your normal day-to-day routine.

                                P is for…Politeness

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                                  Politeness can be forgotten about easily once we are in a relationship. We are polite and lovely to strangers and colleagues and then we come home and become horrible. Work together, don’t be too mature all the time—be silly and play games. Work out where your priorities lie—work or home? Prioritize your hobbies and work. Patience will help your relationship travel a long way.

                                  Q is for…Quantity Time

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                                    Don’t just have quality time—have quantity time. Every relationship needs time for just hanging around together. During these times is when the special, unexpected moments occur.

                                    R is for…Respect

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                                      Respect and successful relationships go hand in hand. You have to respect yourself first and then respect your partner. Find certain qualities in each other that you respect, and then remember then when tough times occur. Make an effort to be romantic; it doesn’t just happen automatically. Plan for romantic weekends a couple of times a year.

                                      S is for…Stress

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                                        Stress is one of the major disruptions in relationships, more than we realize. Ask yourself: how do you handle stress? Are you allowing it to build up and kill you and your relationship? Do things to help you relax, daily and weekly. Support each other and stand up for one another in public and in private. Not many people realize how important this little act is for your bond.

                                        T is for…Thoughtful

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                                          Remember to always be thoughtful, do little things for each other, and let the other person know you are thinking about them. Send a quick text to say “I love you”, take out the rubbish without being asked, help them when they are in a predicament. Be true to yourself.

                                          U is for…Unconditional

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                                            Accept each other unconditionally—this is a big life lesson. It is very hard to really love and accept each other unconditionally.

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                                            V is for…Value

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                                              Remember to value each other, and recognize the great things about each other. Be vulnerable with each other—this allows for real intimacy.

                                              W is for…Wise

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                                                Wisdom is something the Dalai Lama suggested we all pursue. While there are things we need to do for others—our partners, parents , children, friends—there are also things we need to do for ourselves.

                                                X is for…X-Rated

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                                                  Bathe yourself in an excess of loving, both sexual and non-sexual. Sex is a very important part of relationships and can keep it exciting as you feel intimate together.

                                                  Y is for…You

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                                                    This is an important one—remember to take some “me time” every now and then. You can’t always be rushing around doing things for your partner. Relax with a book or have a bath—just make sure you do something for YOU.

                                                    Z is for…Zing, Zing, Zing

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                                                      Zing, zing, zing! We all need more of this in our lives and relationships. The zest, the life, the excitement, and all the other points this article has covered.

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                                                      Last Updated on June 13, 2019

                                                      How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                                                      How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                                                      Think you have a boring life?

                                                      The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

                                                      Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

                                                      1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

                                                      What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

                                                      Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

                                                      2. Go Play with Kids

                                                      Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

                                                      They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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                                                      3. Order a Hot Dog

                                                      While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

                                                      4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

                                                      Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

                                                      5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

                                                      You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

                                                      You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

                                                      6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

                                                      Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

                                                      Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

                                                      7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

                                                      Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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                                                      What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

                                                      8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

                                                      You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

                                                      9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

                                                      Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

                                                      10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

                                                      We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

                                                      11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

                                                      It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

                                                      12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

                                                      This will give you something to look forward to.

                                                      Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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                                                      13. People Watch

                                                      Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

                                                      People are infinitely interesting.

                                                      14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

                                                      Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

                                                      15. Dance

                                                      You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

                                                      If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

                                                      16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

                                                      This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

                                                      17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

                                                      Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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                                                      18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

                                                      Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

                                                      19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

                                                      OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

                                                      20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

                                                      This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

                                                      Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

                                                      Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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