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10 Worries That May Influence Your Positive Thinking

10 Worries That May Influence Your Positive Thinking

Nowadays, many people’s lives are full of worries that have a negative influence both on their lives, and on their positive thinking.

Some can forget about the importance of positive thinking in their life, and these are the people who always try to solve some problems, whether at work or at home, and these worries poison their mind again and again.

These are simple things that people may not even notice. If the situation is familiar to you, then this list of 10 everyday worries that influence positive thinking is right for you. Let’s see what useless anxieties can affect your optimism, and let’s find a solution to all of them.

10 worries that influence your positive thinking

1. You don’t have time: to complete the project, to do the shopping, or even to call your relatives… in general, the list is endless! Life’s constant rush interferes with accomplishing tasks both in your private life and at work, which may keep you worrying all the time, thus preventing positive thinking.

Solution: Always try to find some time for yourself, your family, your hobbies, etc. This will help you to relax and free your mind from negative thoughts.

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2. Competition: Yes, today it’s extremely high—everyone wants to be the best, and in this fight people can to forget about their personality, dignity, and positivity. Things such as as lying, betrayal, and other similar traits become more and more popular.

Solution: Stop for a moment and think about your place in life. Where are you? What are you? What is your purpose? Do such “jungles” make you feel good? Stop this pursuit and think of what is the most important in your life.

3. You can’t do several things at once: It has become important to demand from an average person to be like Julius Caesar, who managed to do at least three things at once. In general, the human mind can only focus on one thing at a time, and doing several actions at once reduces your creativity and quality of your work with all its consequences. All this causes great stress.

Solution: Set priorities, with everything in specific order. This is the best way to manage to do everything.

4. Wealth and money. Even if you have this you can’t stop worrying about it. In the pursuit of wealth, a person can forget about everything else, fall into depression, and live in a state of anxiety all the time.

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Solution: Remember one important thing: money is only a tool, not a goal. Try to spend less time thinking about money, and focus on other joys in life.

5. Aging: Youth—either natural, or achieved with the help of tremendous efforts and money—has been deemed vitally important nowadays. It is believed that a young-looking person is necessarily successful and happy, which is why many people begin to worry at the first sign of wrinkles, even at the age of 25.

Solution: Maintaining a positive attitude is a great way to look good. If you’re a positive person, nearly everyone will like you.

6. Information: In the mind of a modern person there’s a stereotype that having information equals being successful. That’s why many worry about news that they didn’t have time to hear, read or understand.

Solution: Remember that you can’t know everything in the world. Learn only the information that you really need, and avoid bad news, especially that which is depressing.

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7. Norms of life: Lots of people are worried about the fact that their life is somehow wrong. When worrying about similarity with others, some important things can be lost, such as individuality and authenticity.

Solution: Forget about what others might think or say. In worrying about the thoughts of your coworkers, neighbors, or relatives, you risk losing yourself.

8. Love: It is human nature to worry constantly about love; cases when you don’t have it and you’re lonely, when you have it and you’re worrying to lose it, or when you lost it and now you’re in despair.

Solution: Certainly, love is a magical feeling, but it doesn’t depend on your desires. It’s better to live your life today without worrying about it; you’ll see then that everything will be alright.

9. Accidents: A ton of negative information is received daily on TV about attacks, automobile and airplane crashes, natural disasters, etc. That’s why many people worry constantly about the things that may happen.

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Solution: Try to be an optimist and believe in good. Fear doesn’t to anyone any good, so stay present and mindful.

10. Weather: It’s funny, but not only forecasters, pilots and geologists are worried about the weather conditions. If you count the number of times per day the average person hears, reads or watches the weather forecast, it is clear that the weather is a serious and constant anxiety for many people.

Solution: There’s no such thing as “bad weather”. Try to enjoy all types, and don’t worry about rain, snow and wind.

Conclusion

All these worries may be present in your everyday life and you don’t even notice how they can poison your mind and interfere with positive thinking. In our modern world, people tend to forget about the necessity of positive thinking and positive actions; about the necessity of being at least a little bit more optimistic.

Of course, it’s hard to avoid all these worries—just try to think of them less, and therefore make their influence weaker. Remember that positive thinking is the key to happiness and success in life. Be open to it and don’t let unnecessary worries interfere with your well-being.

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Roman Soluk

Roman writes about positive thinking and happiness at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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