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13 Things Your Mother Wants You To Learn From Her

13 Things Your Mother Wants You To Learn From Her

Parenting is never an easy job. Parents always try their best to raise their child and hope their child will take their advice to be a good and successful person. Noor Al-Hajri shared on Quora what advice her mother gave her, which is probably what every mother wants her children to know about.

  1. Just Wait it out – Patience is a virtue. When facing an impossible task/decision, sleep on it.
  2. When you marry, you marry a familyMake sure it’s a good one:
    With marriage, you don’t just get the person you marry. But his/her morals, habits, values, genetics, culture, language and anything at home that contributed to their upbringing (the good & the not-so-good). Inclusive of all this, you gain new family members – you want to make sure that you are aware & accepting of the entire package when you have kids, you’ll truly understand what it’s like to love someone more than yourself.
  3. You are not Old! You’re a 9 year old Adult (on my 27th birthday – This is more of a statement than advice, but it changed my outlook).
  4. Whatever it is that you want to do, Do it now. – Worrying is not doing. Just Start.
  5. Keep Receipts, Documents and everything. You never know when you may need it. Take Photos, even if you think you don’t look good. It will pass & you will have saved a memory.
  6. Cook – so you can feed yourself, stay healthy, save money & entertain others. Eat like royalty but dress modestly.
  7. Say No to Credit. Debt ties you down. Learn to budget.
  8. Don’t tell others your plans. – A few reasons are:
    – Sometimes, sharing with others can hamper/change your plans. Opinions affect decisions.
    – There’s an element of satisfaction that comes from sharing with others that may delay you from taking further action, as you already feel good.
    – Not all people have your best interest at heart, this is only natural. They can potentially hurt you with the information you volunteer. (This is why many people in my life until today prefer not to join Social sites like FB, foursquare etc..) – (hat tip to Sam Feder for pointing out that I needed to elaborate on this further)
  9. Don’t judge a person based on a single actionPeople are more complex than that. Anyone can have a bad day. It’s not always about you. Learn to listen.
  10. The World doesn’t ‘owe’ You. You are not entitled to anythingYou want somethingwork for it. Then work some more.
  11. Happiness is a choice you make everyday not an outcome. Choose to be happy and love yourself, so that others can love you. Avoid negative people.
  12. Travel, Teach, Volunteer, Read (a lot), try new things and make mistakes while you are young – it will help you mature and keep you humble.
  13. Don’t hold grudges. It’s hard but if you want to succeed you cannot hold grudges. Let it go. Harbor compassion instead.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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