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24 Things Only Antisocial People Understand

24 Things Only Antisocial People Understand

1. If you can, you refuse most jobs unless you can work by yourself, in the back, or quietly (like a cook, librarian or from home). The front counter, retail or waiting tables would be pure agony. Not you:

    2. You avoid complaining, giving opinions or advice…even when asked. It leads to conversation.

      3. In turn, you don’t often tell your troubles to others. See reason #2 above.

        4. You find yourself in mental torture weighing the pros and cons of seeing your favorite band live and

        having to deal with…the masses.

          5. You avoid eye contact and/or smiling for too long since it’s an invitation for people to approach you.

            6. Your animals–toys or real–know how social you can be. Am I right?

              7. You find yourself thinking how it’s not that you’re shy, it’s just that…you don’t care for most who speak to you.

                8. In fact, you never admire the loud “alpha” dominating the room. You feel very much the opposite towards them.

                  9. You understand the difference between snobbery and wanting to be left in your thoughts.

                    10. You don’t mind that others consider you snobby, nonetheless.

                      11. You are a-okay with others, including your parents, siblings or friends, hogging the spotlight. You were always better working behind the scenes.

                        12. You lock yourself in your room…sometimes for months.

                          13. Have Hikikomori? After careful research: yup.

                            14. You find yourself wondering in what ways Hikikomori is either “concerning” or a “condition.”

                              15. You fantasize about moving to a country where everyone respects quietude.

                                16. You sometimes even refuse to register on your favorite forum threads even when you could contribute a valuable new perspective.

                                  17. When people look into your eyes, you’re told it’s as if you’re in another world (you prefer the label “ethereal”).

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                                    18. The first time they speak to you, you’re polite. The second time, you’re terse. The third time, you literally stop speaking and avoid them. No hard feelings.

                                      19. You say hello when you pass someone you know. Upon seeing them again, you believe they should recall your initial greeting and ignore you.

                                        20. You find yourself questioning why others have to be so damn loud. Unless there’s a major disaster, nothing warrants it.

                                          21. You’re exhausted after a trip to the mall: you’ve been around too many people for too long and you need to recoup.

                                            22. Dating online comes much more naturally to you…you don’t have to speak and you can always delete.

                                              23. You find yourself questioning why strangers still approach you…despite the disinterested looks, headphones you’re wearing and the very obvious ignores the first couple of times they attempt.

                                                24. You know the difference between “anti-social” (an actual personality disorder for those lacking a conscience) and you: a quiet observer of the world (aka “asocial”).

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                                                  7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

                                                  7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

                                                  What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

                                                  For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

                                                  It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

                                                  1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

                                                  The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

                                                  What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

                                                  The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

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                                                  2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

                                                  Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

                                                  How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

                                                  If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

                                                  Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

                                                  3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

                                                  Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

                                                  If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

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                                                  These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

                                                  What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

                                                  4. What are my goals in life?

                                                  Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

                                                  Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

                                                  5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

                                                  Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

                                                  Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

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                                                  You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

                                                  Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

                                                  6. What do I not like to do?

                                                  An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

                                                  What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

                                                  Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

                                                  The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

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                                                  7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

                                                  Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

                                                  But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

                                                  “What do I want to do with my life?”

                                                  So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

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