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13 Things Your Mother Wants You To Learn From Her

13 Things Your Mother Wants You To Learn From Her

Parenting is never an easy job. Parents always try their best to raise their child and hope their child will take their advice to be a good and successful person. Noor Al-Hajri shared on Quora what advice her mother gave her, which is probably what every mother wants her children to know about.

  1. Just Wait it out – Patience is a virtue. When facing an impossible task/decision, sleep on it.
  2. When you marry, you marry a familyMake sure it’s a good one:
    With marriage, you don’t just get the person you marry. But his/her morals, habits, values, genetics, culture, language and anything at home that contributed to their upbringing (the good & the not-so-good). Inclusive of all this, you gain new family members – you want to make sure that you are aware & accepting of the entire package when you have kids, you’ll truly understand what it’s like to love someone more than yourself.
  3. You are not Old! You’re a 9 year old Adult (on my 27th birthday – This is more of a statement than advice, but it changed my outlook).
  4. Whatever it is that you want to do, Do it now. – Worrying is not doing. Just Start.
  5. Keep Receipts, Documents and everything. You never know when you may need it. Take Photos, even if you think you don’t look good. It will pass & you will have saved a memory.
  6. Cook – so you can feed yourself, stay healthy, save money & entertain others. Eat like royalty but dress modestly.
  7. Say No to Credit. Debt ties you down. Learn to budget.
  8. Don’t tell others your plans. – A few reasons are:
    – Sometimes, sharing with others can hamper/change your plans. Opinions affect decisions.
    – There’s an element of satisfaction that comes from sharing with others that may delay you from taking further action, as you already feel good.
    – Not all people have your best interest at heart, this is only natural. They can potentially hurt you with the information you volunteer. (This is why many people in my life until today prefer not to join Social sites like FB, foursquare etc..) – (hat tip to Sam Feder for pointing out that I needed to elaborate on this further)
  9. Don’t judge a person based on a single actionPeople are more complex than that. Anyone can have a bad day. It’s not always about you. Learn to listen.
  10. The World doesn’t ‘owe’ You. You are not entitled to anythingYou want somethingwork for it. Then work some more.
  11. Happiness is a choice you make everyday not an outcome. Choose to be happy and love yourself, so that others can love you. Avoid negative people.
  12. Travel, Teach, Volunteer, Read (a lot), try new things and make mistakes while you are young – it will help you mature and keep you humble.
  13. Don’t hold grudges. It’s hard but if you want to succeed you cannot hold grudges. Let it go. Harbor compassion instead.

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7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

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2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

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These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

4. What are my goals in life?

Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

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You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

6. What do I not like to do?

An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

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7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

“What do I want to do with my life?”

So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

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