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15+ Long Distance Relationship Songs To Fit Every Mood

15+ Long Distance Relationship Songs To Fit Every Mood

When you’re in a long distance relationship, sometimes you just need to know you’re not alone. Some days, even the best long distance relationship advice just won’t help you feel any better.

When this happens, take off your thinking cap and turn up the volume. Not sure what to listen to? Here are 15 of the best long distance relationship songs that will speak to you, with a few extra.

1. If you need to be reminded that your long distance relationship is worth it

Listen to

I Want Crazy, by Hunter Hayes.

Why?

This song will help shore up your determination to hang in there by reminding you of three truths: Long distance relationships are difficult. Other people might call you crazy. And your love is worth it!

Best lines

“I don’t want easy, I want crazy
Are you with me baby?”

2. If you feel like your heart and your body are living in different time zones

Listen to

Jet Lag, by Simple Plan

Why?

This song is like a good cup of coffee after a long night–a great pick-me-up. It perfectly captures the LDR whirlwind of hellos, goodbyes, virtual connections, and long distance yearning. It also manages to be catchy and upbeat.

Best lines

“You say good morning
When it’s midnight”

3. If you miss them terribly

Listen to

When You’re Gone, by Avril Lavigne

Why?

Sometimes listening to someone else put words to your pain is cathartic. This song is all about the pain that comes with long distance relationships—the hurts-to-breathe yearning that weighs you down when you’re not sure you’ll make it through one more day apart.

Best lines

“When you walk away
I count the steps that you take”

After that, listen to…

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Aeroplanes, by Futures

Why?

After you’ve gotten some raw anguish out of your system by listening to Avril, transition to something gentler. This song is a lyrical meditation on missing that also weaves in threads of determination and hope.

Best lines

“And I’m gonna build you the house on the water
But first I will build the bridge across”

Need more anthems to missing? Try From Where You Are by Lifehouse. Simple. Heartfelt. Mellow.

4. When you’re done wallowing

Listen to

Ain’t No Mountain High Enough, by Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell

Why?

Catharsis is all well and good, but at some point playing heart-wrenching songs on repeat stops being cathartic and just means you’re wallowing in your pain. So after you’ve had your catharsis pick yourself up off the floor and put on something upbeat.

Best lines

“If you need me call me no matter where you are,
No matter how far; don’t worry baby”

5. If you need to be reminded not to put your life on hold while you’re waiting to be together

Listen to

Many The Miles, by Sara Bareilles

Why?

When you’re in an long distance relationship it’s too easy to start feeling like your “real life” is on hold until you can close the gap. This song will help remind you that your real life is what you’re living today, even if you’re far apart from your favorite person.

Best lines

“But surely something has got to got to got to give
Cause I can’t keep waiting to live.”

6. If you’re wondering what the future holds

Listen to

3000, by The Icarus Account

Why?

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Uncertainty is part of every relationship—especially if you’re long distance. This acoustic gem captures the mishmash of joy, hope, pain, and wondering that so often plagues long distance couples as they wonder about their futures.

Best lines:

And I still fall asleep hoping that you will call
Cause you’re worth waking up for

Want more lyrical wonderings? Try Already Home by A Great Big World or Right Here Waiting by Richard Marx (and, as an added bonus, the 80s hairstyles in this last video will make you laugh).

7. If you’re sure you’ve found your one and only

Listen to

10 Hours, by Warren Barfield

Why?

Sometimes you just know when you’ve found the right one. If you’re not shy about wearing your heart on your sleeve and saying you want forever, this guitar ballad is for you.

Best lines

“And I could love you for a thousand years
And wish for a thousand more”

And if you’ve found your one and only, a single sappy song is never enough, so go have a listen to Westlife’s I Wanna Grow Old With You as well.

8. If you’re feeling wistful

Listen to

A Thousand Miles, by Vanessa Carlton

Why?

This catchy tune somehow manages to be upbeat and inspire a gentle sort of nostalgia at the same time. It’s a great listen when you’re missing someone and wondering if they’re also thinking of you.

Best lines

“I wonder if I could fall into the sky
Do you think time would pass me by?”

Need more wistful soundtracks? Try Here Without You by 3 Doors Down or Leaving On A Jet Plane by John Denver.

9. If you’re wondering how on earth you ended up in a long distance relationship

Listen to

A Lonely September, by Plain White T’s

Why?

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So many long distance relationship couples start out online chatting, texting, or emailing. Then, months down the line, they have the bittersweet realization that they’ve fallen for their long distance buddy.

Best lines

“Well I didn’t mean for this to go as far as it did
And I didn’t mean to get so close and share what we did”

10. If you’re on a road-trip

Listen to

200,000, by The Rocket Summer

Why?

Every road trip needs a catchy, intense anthem to help pass the miles. This upbeat homage to persevering for worthwhile love is a great choice for LDR-roadtrip playlists.

Best lines

“There are not one but two hundred thousand miles on my car. To be with you I’ve driven far, but I loved you that much.”

11. If you’re thinking about all the good times you’ve shared

Listen to

The Promise, by Tracy Chapman

Why?

This song is the perfect soundtrack for a nostalgic stroll down memory lane. It is an earthy, sensual, celebration of love. It speaks of confidence in a shared future together.

Best lines

“If you can make a promise, if it’s one that you can keep
I vow to come for you, if you wait for me”

12. If you need a pick-me-up

Listen to:

Whatever, Whenever, by Shakira

Why?

I dare you to listen to this upbeat tune and not want to dance. It’s hard to stay feeling flat and depressed in the face of this catchy intensity.

Best lines

“Lucky that I love a foreign land for
The lucky fact of your existence”

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13. If it feels like you’ve been apart forever

Listen to

Gone So Long, by Breathe Carolina

Why?

When you’ve been apart from your partner for months you can start to doubt everything from your own feelings to whether you have a future together. It all gets mixed up with missing them. This song captures this confusion with subtle, rhythmic intensity.

Best lines

“Do you still remember my touch at all?
I never meant to be gone so long”

14. If you need some perspectives on your pain

Listen to

Wouldn’t It Be Nice, by The Beach Boys

Why?

Sometimes you just to be reminded that past generations have gone through long distance relationships too, and without email! If you’re feeling old-fashioned (or you’re in the mood for something to make you feel like you’re driving the California coast in a convertible) try this classic by the Beach Boys.

Best lines

“You’re still with me in my dreams
And tonight, girl, it’s only you and me”

Want more old-fashioned without the convertible overtones? Try Unchained Melody by The Righteous Brothers or Oleta Adams’ Get Here.

15. When you’re determined to stick it out

Listen to

I Can Wait Forever, by Simple Plan

Why?

When you’re in this for the long haul (and you’re willing to take some cheese with your boy-band) try this. It’s not going to win any awards for its lyrics, but it gets the main point across loud, clear, and in-tune.

Best lines

“I try to find the words that I could say
I know distance doesn’t matter but you feel so far away”

If you want a classier (although much less literal) alternative, try I Will Wait by Mumford & Sons.

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12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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