13 Thought-Provoking Questions To Ask Yourself 20 Years After Graduation

13 Thought-Provoking Questions To Ask Yourself 20 Years After Graduation

“Many people die at 25 and aren’t buried until they are 75.” said by Benjamin Franklin. Youth is always the best time in our lives that we seem to be brave enough to be our true selves, to overcome all kinds of difficulties, to embrace challenges and even to challenge the authority. As time goes by, we may get tired, frustrated and forget our ambitious dreams in the first place. So have you kept your passion since you’ve graduated or are you dying? Below are 13 questions that we should always ask ourselves, not only 20 years after graduation, to make sure we are not wandering away from the selves that we once felt proud of.

  1. Are you still doing the same job you haven’t get excited with since 20 years ago?
  2. Have you become the kind of superiors that you hated so much when you just graduated?
  3. How much of your current knowledge comes from the school you attended 20 years ago? Have you learnt new things daily?
  4. Have you been humble even to people who are much younger than you?
  5. Do you still speak up for people who are not well-treated?
  6. Do you still listen to recent music or do you stick to your favorites?
  7. Have you traveled at least half of the places you thought you had to visit in your life 20 years ago?
  8. Do you dare to try something you are not confident about but interested in?
  9. Do you still speak out your thoughts or have you hidden yourself?
  10. Do you still empathize with the victims when reading certain news or do you feel numb with it?
  11. Do you still feel that there’s an urgent need to change society or do you think everything is normal?
  12. Do you still think impossible is nothing?
  13. Have you changed the world or has the world changed you?  (from the movie American Dreams in China)

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Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.


“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:


It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.


It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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