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11 Frenemies You Don’t Need In Your Life

11 Frenemies You Don’t Need In Your Life

While frenemies might be great to watch on reality TV shows featuring so-called “real housewives,” they aren’t the kind of people you want in your own reality. Unfortunately, it can sometimes be hard to identify frenemies in real life because if you could, you wouldn’t keep them around as freinds in the first place.

This guide by Dumb Little Man can help you identify your frenemies so you can finally get them out of your life once and for all. A few frenemies to keep an eye out for include:

  • Comeptitive Charlie: The guy who wants everything you have and constantly feels like he has to be better off than you are.
  • Judge Jacky: Nothing is ever smart enough, kind enough, attractive enough, or otherwise worthy of her high standards -including you.
  • Groupie Gail: She is always there supporting you -always. In fact, she seems to only have opinions that she thinks will make you happy, meaning you’re never even seeing the real her.

Of course, this is only a small sampling of the many types of frinemies, but it’s a good start when it comes to removing people from your life who will only drag you down.

Original Source – Dumb Little Man

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Last Updated on March 5, 2021

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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