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24 Things Only Antisocial People Understand

24 Things Only Antisocial People Understand

1. If you can, you refuse most jobs unless you can work by yourself, in the back, or quietly (like a cook, librarian or from home). The front counter, retail or waiting tables would be pure agony. Not you:

    2. You avoid complaining, giving opinions or advice…even when asked. It leads to conversation.

      3. In turn, you don’t often tell your troubles to others. See reason #2 above.

        4. You find yourself in mental torture weighing the pros and cons of seeing your favorite band live and

        having to deal with…the masses.

          5. You avoid eye contact and/or smiling for too long since it’s an invitation for people to approach you.

            6. Your animals–toys or real–know how social you can be. Am I right?

              7. You find yourself thinking how it’s not that you’re shy, it’s just that…you don’t care for most who speak to you.

                8. In fact, you never admire the loud “alpha” dominating the room. You feel very much the opposite towards them.

                  9. You understand the difference between snobbery and wanting to be left in your thoughts.

                    10. You don’t mind that others consider you snobby, nonetheless.

                      11. You are a-okay with others, including your parents, siblings or friends, hogging the spotlight. You were always better working behind the scenes.

                        12. You lock yourself in your room…sometimes for months.

                          13. Have Hikikomori? After careful research: yup.

                            14. You find yourself wondering in what ways Hikikomori is either “concerning” or a “condition.”

                              15. You fantasize about moving to a country where everyone respects quietude.

                                16. You sometimes even refuse to register on your favorite forum threads even when you could contribute a valuable new perspective.

                                  17. When people look into your eyes, you’re told it’s as if you’re in another world (you prefer the label “ethereal”).

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                                    18. The first time they speak to you, you’re polite. The second time, you’re terse. The third time, you literally stop speaking and avoid them. No hard feelings.

                                      19. You say hello when you pass someone you know. Upon seeing them again, you believe they should recall your initial greeting and ignore you.

                                        20. You find yourself questioning why others have to be so damn loud. Unless there’s a major disaster, nothing warrants it.

                                          21. You’re exhausted after a trip to the mall: you’ve been around too many people for too long and you need to recoup.

                                            22. Dating online comes much more naturally to you…you don’t have to speak and you can always delete.

                                              23. You find yourself questioning why strangers still approach you…despite the disinterested looks, headphones you’re wearing and the very obvious ignores the first couple of times they attempt.

                                                24. You know the difference between “anti-social” (an actual personality disorder for those lacking a conscience) and you: a quiet observer of the world (aka “asocial”).

                                                  Featured photo credit: hiding / Enrico Policardo via flickr.com

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                                                  How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                                                  How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                                                  We are given life with many opportunities to make it everything we want it to be and more. If you find that you’ve slipped into living a boring life, it’s time to take a hard look at what you’ve been doing and what you can start doing now to make it more interesting.

                                                  Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list can definitely make any day or life more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

                                                  Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaningful) one!

                                                  1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

                                                  Imagine being a young child. Life was never boring, was it? That’s because children harness every ounce of creativity they have in order to try new things.

                                                  What would your 7-year-old self want to do in this moment? Maybe they’d pick up a paintbrush and try to paint the landscape around them. May they would go outside and build something with random materials around the yard. Maybe they would raid the fridge and put together a dish they’ve never seen before.

                                                  Just because you’re a grown-up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play and use your creativity to its fullest.

                                                  2. Go Play With Kids

                                                  Speaking of little kids, if you have your own (or a niece or nephew), go play with them!

                                                  Kids are absolutely hilarious, so it’s simply impossible to be bored when you’re around them. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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                                                  3. Play Cell Phone Roulette

                                                  You’ll need at least one buddy for this, but this is a great way to avoid a boring life. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one, and (if it feels right) call the person.

                                                  You could spark an incredible catch-up session or, at the very least, remind someone that you’re thinking of them. Neither are boring.

                                                  4. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

                                                  This is a great part of a gratitude practice. We often forget to thank the people who do things for us, especially if we have come to expect those things. For example, have you ever thought about thanking your mom for that weekly phone call? Or thanking your sister for always sending you a homemade gift on your birthday?

                                                  Take time to think of at least 5 people you would like to say thank you to and write out a card. You could even write them out for random people in your neighborhood, like the local librarian, a teacher at your child’s school, or the accountant at your bank.

                                                  Anyone and everyone appreciates being thanked for their efforts.

                                                  5. Sign up for a Class

                                                  Nowadays, there are classes for everything. To make it as interesting as possible, try finding one that you wouldn’t normally consider doing, like salsa lessons, improv, or boxing.

                                                  Otherwise, try to find a course on something you’ve always wanted to learn, like pottery, photography, or a foreign language course.

                                                  What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people, which will add even more interest to your life!

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                                                  6. Talk to Your Grandparents About Their Lives

                                                  We often underestimate how interesting the elderly are. You can rest assured that any elderly person you talk to will not have had a boring life! Take some time to talk to them and hear their interesting stories. You may even find that this motivates you to go out and find your own interesting experiences.

                                                  7. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

                                                  Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage. If you’re not into comedy, find an open mic that focuses on reading poetry or short stories and bring your own. These groups tend to be incredibly supportive for anyone who is willing to be brave enough to get up and try.

                                                  8. Do Something for Someone Else

                                                  Showing kindness automatically makes you feel good, but doing these small acts will also help to ensure that you don’t have a boring life. Try doing one or two things each week that are outside your normal routine.

                                                  For example, you could make a batch of cookies for the mailperson or help your elderly neighbor organize one of their rooms. There are a million ways to show kindness to those around you. Tap into your creativity and find your own or use some of the ideas from the image below[1].

                                                  Do random acts of kindness to avoid living a boring life.

                                                    9. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

                                                    If you have your own place, there is always a project that needs to get done. Many people simply pay for someone else to do it in order to avoid the hassle, but taking on a DIY project can make a boring life much more interesting.

                                                    It doesn’t have to be super complicated. Maybe you repaint an old vase or build a spice shelf out of used pallets.

                                                    If you need ideas, you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

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                                                    10. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

                                                    This will give you something to look forward to. One study actually found that most travelers are happiest before a vacation[2]. Therefore, simply planning a trip will boost your mood, even if you can’t actually take the vacation right now.

                                                    Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is also fun and relaxing!

                                                    11. Go People Watching

                                                    Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops, and train stations are great for this!) and just observe[3].

                                                    People are infinitely interesting. Try to imagine what their lives are like, what they’re thinking, or where they’re going. You’ll never know if you’re right, but it will give you something to focus on and also help you practice empathy.

                                                    12. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

                                                    You can try that new Moroccan restaurant down the street and pick the most interesting dish on the menu. Or, you can raid your own fridge and throw together a dish you’ve never made before.

                                                    If you’re up for a trip to the grocery store, try picking up a new fruit or veggie from the produce section. You may find a new food that you love!

                                                    13. Dance

                                                    You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

                                                    If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public or join a flash mob.

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                                                    14. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

                                                    Reading a good book can keep you occupied for hours. It will also transport you to a life that isn’t your own, and one that likely will be the opposite of a boring life. You’ll be amazed by what you can learn from those pages.

                                                    Pick on of these inspirational books to start reading: 10 Best Inspirational Books That Can Change Your Life

                                                    15. Spend Some Time With People You Care About

                                                    Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. Call up a friend you haven’t seen in a while, or bring a coffee over to your parent’s place and catch up. They’ll appreciate the gesture, and you’ll avoid boredom.

                                                    16. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to

                                                    Some people are bored by museums, so if that’s you, skip to the next one. However, if you love art, history, or culture, this one is for you!

                                                    17. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

                                                    This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

                                                    Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then, start taking your first step to make it happen.

                                                    Now, go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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                                                    Reference

                                                    [1] FECAVA: Random Acts of Kindness
                                                    [2] Applied Research in Quality of Life: Vacationers Happier, but Most not Happier After a Holiday
                                                    [3] Psychology Today: The Expert’s Guide to People Watching

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