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10 Reasons to Travel With Your Partner Before Marriage

10 Reasons to Travel With Your Partner Before Marriage

Before making the ultimate commitment, you want to be sure that the person you are making that commitment with is the right one. Some people say the best way to do this is to live with your partner, in order to really get to know them, but the ultimate test is definitely travel. Travel broadens the mind and is the best way to widen your horizons. However, it does push people to their absolute limits. Below is a list of reasons why you should travel with your partner before marriage.

1. Being away from your partner’s natural surroundings

Traveling away from the comforts of home serves as the primary test of one’s ability to adapt. Not being around everything that is familiar to you or simply being faced with the unexpected tests how well you can cope in situations like this. You want to be with somebody who is able to adapt well when situations change unexpectedly.

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2. Exploration pace

When you arrive at a new place it’s important to see if your partner matches your exploration pace. If you are the type who wants to lie in all day while they want to go out and explore, or if you are the opposite and want to explore while they want to lie in, that’s a very important factor to consider. The pace at which they live their life needs to match yours in order for the relationship to work.

3. Making memories

If you know your partner is the one, traveling is the perfect opportunity to go on an epic adventure and make long-lasting memories. Plus it would make for incredible pictures to add to the wedding video montage.

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4. Compromise

A big part of marriage is compromise. In traveling to different places, you’ll be confronted with situations that will challenge the two of you and force you to make decisions. The big test here is how well you both compromise, and whether your partner is willing to compromise with you.

5. A test of patience

Delayed flights, delayed baggage, and long queues are just the tip of the iceberg when traveling. You can see how much patience your partner has when dealing with situations like this. You can also see if you have the patience to deal with your partner when they lose theirs.

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6. Stepping up

If you miss your connecting flight, lose your luggage, or get sick during your travel expedition, that’s the perfect opportunity to see how your significant other reacts. You can see if your partner steps up, takes control of the situation, and deals with the problem at hand—a very important characteristic to have when considering marriage. It’s also a test of whether you trust your life in this person’s hands.

7. Mutual exhaustion

Travel is a perfect opportunity to test both your limits when you are exhausted. Traveling with your partner will involve a lot of sleepless nights and shifting of time zones. You will be able to see how much you can tolerate on two hours of sleep and how much they can tolerate as well.

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8. The spending test

As you travel with your partner, you can see how both your spending patterns match up. If they don’t, you can also see if you are willing to adapt your spending habits to match theirs or vice versa.

9. Cultural infusion

Arriving in new places involves being around cultures that are different to what you are used to, which is an experience. You can see if your mate soaks in the culture and appreciates it or if they dismiss it and are insensitive.

10. The values test

New cities mean you get to explore the things you value the most. If you are into museums and historical artifacts that’s what you’d want to be exploring. This is a perfect time to see what your partner values. You can see if you both share the same interests and if you don’t, does it cause problems? This is an important factor to weigh out before making the ultimate commitment.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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