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24 Things Only Antisocial People Understand

24 Things Only Antisocial People Understand

1. If you can, you refuse most jobs unless you can work by yourself, in the back, or quietly (like a cook, librarian or from home). The front counter, retail or waiting tables would be pure agony. Not you:

    2. You avoid complaining, giving opinions or advice…even when asked. It leads to conversation.

      3. In turn, you don’t often tell your troubles to others. See reason #2 above.

        4. You find yourself in mental torture weighing the pros and cons of seeing your favorite band live and

        having to deal with…the masses.

          5. You avoid eye contact and/or smiling for too long since it’s an invitation for people to approach you.

            6. Your animals–toys or real–know how social you can be. Am I right?

              7. You find yourself thinking how it’s not that you’re shy, it’s just that…you don’t care for most who speak to you.

                8. In fact, you never admire the loud “alpha” dominating the room. You feel very much the opposite towards them.

                  9. You understand the difference between snobbery and wanting to be left in your thoughts.

                    10. You don’t mind that others consider you snobby, nonetheless.

                      11. You are a-okay with others, including your parents, siblings or friends, hogging the spotlight. You were always better working behind the scenes.

                        12. You lock yourself in your room…sometimes for months.

                          13. Have Hikikomori? After careful research: yup.

                            14. You find yourself wondering in what ways Hikikomori is either “concerning” or a “condition.”

                              15. You fantasize about moving to a country where everyone respects quietude.

                                16. You sometimes even refuse to register on your favorite forum threads even when you could contribute a valuable new perspective.

                                  17. When people look into your eyes, you’re told it’s as if you’re in another world (you prefer the label “ethereal”).

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                                    18. The first time they speak to you, you’re polite. The second time, you’re terse. The third time, you literally stop speaking and avoid them. No hard feelings.

                                      19. You say hello when you pass someone you know. Upon seeing them again, you believe they should recall your initial greeting and ignore you.

                                        20. You find yourself questioning why others have to be so damn loud. Unless there’s a major disaster, nothing warrants it.

                                          21. You’re exhausted after a trip to the mall: you’ve been around too many people for too long and you need to recoup.

                                            22. Dating online comes much more naturally to you…you don’t have to speak and you can always delete.

                                              23. You find yourself questioning why strangers still approach you…despite the disinterested looks, headphones you’re wearing and the very obvious ignores the first couple of times they attempt.

                                                24. You know the difference between “anti-social” (an actual personality disorder for those lacking a conscience) and you: a quiet observer of the world (aka “asocial”).

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                                                  Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

                                                  Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

                                                  What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

                                                  As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

                                                  The Success Mindset

                                                  Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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                                                  The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

                                                  The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

                                                  The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

                                                  How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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                                                  How To Create a Success Mindset

                                                  People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

                                                  1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

                                                  How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

                                                  A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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                                                  There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

                                                  2. Look For The Successes

                                                  It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

                                                  3. Eliminate Negativity

                                                  You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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                                                  When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

                                                  4. Create a Vision

                                                  Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

                                                  If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

                                                  An Inspirational Story…

                                                  For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

                                                  What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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