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24 Things Only Antisocial People Understand

24 Things Only Antisocial People Understand

1. If you can, you refuse most jobs unless you can work by yourself, in the back, or quietly (like a cook, librarian or from home). The front counter, retail or waiting tables would be pure agony. Not you:

    2. You avoid complaining, giving opinions or advice…even when asked. It leads to conversation.

      3. In turn, you don’t often tell your troubles to others. See reason #2 above.

        4. You find yourself in mental torture weighing the pros and cons of seeing your favorite band live and

        having to deal with…the masses.

          5. You avoid eye contact and/or smiling for too long since it’s an invitation for people to approach you.

            6. Your animals–toys or real–know how social you can be. Am I right?

              7. You find yourself thinking how it’s not that you’re shy, it’s just that…you don’t care for most who speak to you.

                8. In fact, you never admire the loud “alpha” dominating the room. You feel very much the opposite towards them.

                  9. You understand the difference between snobbery and wanting to be left in your thoughts.

                    10. You don’t mind that others consider you snobby, nonetheless.

                      11. You are a-okay with others, including your parents, siblings or friends, hogging the spotlight. You were always better working behind the scenes.

                        12. You lock yourself in your room…sometimes for months.

                          13. Have Hikikomori? After careful research: yup.

                            14. You find yourself wondering in what ways Hikikomori is either “concerning” or a “condition.”

                              15. You fantasize about moving to a country where everyone respects quietude.

                                16. You sometimes even refuse to register on your favorite forum threads even when you could contribute a valuable new perspective.

                                  17. When people look into your eyes, you’re told it’s as if you’re in another world (you prefer the label “ethereal”).

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                                    18. The first time they speak to you, you’re polite. The second time, you’re terse. The third time, you literally stop speaking and avoid them. No hard feelings.

                                      19. You say hello when you pass someone you know. Upon seeing them again, you believe they should recall your initial greeting and ignore you.

                                        20. You find yourself questioning why others have to be so damn loud. Unless there’s a major disaster, nothing warrants it.

                                          21. You’re exhausted after a trip to the mall: you’ve been around too many people for too long and you need to recoup.

                                            22. Dating online comes much more naturally to you…you don’t have to speak and you can always delete.

                                              23. You find yourself questioning why strangers still approach you…despite the disinterested looks, headphones you’re wearing and the very obvious ignores the first couple of times they attempt.

                                                24. You know the difference between “anti-social” (an actual personality disorder for those lacking a conscience) and you: a quiet observer of the world (aka “asocial”).

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                                                  10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

                                                  10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

                                                  Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

                                                  But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

                                                  Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

                                                  1. Spend Time with Positive People

                                                  If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

                                                  Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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                                                  2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

                                                  When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

                                                  Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

                                                  3. Contribute to the Community

                                                  One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

                                                  Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

                                                  4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

                                                  Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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                                                  5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

                                                  You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

                                                  If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

                                                  There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

                                                  6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

                                                  It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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                                                  Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

                                                  7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

                                                  Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

                                                  For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

                                                  Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

                                                  8. Offer Compliments to Others

                                                  Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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                                                  9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

                                                  If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

                                                  Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

                                                  10. Practice Self-Care

                                                  Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

                                                  Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

                                                  Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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