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15 Surprise Romantic Dates Ideas With Your Loved One

15 Surprise Romantic Dates Ideas With Your Loved One

If you haven’t done so for a while, consider planning a surprise romantic date with your mate to enrich your relationship. When was the last time you went the extra mile for your loved one? It is easy to get comfortable in a relationship and forget to treat them in a special way, so be sure that your mate will be be feel surprised, happy, and loved when you go to extra trouble to plan something they will enjoy.

What truly makes it a romantic date will depend on what you both like to do, and the attitude that you bring to the event. Set your intention for the date before it starts, treat your mate with courtesy and show them all the love you have for them.

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You can either choose from one of these surprise romantic date ideas and simply have a good time with your partner, or you can draw one of them from a “date jar”: just write each suggestion down on a separate piece of paper, and fold each one into a small square. Put all the squares in a jar and choose a date when you want to surprise your loved one.

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Plan your next romantic date now based on your interests, or use these ideas to plan one date a month for the next 15 months. A variety of ideas have been listed so you can choose inexpensive or extravagant indulgences.

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  1. Midnight picnic – visit a favorite spot under a full moon, or simply lay a blanket in your living room and enjoy a shared meal.
  2. Go to the airport and fly wherever you want to go (take nothing with you). Spontaneity will make the time with your loved one exciting, adventurous, and very memorable.
  3. Cover the bed with rose petals, and then cuddle up and watch a movie together (enjoy the scent and the anticipation).
  4. Draw her a bath and while she relaxes, cook a nice dinner for the two of you to share. For a guy get them a beer and let them watch some sports, while you prepare the meal.
  5. Visit open houses or model homes and plan how you would remodel your home if money were no object.
  6. Get a couple’s massage at your favorite spa.
  7. Take a class on how to give each other massages, then go home and practice.
  8. Create your own perfume or cologne together. Look up recipes for these scents online, or take a class together.
  9. Make a bottle of wine together, and then plan another fun date in the future when it will be ready to drink.
  10. Visit a local fruit orchard or farm and pick your own fruit or vegetables. Make a pie from scratch with your bounty.
  11. Take a hot air balloon ride. Get up crazy-early and see the sunrise from the balloon for an extra-special treat. Bring a beverage and snacks to enjoy, like mimosas and pastries for a sunrise adventure. For a sunset outing, wine, apples and cheese would be a hit.
  12. Rent a sailboat (and a captain if need be) and enjoy the afternoon out on a lake or sea nearby.
  13. Take a drive to your nearest national or state park. Simply relax, take a walk and enjoy the beauty together.
  14. Attend a free outdoor concert. Bring a picnic basket and wine, if possible, and don’t forget the blanket.
  15. Rent a paddle boat or canoe at your local lake. Spend the afternoon enjoying each other’s company, and the lapping of the water against your boat.

Which idea will your partner love? Tell us in the comments below. Did one of these ideas spark some great ideas of your own? Add to this list with your own ideas in the comment section below. Maybe you’ve already used some of these romantic date ideas? Share the stories of how it went with us.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

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No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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