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10 Worries That May Influence Your Positive Thinking

10 Worries That May Influence Your Positive Thinking

Nowadays, many people’s lives are full of worries that have a negative influence both on their lives, and on their positive thinking.

Some can forget about the importance of positive thinking in their life, and these are the people who always try to solve some problems, whether at work or at home, and these worries poison their mind again and again.

These are simple things that people may not even notice. If the situation is familiar to you, then this list of 10 everyday worries that influence positive thinking is right for you. Let’s see what useless anxieties can affect your optimism, and let’s find a solution to all of them.

10 worries that influence your positive thinking

1. You don’t have time: to complete the project, to do the shopping, or even to call your relatives… in general, the list is endless! Life’s constant rush interferes with accomplishing tasks both in your private life and at work, which may keep you worrying all the time, thus preventing positive thinking.

Solution: Always try to find some time for yourself, your family, your hobbies, etc. This will help you to relax and free your mind from negative thoughts.

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2. Competition: Yes, today it’s extremely high—everyone wants to be the best, and in this fight people can to forget about their personality, dignity, and positivity. Things such as as lying, betrayal, and other similar traits become more and more popular.

Solution: Stop for a moment and think about your place in life. Where are you? What are you? What is your purpose? Do such “jungles” make you feel good? Stop this pursuit and think of what is the most important in your life.

3. You can’t do several things at once: It has become important to demand from an average person to be like Julius Caesar, who managed to do at least three things at once. In general, the human mind can only focus on one thing at a time, and doing several actions at once reduces your creativity and quality of your work with all its consequences. All this causes great stress.

Solution: Set priorities, with everything in specific order. This is the best way to manage to do everything.

4. Wealth and money. Even if you have this you can’t stop worrying about it. In the pursuit of wealth, a person can forget about everything else, fall into depression, and live in a state of anxiety all the time.

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Solution: Remember one important thing: money is only a tool, not a goal. Try to spend less time thinking about money, and focus on other joys in life.

5. Aging: Youth—either natural, or achieved with the help of tremendous efforts and money—has been deemed vitally important nowadays. It is believed that a young-looking person is necessarily successful and happy, which is why many people begin to worry at the first sign of wrinkles, even at the age of 25.

Solution: Maintaining a positive attitude is a great way to look good. If you’re a positive person, nearly everyone will like you.

6. Information: In the mind of a modern person there’s a stereotype that having information equals being successful. That’s why many worry about news that they didn’t have time to hear, read or understand.

Solution: Remember that you can’t know everything in the world. Learn only the information that you really need, and avoid bad news, especially that which is depressing.

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7. Norms of life: Lots of people are worried about the fact that their life is somehow wrong. When worrying about similarity with others, some important things can be lost, such as individuality and authenticity.

Solution: Forget about what others might think or say. In worrying about the thoughts of your coworkers, neighbors, or relatives, you risk losing yourself.

8. Love: It is human nature to worry constantly about love; cases when you don’t have it and you’re lonely, when you have it and you’re worrying to lose it, or when you lost it and now you’re in despair.

Solution: Certainly, love is a magical feeling, but it doesn’t depend on your desires. It’s better to live your life today without worrying about it; you’ll see then that everything will be alright.

9. Accidents: A ton of negative information is received daily on TV about attacks, automobile and airplane crashes, natural disasters, etc. That’s why many people worry constantly about the things that may happen.

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Solution: Try to be an optimist and believe in good. Fear doesn’t to anyone any good, so stay present and mindful.

10. Weather: It’s funny, but not only forecasters, pilots and geologists are worried about the weather conditions. If you count the number of times per day the average person hears, reads or watches the weather forecast, it is clear that the weather is a serious and constant anxiety for many people.

Solution: There’s no such thing as “bad weather”. Try to enjoy all types, and don’t worry about rain, snow and wind.

Conclusion

All these worries may be present in your everyday life and you don’t even notice how they can poison your mind and interfere with positive thinking. In our modern world, people tend to forget about the necessity of positive thinking and positive actions; about the necessity of being at least a little bit more optimistic.

Of course, it’s hard to avoid all these worries—just try to think of them less, and therefore make their influence weaker. Remember that positive thinking is the key to happiness and success in life. Be open to it and don’t let unnecessary worries interfere with your well-being.

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Roman Soluk

Roman writes about positive thinking and happiness at Lifehack.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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