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10 Reasons to Travel With Your Partner Before Marriage

10 Reasons to Travel With Your Partner Before Marriage

Before making the ultimate commitment, you want to be sure that the person you are making that commitment with is the right one. Some people say the best way to do this is to live with your partner, in order to really get to know them, but the ultimate test is definitely travel. Travel broadens the mind and is the best way to widen your horizons. However, it does push people to their absolute limits. Below is a list of reasons why you should travel with your partner before marriage.

1. Being away from your partner’s natural surroundings

Traveling away from the comforts of home serves as the primary test of one’s ability to adapt. Not being around everything that is familiar to you or simply being faced with the unexpected tests how well you can cope in situations like this. You want to be with somebody who is able to adapt well when situations change unexpectedly.

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2. Exploration pace

When you arrive at a new place it’s important to see if your partner matches your exploration pace. If you are the type who wants to lie in all day while they want to go out and explore, or if you are the opposite and want to explore while they want to lie in, that’s a very important factor to consider. The pace at which they live their life needs to match yours in order for the relationship to work.

3. Making memories

If you know your partner is the one, traveling is the perfect opportunity to go on an epic adventure and make long-lasting memories. Plus it would make for incredible pictures to add to the wedding video montage.

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4. Compromise

A big part of marriage is compromise. In traveling to different places, you’ll be confronted with situations that will challenge the two of you and force you to make decisions. The big test here is how well you both compromise, and whether your partner is willing to compromise with you.

5. A test of patience

Delayed flights, delayed baggage, and long queues are just the tip of the iceberg when traveling. You can see how much patience your partner has when dealing with situations like this. You can also see if you have the patience to deal with your partner when they lose theirs.

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6. Stepping up

If you miss your connecting flight, lose your luggage, or get sick during your travel expedition, that’s the perfect opportunity to see how your significant other reacts. You can see if your partner steps up, takes control of the situation, and deals with the problem at hand—a very important characteristic to have when considering marriage. It’s also a test of whether you trust your life in this person’s hands.

7. Mutual exhaustion

Travel is a perfect opportunity to test both your limits when you are exhausted. Traveling with your partner will involve a lot of sleepless nights and shifting of time zones. You will be able to see how much you can tolerate on two hours of sleep and how much they can tolerate as well.

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8. The spending test

As you travel with your partner, you can see how both your spending patterns match up. If they don’t, you can also see if you are willing to adapt your spending habits to match theirs or vice versa.

9. Cultural infusion

Arriving in new places involves being around cultures that are different to what you are used to, which is an experience. You can see if your mate soaks in the culture and appreciates it or if they dismiss it and are insensitive.

10. The values test

New cities mean you get to explore the things you value the most. If you are into museums and historical artifacts that’s what you’d want to be exploring. This is a perfect time to see what your partner values. You can see if you both share the same interests and if you don’t, does it cause problems? This is an important factor to weigh out before making the ultimate commitment.

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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