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10 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Happy And Healthy

10 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Happy And Healthy

Being in a relationship isn’t easy, but healthy couples know how to take the ups and downs; how to weather the storm. Learn from the experts, with these ten ways to keep your relationship happy and healthy. (And yes, you should be having sex every day!)

1. Communicate Openly

Research shows that communication style is more important than commitment levels, personality traits or stress in predicting which couples will stay happy. Healthy couples don’t avoid conflict, but they do know how to keep the lines of communication open. Happy couples know that the best conversations happen without the distraction of phones, tablets and laptops.

2. Don’t Forget the Small Things

Saying please and thank you shouldn’t be reserved for the company. Manners are important – even with the person you’ve been with for 20 years. Extend the same respect to your spouse as you would to a visiting guest. Say please and thank you, make polite conversation and why not offer your partner a drink? A few manners and niceties will go a long way to maintaining a culture of mutual respect.

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3. Exercise Together

Studies show that couples who exercise together are not only healthier, but more satisfied with their marriage. Psychology Today cites several studies that report that the symptoms of physiological arousal (the type of high you get from exercise) mimic the effects of sexual and romantic arousal. If you work out together, you will feel sexy, and in love!

4. Go On Vacation

A couple’s retreat can be energizing for a relationship, but so can traveling separately! Many happy, healthy couples take their own short vacations, or have regular trips away with a social group. Being alone, meeting new friends, or enjoying adventures without your partner can be very empowering. Ultimately, you will return to your partner energized, enthusiastic- and more in love than ever.

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    5. Laugh

    Laughter relaxes the whole body, boosts the immune system and releases endorphins. Laughter expert, Lesley Lyle, author of the book Laugh Your Way To Happiness, says that smiling and laughing will make you feel better -even if it is forced! So, even if you and your loved one are both having a hard day, try smiling and laughing for no reason at all. The physical act of laughing will make you happier and healthier.

    6. Eat together

    Families that eat together, stay together. The supper table is a place for couples and their family members to connect and to receive nourishment – both physical and spiritual. Eating healthy food together at a table will not only encourage good family nutrition, but provides a regular, sacred space for conversation and laughter.

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      7. Have Sex Every Day

      Having sex every day removes the anxiety that some couples feel when it comes time to “perform”. In his book, How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!), author Douglas Brown claims that having sex every day not only reduced this tension, but brought him and his wife closer together, after 14 years of marriage. Plus, sex itself can lower blood pressure, improve sleep, reduce stress and even prevent prostate cancer! Couples who have sex every day, claim that it not only strengthens their relationship, but improves their health.

      8. Switch roles once in a while

      Boredom and routine can make a relationship stagnant. If hubby always drives, why not switch it up next week, so she can take the wheel? Or if she always cooks, why not suggest a few meals prepared by him? Switching roles will not only mix things up a little- it may make you appreciate things from your partner’s perspective. It goes without saying that switching roles in the bedroom can spice up a relationship. If your partner usually initiates sex, maybe it’s your turn!

      9. Never Go to Bed Angry (But Do Sleep On An Argument)

      There is an old saying, “never go to bed angry”. But is half-past midnight really the time to discuss a problem? If you have a disagreement in the evening, do not discuss things if you are both tired. Set a time to talk the following day, say goodnight, and sleep on it. Things will be much clearer in the morning.

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        10. Be tolerant of physical change

        As your partner and you grow old together, you will both mature and change – and because you have grown so comfortable together, you may be quick to point out flaws in each other. But, if you want your happy relationship to last, you should never mention the the stretch marks, the beer belly or the bald spot! No matter how old and wrinkly you both get, the answer to “How do I look?” is always: “You look beautiful (and I love you)”.

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        10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

        10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

        Failure occurs everyday, in school, jobs, housework, and within families. It is unavoidable, irritating and causes pessimism.

        While the thought of flinging your hands in the air and walking away is all too appealing, take a second to connect with the people who have been there and survived.

        Here are 10 famous failures to success stories around the world that will inspire you to keep going and achieve greatness:

        1. J.K. Rowling

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          During a Harvard commencement speech, Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling outlined the importance and value of failure.[1]

          Why? Simply because she was once a failure too.

          A few short years after her graduation from college, her worst nightmares were realized. In her words,

          “I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears that my parents had had for me, and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.”

          Coming out of this failure stronger and more determined was the key to her success.

          2. Steve Jobs

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            The now revolutionary Apple started off with two men in a garage. Years later we all know it as a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees.

            Yet, almost unbelievably, Steve Jobs was fired from the very company he began.

            The dismissal made him realize that his passion for his work exceeded the disappointment of failure. Further ventures such as NeXT and Pixar eventually led Jobs back to the CEO position at AppleJobs said in 2005:

            “I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.”

            Lost your job today? Keep kicking and you could be just like this guy!

            3. Bill Gates
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              Bill Gates was a Harvard dropout. He co-owned a business called Traf-O-Data, which was a true failure.[2]

              However, skill and a passion for computer programming turned this failure into the pioneer of famous software company Microsoft, and the then 31-year-old into the world’s youngest self-made billionaire.

              In his own words:

              “It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.”

              This isn’t to say that dropping out of Harvard will make you into a billionaire, but maybe that shiny degree isn’t worth as much as the drive and passion to succeed.

              4. Albert Einstein
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                The word ‘Einstein’ is associated with intelligence and synonymous with genius. Yet it is a famous fact that the pioneer of the theory of general relativity, Albert Einstein himself, could not speak fluently until the age of nine. His rebellious nature led to expulsion from school, and he was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School.

                His earlier setbacks did not stop him from winning the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1921. After all, he believed that:

                “Success is failure in progress.”

                To this day, his research has influenced various aspects of life including culture, religion, art, and even late night TV.

                Just because you haven’t achieved anything great yet, doesn’t mean you can’t be an Einstein yourself.

                5. Abraham Lincoln

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                  Failing in business in 1831, suffering a nervous breakdown in 1836, defeated in his run for president in 1856, Abraham Lincoln was no stranger to rejection and failure. Rather than taking these signs as a motivation for surrender, he refused to stop trying his best.

                  In this great man’s words:

                  “My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.”

                  Lincoln was elected in 1861 as the 16th President of the United States of America.

                  The amount of rejection you receive is not a defining factor. Success is still within your reach.

                  6. Michael Jordan

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                    “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

                    This quote by retired basketball legend Michael Jordan in a Nike advertisement speaks for itself.

                    It would be an easy misconception that Jordan’s basketball skills revolve around natural talent. In fact, in his earlier years,  basketball coaches had trouble looking past the fact that Jordan didn’t reach the minimum height. It was years of effort, practice, and failure that made the star we know today.

                    7. Steven Spielberg

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                      Regarded as one of the most influential filmmakers of all time, Steven Spielberg is a familiar household name. It is surprising to realize therefore that the genius behind Jaws and E.T. had poor grades in high school, getting him rejected from the University of Southern California three times.

                      While he was in college, he caught the eye of executives at Universal, who signed him as a television director in 1969. This meant that he would not finish his college degree for another 33 years.

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                      Perseverance and acceptance of failure is the key to success, after all.

                      “Even though I get older, what I do never gets old, and that’s what I think keeps me hungry.”

                      Bad grades in high school aside, there is no questioning the genius involved.

                      To date, Spielberg has directed 51 films and has been awarded three Oscars.

                      8. Walt Disney

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                        Mickey Mouse creator Walt Disney dropped out of school at a young age in a failed attempt at joining the army.[3] One of his earlier ventures, Laugh-o-Gram Studios, went bankrupt due to his lack of ability to run a successful business. He was once fired from a Missouri newspaper for “not being creative enough.”

                        Yet today, The genius behind Disney studios is responsible for generations of childhood memories and dreams. From Snow White to Frozen, Disney will continue to entertain the world for generations to come.

                        The logic behind this is simple:

                        “We don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious… and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”

                        9. Vincent Van Gogh
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                          During his lifetime, Vincent Van Gogh suffered mental illness, failed relationships, and committed suicide at the age of 37.

                          He only ever sold one painting in his life, pinning him a failure as an artist. However that did not put a damper on his enthusiasm and passion for art.

                          He would never know that years and years after his death he would become known as a key figure in the world of post-impressionism, and ultimately, one of the greatest artist that ever lived.

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                          He would never know that he became a hot topic in art classes and his image was going to be used in TV, books and other forms of popular culture.

                          In the words of this great, but tragic man:

                          “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

                          10. Stephen King

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                            As a paranoid, troubled child, tormented by nightmares and raised in poverty, it is no surprise that Stephen King grew up to the title: “Master of Horror”.[4]

                            An addiction to drugs and alcohol were his mechanisms to cope with the unhappiness he felt with his life. The frustration he felt towards multiple rejections by publishers in combination with illicit substances caused him to mentally contemplate violence towards his own children.

                            These intense emotions were those that he focused onto his writing. And that’s why he said:

                            “We make up horros to help us cope with the real ones.”

                            Writing became his new coping mechanism, and this is how the master author we know today grew to success.

                            Fail more often in order to succeed

                            Like Albert Einstein said, failure really is just success in progress. If you’d rather not to fail, you will probably never succeed.

                            Success comes from moments of frustrations when you’ll be most uncomfortable with. But after you’ve gone through all those bitter times, you’ll become stronger and you’ll get closer to success.

                            Don’t be afraid to fail. In fact, start failing, and start failing often; that’s how you will succeed.

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