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15+ Long Distance Relationship Songs To Fit Every Mood

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15+ Long Distance Relationship Songs To Fit Every Mood

When you’re in a long distance relationship, sometimes you just need to know you’re not alone. Some days, even the best long distance relationship advice just won’t help you feel any better.

When this happens, take off your thinking cap and turn up the volume. Not sure what to listen to? Here are 15 of the best long distance relationship songs that will speak to you, with a few extra.

1. If you need to be reminded that your long distance relationship is worth it

Listen to

I Want Crazy, by Hunter Hayes.

Why?

This song will help shore up your determination to hang in there by reminding you of three truths: Long distance relationships are difficult. Other people might call you crazy. And your love is worth it!

Best lines

“I don’t want easy, I want crazy
Are you with me baby?”

2. If you feel like your heart and your body are living in different time zones

Listen to

Jet Lag, by Simple Plan

Why?

This song is like a good cup of coffee after a long night–a great pick-me-up. It perfectly captures the LDR whirlwind of hellos, goodbyes, virtual connections, and long distance yearning. It also manages to be catchy and upbeat.

Best lines

“You say good morning
When it’s midnight”

3. If you miss them terribly

Listen to

When You’re Gone, by Avril Lavigne

Why?

Sometimes listening to someone else put words to your pain is cathartic. This song is all about the pain that comes with long distance relationships—the hurts-to-breathe yearning that weighs you down when you’re not sure you’ll make it through one more day apart.

Best lines

“When you walk away
I count the steps that you take”

After that, listen to…

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Aeroplanes, by Futures

Why?

After you’ve gotten some raw anguish out of your system by listening to Avril, transition to something gentler. This song is a lyrical meditation on missing that also weaves in threads of determination and hope.

Best lines

“And I’m gonna build you the house on the water
But first I will build the bridge across”

Need more anthems to missing? Try From Where You Are by Lifehouse. Simple. Heartfelt. Mellow.

4. When you’re done wallowing

Listen to

Ain’t No Mountain High Enough, by Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell

Why?

Catharsis is all well and good, but at some point playing heart-wrenching songs on repeat stops being cathartic and just means you’re wallowing in your pain. So after you’ve had your catharsis pick yourself up off the floor and put on something upbeat.

Best lines

“If you need me call me no matter where you are,
No matter how far; don’t worry baby”

5. If you need to be reminded not to put your life on hold while you’re waiting to be together

Listen to

Many The Miles, by Sara Bareilles

Why?

When you’re in an long distance relationship it’s too easy to start feeling like your “real life” is on hold until you can close the gap. This song will help remind you that your real life is what you’re living today, even if you’re far apart from your favorite person.

Best lines

“But surely something has got to got to got to give
Cause I can’t keep waiting to live.”

6. If you’re wondering what the future holds

Listen to

3000, by The Icarus Account

Why?

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Uncertainty is part of every relationship—especially if you’re long distance. This acoustic gem captures the mishmash of joy, hope, pain, and wondering that so often plagues long distance couples as they wonder about their futures.

Best lines:

And I still fall asleep hoping that you will call
Cause you’re worth waking up for

Want more lyrical wonderings? Try Already Home by A Great Big World or Right Here Waiting by Richard Marx (and, as an added bonus, the 80s hairstyles in this last video will make you laugh).

7. If you’re sure you’ve found your one and only

Listen to

10 Hours, by Warren Barfield

Why?

Sometimes you just know when you’ve found the right one. If you’re not shy about wearing your heart on your sleeve and saying you want forever, this guitar ballad is for you.

Best lines

“And I could love you for a thousand years
And wish for a thousand more”

And if you’ve found your one and only, a single sappy song is never enough, so go have a listen to Westlife’s I Wanna Grow Old With You as well.

8. If you’re feeling wistful

Listen to

A Thousand Miles, by Vanessa Carlton

Why?

This catchy tune somehow manages to be upbeat and inspire a gentle sort of nostalgia at the same time. It’s a great listen when you’re missing someone and wondering if they’re also thinking of you.

Best lines

“I wonder if I could fall into the sky
Do you think time would pass me by?”

Need more wistful soundtracks? Try Here Without You by 3 Doors Down or Leaving On A Jet Plane by John Denver.

9. If you’re wondering how on earth you ended up in a long distance relationship

Listen to

A Lonely September, by Plain White T’s

Why?

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So many long distance relationship couples start out online chatting, texting, or emailing. Then, months down the line, they have the bittersweet realization that they’ve fallen for their long distance buddy.

Best lines

“Well I didn’t mean for this to go as far as it did
And I didn’t mean to get so close and share what we did”

10. If you’re on a road-trip

Listen to

200,000, by The Rocket Summer

Why?

Every road trip needs a catchy, intense anthem to help pass the miles. This upbeat homage to persevering for worthwhile love is a great choice for LDR-roadtrip playlists.

Best lines

“There are not one but two hundred thousand miles on my car. To be with you I’ve driven far, but I loved you that much.”

11. If you’re thinking about all the good times you’ve shared

Listen to

The Promise, by Tracy Chapman

Why?

This song is the perfect soundtrack for a nostalgic stroll down memory lane. It is an earthy, sensual, celebration of love. It speaks of confidence in a shared future together.

Best lines

“If you can make a promise, if it’s one that you can keep
I vow to come for you, if you wait for me”

12. If you need a pick-me-up

Listen to:

Whatever, Whenever, by Shakira

Why?

I dare you to listen to this upbeat tune and not want to dance. It’s hard to stay feeling flat and depressed in the face of this catchy intensity.

Best lines

“Lucky that I love a foreign land for
The lucky fact of your existence”

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13. If it feels like you’ve been apart forever

Listen to

Gone So Long, by Breathe Carolina

Why?

When you’ve been apart from your partner for months you can start to doubt everything from your own feelings to whether you have a future together. It all gets mixed up with missing them. This song captures this confusion with subtle, rhythmic intensity.

Best lines

“Do you still remember my touch at all?
I never meant to be gone so long”

14. If you need some perspectives on your pain

Listen to

Wouldn’t It Be Nice, by The Beach Boys

Why?

Sometimes you just to be reminded that past generations have gone through long distance relationships too, and without email! If you’re feeling old-fashioned (or you’re in the mood for something to make you feel like you’re driving the California coast in a convertible) try this classic by the Beach Boys.

Best lines

“You’re still with me in my dreams
And tonight, girl, it’s only you and me”

Want more old-fashioned without the convertible overtones? Try Unchained Melody by The Righteous Brothers or Oleta Adams’ Get Here.

15. When you’re determined to stick it out

Listen to

I Can Wait Forever, by Simple Plan

Why?

When you’re in this for the long haul (and you’re willing to take some cheese with your boy-band) try this. It’s not going to win any awards for its lyrics, but it gets the main point across loud, clear, and in-tune.

Best lines

“I try to find the words that I could say
I know distance doesn’t matter but you feel so far away”

If you want a classier (although much less literal) alternative, try I Will Wait by Mumford & Sons.

Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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