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8 Undeniably Positive Things About Being Single on Valentine’s Day

8 Undeniably Positive Things About Being Single on Valentine’s Day

We live in a couple-oriented world; but finding yourself single on Valentine’s Day isn’t actually such a calamity as idle talkers clamor. For that matter, if they are that eager to teach you how to live, it’s probably because they are bored with their ‘full lives’.

So ignore anything the media or the public opinion may try to impose on you. If you are single, it’s because you like it this way. You can be awesome all by yourself, and there are many reasons to be happy on your own on Valentine’s Day.

1. Treat Yourself with What You Love

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    Valentine’s Day celebrates romantic love, but why cannot it be a day to love yourself? Just as lovebirds prepare surprises for each other, spice up your day by giving yourself treats, as if out of the blue. Drop into your favorite café and have an extra big cup of something heart-warming (and probably some delicious dessert!). Visit a restaurant and relish a gourmet dinner instead of cooking at home. Buy a book or a stylish accessory you’ve long wanted – in a nutshell, get or do something that pleases you and reflects your personality, unlike a pink stuffed bunny or an inane romantic comedy.

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    2. Your Schedule Is Yours, All Yours

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      Think about it like this: you live your life on your own terms, and there is no need to apologize for it to anyone. If there’s a party or a club meeting you’re interested in (not related to Valentine’s Day, obviously) – enjoy your time there without having to feel guilty for preferring it to a ‘romantic evening’ (which are so often tediously boring). Grab a notebook and a pen and visit a park or someplace else to sketch trees, birds, people or whatever comes to mind. Or if you feel like cleaning and de-cluttering your home – knock yourself out!

      3. Save Money

      During Valentine’s Day shopping spree people buy tons of knickknacks because they are expected to, and it can cost a pretty penny. You, avoiding all the Valentine’s Say expenses, can put this money to much better use – save for that Caribbean vacation you’ve been planning for, for example.

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        4. Go on a Trip to Wherever You Want

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          Darting off and travelling wherever you want, whenever you like, without fitting it into somebody else’s plans is another perk of living on your own. You’re not tied down to someone else’s schedule, preferences, or budget – you can set your own schedule and enjoy your freedom as an individual.

          5. Flirt with Whomever You Want

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            Whether you stay at home or take a trip, chances are you’ll come across many a person who is also single this day. So if you are feeling lonely, it may be a good time to look for someone who feels the same. And who knows – perhaps this time you will really meet the right someone.

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            6. Throw a Party and Celebrate with Your Single Friends

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              You can certainly find single people among your friends – so why not get together, have fun at the expense of all the cheesiness around and just have a jolly good time?

              7. Get Together with People Who Really Matter in Your Life

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                Since everyone around you is busy celebrating Valentine’s Day, why not get in touch with people who are truly dear to you? You’d probably want to call on your parents or grandparents, or get together with friends you were so close with back in college. Sharing fun and warmth with someone you care about is a gift you give them – and yourself, not yet another ‘sweet nothing’.

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                8. Know How to Be Happy On Your Own

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                  When all is said and done, being single means that you are not limited by anything or anyone in your life. You may go in any direction with no obligations pulling you down. You may stay single your entire life or find the right person – tomorrow or in ten years’ time. You are free, which is already enough to be happy. So don’t look the other way, don’t miss out on that happiness!

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                  Last Updated on June 19, 2019

                  6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

                  6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

                  I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

                  Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

                  It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

                  1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

                  It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

                  Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

                  When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

                  2. Trust the Muse

                  Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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                  When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

                  “The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

                  The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

                  If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

                  The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

                  Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

                  3. Remember to Be Authentic

                  Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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                  How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

                  For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

                  One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

                  Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

                  Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

                  4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

                  I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

                  One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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                  Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

                  A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

                  Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

                  5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

                  It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

                  We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

                  If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

                  You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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                  6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

                  As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

                  The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

                  Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

                  Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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