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10 Simple Reasons You Should Feel Excited About Your Day

10 Simple Reasons You Should Feel Excited About Your Day

Every day is only as good as you make it. Need a pick-me-up? Here are 10 simple reasons you should feel excited about your day.

1. You are alive.

Every day, another 146,357 exit stage left and don’t come back onstage to perform again in this show called “Life.” I realize this might be a grim way to start this list, but a healthy dose of truth just might help you snap out of that sluggish existence. Be excited that you are still alive and kicking. Your clock is ticking. Time is a limited resource, so get out there and make things happen.

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2. You are blessed.

Do you have a roof over your head, food to eat, and money to afford life’s basic necessities? Are you able to express yourself freely? Can you move your body without pain? Could you name at least a few people who care about you very much?

3. You are loved.

Take a moment to think about all of the people in your life. Not merely the ones you see on a regular basis, but all the people who have added meaning to your life throughout your entire existence. It’s hard to imagine all of the people who you have touched in some way, isn’t it? Be excited about the monumental impact you have already made in the world (and you’ve only just started!)

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4. You are unstoppable.

People who say, “I can’t,” have it all wrong. What they really mean is: “I won’t.” Sure, you might not be able to achieve an outrageously bold goal the first time (or the first hundred times) you try it, but who says that means it can’t be done? It is inevitable that we will mess up sometimes. Failure happens. Be excited that failure does happen because that just means you get the opportunity to become a better version of yourself and try again (but better this time).

5. You can go anywhere.

You could eat at a brand new restaurant that features a cuisine that your palate has never had the pleasure of tasting. You could go to a park you have never visited and enjoy a never-before-seen (to your eyes) view of nature. You could take a day off, fill up a tank of gas, and start driving to a city an hour or two away that you have never visited for a random day-cation. So many places to go!

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6. You can do anything.

You could do something totally insane like get drunk and perform your favorite ’80s song at karaoke. You could call up a friend you’ve lost touch with and ask them out for lunch. You could surprise your partner with an unplanned romantic trip to the park with just the two of you, a warm blanket, a bottle of wine, the crisp fall air, and stars overhead. So many things to do!

7. You have important work to do.

If you could accomplish one thing (only one thing!) before you died, what would that be? Even more importantly: why is this important to you? Figure that out and go make it happen. Develop a sense of urgency. Do the work. If not you, who will?

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8. You have limitless resources.

The internet can teach you how to do almost anything. You could learn how to speak German, tie a knot, do a head-stand, bake cookies, or whatever your heart desires. Anything you want to learn is an internet search away, so no excuses.

9. You will do great things.

Stop looking at every day as an isolated event and see life for what it is: an inter-connected journey that tells a story about who we are. Every day, no matter how good or bad, is but a dying star in the glorious Universe that is your life. Keep your eye on the Big Picture to stay encouraged.

10. You will never walk alone.

Treat other people with respect and you will be respected. Love other people without paying much thought to your differences. Seek out new people to share your life with because everything is more fun with friends. Every day is another opportunity to make a positive impact in someone’s day. You could play a starring role in a positive memory that they hold onto for the rest of their life.

How do you get excited about your day? Tell us in the comments!

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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