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10 Reasons Why an Emotional Partner Is Really Good for You

10 Reasons Why an Emotional Partner Is Really Good for You

As human beings, there is nothing more familiar than the experience of emotions. Life experiences can rely on the emotion a person feels during any given time. Happiness and similar positive emotions can lead to a good, productive day. Sadness, and similar negative emotions on the other hand can lead to lack of energy and unproductivity. It’s needless to say, emotions can have a significant impact on our well-being and state of mind.

If you thinks, it is difficult enough for a normal person to go through periods of feeling deep and uncontrollable emotions, then consider the possibility that some people go through these periods 24/7.

If you are an emotional person, or know someone who is, then this should make sense to you. Although characteristics vary from person to person, there is something a majority of emotional people have in common: According to Psych Central, most emotions in day-to-day life are experienced much more dramatically than the usual. Even situations that wouldn’t normally be emotional suddenly become a  big deal. Emotions can fluctuate several times in a short period of time, as drastically as laughing and crying within the hour.

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Knowing the implications of being around an emotional person, some people may not have the tolerance for an emotional partner. Though they do have downfalls like any other normal person, it is worth remembering that there are also a lot of pros to outweigh the cons. Here are some reasons as to why having an emotional partner is seriously worth considering.

1. They have a unique view of the world.

Boring relationships are not for everyone. Since emotional people are generally affected by various stimuli differently to normal people, they have a deeper, more creative outlook on life according to an article from Create Your True Life. This can provide results ranging from more interesting conversations to different ways of decorating your house.

2. They hold greater sympathy for others.

Nothing is greater than knowing someone understands how you’re feeling. Especially when that person happens to be your significant other. Emotional people have the ability to feel what others are feeling, meaning something greatly affecting you will most likely affect them as well.

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3. They usually put a lot of responsibility upon themselves.

We have all experienced moments wherein people deny responsibility associated with their actions. In a relationship, this kind of denial can lead to unnecessary arguments and weakens your basis of trust. An emotional partner knows when they are responsible for something, so yet another plus.

4. They pay great attention to details due to their sensitivity.

According to an article by Psych Central, emotional people are usually perfectionists. The results of this personality trait can vary from a very tidy household to a partner who actually remembers your birthday and who makes sure they don’t forget to buy anything from the shopping list.

5. They are more in touch with their inner emotions.

As a general rule, you can’t give something that you don’t have. So in a relationship, it is difficult to support a partner who is struggling with their inner emotions when you yourself are unfamiliar with your own mental struggles. An emotional partner is beneficial to those who may not be so comfortable with their emotional state.

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6. They get the hidden meanings.

You don’t always have to verbally spout out your emotions just so your partner is aware of them. Emotional partners can pick up the subtle hints. No awkward emotion spillings or misunderstandings. Honestly, they understand without a word.

7. They have a good connection with others.

They do not have to be the most talkative people, but they will often have a good connection with their friends, partners, colleages and family members. This makes them good at working in groups and means that they probably connect in relationships really well, too.

8. They are very precise in their decision making process.

Decisions should not be made hastily. While it could take an emotional partner a bit longer than most people to make a decison, at least you know your partner’s decision was thought through.

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9. They will cry when watching chick flicks as much as you do.

Being more emotionally reactive is a major factor in the lifes of highly emotional people, according to an article by Huffington PostMostly aimed at the ladies, the sensitivity of an emotional partner means that not only will they be more likely to watch chick flicks than a normal guy, but they will also probably feel the plot just as much as you do. No bribes needed!

10. They are highly conscientious people.

Rude people are not fun to be around, and you must be crazy thinking it’s not difficult to deal with a rude partner. The good news for people with emotional partners s that they generally have really good manners. They are self aware and know how they affect those around them. Needless to say, they wont be caught trash-talking the in-laws.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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