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16 Things To Give Up If You Want A Happy Life

16 Things To Give Up If You Want A Happy Life

Happiness is really a subjective and relative term, since measures and means of happiness may be different for each of us. However, as we are evolving as human beings in this hyperactive world of social media connectivity, our habits, ambitions and preferences are largely becoming similar. Most of us face similar life situations, and therefore experience almost the same results and circumstances. Our happiness triggers can be similar, too. And if we understand the common triggers better, we can get greater insight into how to become happy.

You may be able to experience happiness if you:

1. Give up your job and do what you truly want to do in life.

Focus on doing things that make you happy rather than working purely on the basis of making money.

2. Give up your old clothes that don’t fit you anymore.

If you are that lucky fellow who remained fit and kept the same physique until now, you may not have to give up your old clothes. However, if you have gained weight and still have your old clothes in your closet, donate them ASAP!

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3. Give up your credit cards and buy on a cash-only basis.

If you truly want to be free in your life, give up debt and learn the habit of saving.

4. Give up your smartphone and just rely on a simple old-style mobile phone.

Smartphones keep you in constant touch with people you may not want to have in your life. It’s better if you can revert back to your old Nokia phone and just use it for receiving and making calls.

5. Give up your social media accounts and text your friends and family instead.

Social media can give grounds for divorce, so use it carefully if you want to save your marriage.

6. Give up relationships that are not fulfilling and enriching for you.

Stay away from relationships that are not satisfying for you personally and are contributing negatively towards your life.

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7. Give up the habit of complaining and comparing.

You are already perfect so don’t compare yourself with your friends or others!

8. Give up excess clutter in your home and life.

Don’t live a lifestyle of one laptop for every family member…economize and get rid of things that are occupying your space and time.

9. Give up drinking excess alcohol.

Drinking too much will make your nervous system weak and you may not be able to make clear and correct decisions in your life.

10. Give up using drugs.

Don’t use drugs to suppress your anger, rather, learn to let go.

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11. Give up the habit of sleeping less. 

Sleeping adequately gives you rest and makes you happy.

12. Give up your car and instead use a bike for short commutes.

It will make you more physically active and less worried.

13. Give up eating out unless you can truly afford it without straining your budget.

Pick up the habit of cooking and enjoy it. Cook for yourself and eat healthier.

14. Give up on the introvert lifestyle.

Learn to socialize adequately; however, avoid being too social as well.

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15. Give up chasing big dreams and instead focus on achieving small milestones.

Cherish your small achievements rather than regretting not getting everything you want.

16. Give up the habit of expecting more from others.

Always rely on yourself and expect more of yourself.

This is just a partial list of things you can give up to help make yourself happy and satisfied with your life, but it’s a good place to start.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

Featured photo credit: josh peterson via unsplash.com

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