13 Thought-Provoking Questions To Ask Yourself 20 Years After Graduation

13 Thought-Provoking Questions To Ask Yourself 20 Years After Graduation

“Many people die at 25 and aren’t buried until they are 75.” said by Benjamin Franklin. Youth is always the best time in our lives that we seem to be brave enough to be our true selves, to overcome all kinds of difficulties, to embrace challenges and even to challenge the authority. As time goes by, we may get tired, frustrated and forget our ambitious dreams in the first place. So have you kept your passion since you’ve graduated or are you dying? Below are 13 questions that we should always ask ourselves, not only 20 years after graduation, to make sure we are not wandering away from the selves that we once felt proud of.

  1. Are you still doing the same job you haven’t get excited with since 20 years ago?
  2. Have you become the kind of superiors that you hated so much when you just graduated?
  3. How much of your current knowledge comes from the school you attended 20 years ago? Have you learnt new things daily?
  4. Have you been humble even to people who are much younger than you?
  5. Do you still speak up for people who are not well-treated?
  6. Do you still listen to recent music or do you stick to your favorites?
  7. Have you traveled at least half of the places you thought you had to visit in your life 20 years ago?
  8. Do you dare to try something you are not confident about but interested in?
  9. Do you still speak out your thoughts or have you hidden yourself?
  10. Do you still empathize with the victims when reading certain news or do you feel numb with it?
  11. Do you still feel that there’s an urgent need to change society or do you think everything is normal?
  12. Do you still think impossible is nothing?
  13. Have you changed the world or has the world changed you?  (from the movie American Dreams in China)

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How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.


1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”


“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.


3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.


6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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