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15 Things Only New Moms Would Understand

15 Things Only New Moms Would Understand

Dirty nappies, constant sleep deprivation and never having time for yourself – most people would think you are mad to be a parent! They just don’t get it, and the fact is that as a new mom there are certain things that only you can understand.

Here are 15 things in particular that you are bound to relate to if you recently had your first child:

1. You worry about everything

With new moms you are constantly aware of the dangers and hazards that surround you at every turn. Even watching your child in the pool can get you worried as you think about the dangers children face in the water.

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2. You forget what its like to get your 8 hours

6 hours uninterrupted sleep is now heaven. Gone are the days where you used to have a full 8 hours most nights – they are so far behind you that you often forget what it feels like to be completely rested. Just the thought of 8 hours makes you feel like superwoman!

3. You are all too familiar with fear

Fear is something that is part of your everyday life. There are a lot of ‘firsts’ involved with being a new mom and while you are constantly fearful you always have the strength to do what needs to be done.

4. You can’t stand to see your child sad

A little bit inside of you dies when you see your child sad. Whether it’s because they fell over in the park or their favourite teddy bear has been misplaced, you feel terrible that you can’t provide a quick solution to turn that frown upside down.

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5. You always put your child first

Overnight you have become one selfless human being. You put your needs so far behind your child’s that they are almost non-existent in your mind.

6. You never have enough time in the day

Between getting to the shop to buy food supplies, changing your child and the million other things on your to-do list it can often feel like there just aren’t enough hours in the day. That being said, you feel as if you achieve something significant everyday and that is one fantastic feeling!

7. You watch your child while they sleep

You love your child so much that you’ll often find yourself watching them sleep, even just for a minute. It is impossible not to savour the peace and quiet, but at the same time you look forward to what the next day brings.

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8. You treasure every moment

You have a new found appreciation for life and the camera is your best friend. Even a trip to the supermarket is a chance for you to take photos of your child and savour the memories. Somehow in the back of your mind you know that the teenage years will rapidly creep up on you.

9. You know that your child isn’t perfect

While you would never tell anyone, you know deep down that your child isn’t perfect… but they are as close as you can get!

10. You count down the days to when you can fit in your regular clothes again

Pregnancy is over but you still can’t fit into your pre-pregnancy clothes. You’ll try all the diets and exercise in the world but you just haven’t quite got there yet.

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11. You have a humongous appetite

All of a sudden you have a humongous appetite – you’ll even find yourself secretly nibbling at a bag of crisps as you prepare dinner for yourself and the family.

12. You don’t get offered a seat on public transport any more

You liked having a guaranteed seat on public transport when you were pregnant, but for some reason people don’t readily give up their seat for you any more and you often find yourself standing during busy hours like a regular person.

13. You have no idea what’s going on in your neighbourhood

You used to love a good chin wag to find out what was going on in your neighbourhood but all of a sudden you are out of the loop. You now have to rely solely on Facebook to get your dose of the local gossip

14. You have to listen to your child-free friends talk about their weekends

Your friends who don’t have children talk about going for weekend breaks or a night out on the town and you pretend not to be envious. For a second you feel jealous of their freedom but then you realise that you have something so much more rewarding in your life.

15. You wouldn’t swap it for the world

Despite any perceived disadvantages you wouldn’t swap your life for the world.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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