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16 Things To Give Up If You Want A Happy Life

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16 Things To Give Up If You Want A Happy Life

Happiness is really a subjective and relative term, since measures and means of happiness may be different for each of us. However, as we are evolving as human beings in this hyperactive world of social media connectivity, our habits, ambitions and preferences are largely becoming similar. Most of us face similar life situations, and therefore experience almost the same results and circumstances. Our happiness triggers can be similar, too. And if we understand the common triggers better, we can get greater insight into how to become happy.

You may be able to experience happiness if you:

1. Give up your job and do what you truly want to do in life.

Focus on doing things that make you happy rather than working purely on the basis of making money.

2. Give up your old clothes that don’t fit you anymore.

If you are that lucky fellow who remained fit and kept the same physique until now, you may not have to give up your old clothes. However, if you have gained weight and still have your old clothes in your closet, donate them ASAP!

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3. Give up your credit cards and buy on a cash-only basis.

If you truly want to be free in your life, give up debt and learn the habit of saving.

4. Give up your smartphone and just rely on a simple old-style mobile phone.

Smartphones keep you in constant touch with people you may not want to have in your life. It’s better if you can revert back to your old Nokia phone and just use it for receiving and making calls.

5. Give up your social media accounts and text your friends and family instead.

Social media can give grounds for divorce, so use it carefully if you want to save your marriage.

6. Give up relationships that are not fulfilling and enriching for you.

Stay away from relationships that are not satisfying for you personally and are contributing negatively towards your life.

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7. Give up the habit of complaining and comparing.

You are already perfect so don’t compare yourself with your friends or others!

8. Give up excess clutter in your home and life.

Don’t live a lifestyle of one laptop for every family member…economize and get rid of things that are occupying your space and time.

9. Give up drinking excess alcohol.

Drinking too much will make your nervous system weak and you may not be able to make clear and correct decisions in your life.

10. Give up using drugs.

Don’t use drugs to suppress your anger, rather, learn to let go.

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11. Give up the habit of sleeping less. 

Sleeping adequately gives you rest and makes you happy.

12. Give up your car and instead use a bike for short commutes.

It will make you more physically active and less worried.

13. Give up eating out unless you can truly afford it without straining your budget.

Pick up the habit of cooking and enjoy it. Cook for yourself and eat healthier.

14. Give up on the introvert lifestyle.

Learn to socialize adequately; however, avoid being too social as well.

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15. Give up chasing big dreams and instead focus on achieving small milestones.

Cherish your small achievements rather than regretting not getting everything you want.

16. Give up the habit of expecting more from others.

Always rely on yourself and expect more of yourself.

This is just a partial list of things you can give up to help make yourself happy and satisfied with your life, but it’s a good place to start.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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