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15+ Long Distance Relationship Songs To Fit Every Mood

15+ Long Distance Relationship Songs To Fit Every Mood

When you’re in a long distance relationship, sometimes you just need to know you’re not alone. Some days, even the best long distance relationship advice just won’t help you feel any better.

When this happens, take off your thinking cap and turn up the volume. Not sure what to listen to? Here are 15 of the best long distance relationship songs that will speak to you, with a few extra.

1. If you need to be reminded that your long distance relationship is worth it

Listen to

I Want Crazy, by Hunter Hayes.

Why?

This song will help shore up your determination to hang in there by reminding you of three truths: Long distance relationships are difficult. Other people might call you crazy. And your love is worth it!

Best lines

“I don’t want easy, I want crazy
Are you with me baby?”

2. If you feel like your heart and your body are living in different time zones

Listen to

Jet Lag, by Simple Plan

Why?

This song is like a good cup of coffee after a long night–a great pick-me-up. It perfectly captures the LDR whirlwind of hellos, goodbyes, virtual connections, and long distance yearning. It also manages to be catchy and upbeat.

Best lines

“You say good morning
When it’s midnight”

3. If you miss them terribly

Listen to

When You’re Gone, by Avril Lavigne

Why?

Sometimes listening to someone else put words to your pain is cathartic. This song is all about the pain that comes with long distance relationships—the hurts-to-breathe yearning that weighs you down when you’re not sure you’ll make it through one more day apart.

Best lines

“When you walk away
I count the steps that you take”

After that, listen to…

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Aeroplanes, by Futures

Why?

After you’ve gotten some raw anguish out of your system by listening to Avril, transition to something gentler. This song is a lyrical meditation on missing that also weaves in threads of determination and hope.

Best lines

“And I’m gonna build you the house on the water
But first I will build the bridge across”

Need more anthems to missing? Try From Where You Are by Lifehouse. Simple. Heartfelt. Mellow.

4. When you’re done wallowing

Listen to

Ain’t No Mountain High Enough, by Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell

Why?

Catharsis is all well and good, but at some point playing heart-wrenching songs on repeat stops being cathartic and just means you’re wallowing in your pain. So after you’ve had your catharsis pick yourself up off the floor and put on something upbeat.

Best lines

“If you need me call me no matter where you are,
No matter how far; don’t worry baby”

5. If you need to be reminded not to put your life on hold while you’re waiting to be together

Listen to

Many The Miles, by Sara Bareilles

Why?

When you’re in an long distance relationship it’s too easy to start feeling like your “real life” is on hold until you can close the gap. This song will help remind you that your real life is what you’re living today, even if you’re far apart from your favorite person.

Best lines

“But surely something has got to got to got to give
Cause I can’t keep waiting to live.”

6. If you’re wondering what the future holds

Listen to

3000, by The Icarus Account

Why?

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Uncertainty is part of every relationship—especially if you’re long distance. This acoustic gem captures the mishmash of joy, hope, pain, and wondering that so often plagues long distance couples as they wonder about their futures.

Best lines:

And I still fall asleep hoping that you will call
Cause you’re worth waking up for

Want more lyrical wonderings? Try Already Home by A Great Big World or Right Here Waiting by Richard Marx (and, as an added bonus, the 80s hairstyles in this last video will make you laugh).

7. If you’re sure you’ve found your one and only

Listen to

10 Hours, by Warren Barfield

Why?

Sometimes you just know when you’ve found the right one. If you’re not shy about wearing your heart on your sleeve and saying you want forever, this guitar ballad is for you.

Best lines

“And I could love you for a thousand years
And wish for a thousand more”

And if you’ve found your one and only, a single sappy song is never enough, so go have a listen to Westlife’s I Wanna Grow Old With You as well.

8. If you’re feeling wistful

Listen to

A Thousand Miles, by Vanessa Carlton

Why?

This catchy tune somehow manages to be upbeat and inspire a gentle sort of nostalgia at the same time. It’s a great listen when you’re missing someone and wondering if they’re also thinking of you.

Best lines

“I wonder if I could fall into the sky
Do you think time would pass me by?”

Need more wistful soundtracks? Try Here Without You by 3 Doors Down or Leaving On A Jet Plane by John Denver.

9. If you’re wondering how on earth you ended up in a long distance relationship

Listen to

A Lonely September, by Plain White T’s

Why?

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So many long distance relationship couples start out online chatting, texting, or emailing. Then, months down the line, they have the bittersweet realization that they’ve fallen for their long distance buddy.

Best lines

“Well I didn’t mean for this to go as far as it did
And I didn’t mean to get so close and share what we did”

10. If you’re on a road-trip

Listen to

200,000, by The Rocket Summer

Why?

Every road trip needs a catchy, intense anthem to help pass the miles. This upbeat homage to persevering for worthwhile love is a great choice for LDR-roadtrip playlists.

Best lines

“There are not one but two hundred thousand miles on my car. To be with you I’ve driven far, but I loved you that much.”

11. If you’re thinking about all the good times you’ve shared

Listen to

The Promise, by Tracy Chapman

Why?

This song is the perfect soundtrack for a nostalgic stroll down memory lane. It is an earthy, sensual, celebration of love. It speaks of confidence in a shared future together.

Best lines

“If you can make a promise, if it’s one that you can keep
I vow to come for you, if you wait for me”

12. If you need a pick-me-up

Listen to:

Whatever, Whenever, by Shakira

Why?

I dare you to listen to this upbeat tune and not want to dance. It’s hard to stay feeling flat and depressed in the face of this catchy intensity.

Best lines

“Lucky that I love a foreign land for
The lucky fact of your existence”

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13. If it feels like you’ve been apart forever

Listen to

Gone So Long, by Breathe Carolina

Why?

When you’ve been apart from your partner for months you can start to doubt everything from your own feelings to whether you have a future together. It all gets mixed up with missing them. This song captures this confusion with subtle, rhythmic intensity.

Best lines

“Do you still remember my touch at all?
I never meant to be gone so long”

14. If you need some perspectives on your pain

Listen to

Wouldn’t It Be Nice, by The Beach Boys

Why?

Sometimes you just to be reminded that past generations have gone through long distance relationships too, and without email! If you’re feeling old-fashioned (or you’re in the mood for something to make you feel like you’re driving the California coast in a convertible) try this classic by the Beach Boys.

Best lines

“You’re still with me in my dreams
And tonight, girl, it’s only you and me”

Want more old-fashioned without the convertible overtones? Try Unchained Melody by The Righteous Brothers or Oleta Adams’ Get Here.

15. When you’re determined to stick it out

Listen to

I Can Wait Forever, by Simple Plan

Why?

When you’re in this for the long haul (and you’re willing to take some cheese with your boy-band) try this. It’s not going to win any awards for its lyrics, but it gets the main point across loud, clear, and in-tune.

Best lines

“I try to find the words that I could say
I know distance doesn’t matter but you feel so far away”

If you want a classier (although much less literal) alternative, try I Will Wait by Mumford & Sons.

Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

1. Take a step back and evaluate

When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the problem?
  2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
  3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
  4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
  5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

4. Process your thoughts/emotions

Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

  1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
  2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
  3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
  4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

5. Acknowledge your thoughts

Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

6. Give yourself a break

If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

As Helen Keller once said,

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

  1. What’s the situation?
  2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
  3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
  4. Take action on your next steps!

After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

Featured photo credit: Alice Donovan Rouse via unsplash.com

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