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10 Questions That Prove You’re Doing Better Than You Think

10 Questions That Prove You’re Doing Better Than You Think

Life can be a roller-coaster of an adventure with highs and lows that rock your emotional being. I know it’s easy to fall into the trap of agonizing over things beyond our control, and to be totally honest with you, that very thing has been my activity of choice over the last month. Long story short, some unexpected bills and other unfortunate circumstances have added a significant amount of stress to my life, so I’ve been guilty of playing the, “Why me?” game myself. But the reality of the situation is this: stressing out over things beyond your control will not make your problems go away; it will make them a lot worseAnd the more I think about it, the more I realize I have a lot to be thankful for that I’ve been taking for granted. Do you have stressful, negative thoughts that you can’t get out of your head? I’m sorry to hear it and I know the feeling, but you’re doing better than you think. Don’t believe me? I’ll prove it. Just ask yourself these ten questions.

1. Are you reading this article?

If so, you have a valuable tool at your disposal. The power of the Internet is limitless. You can learn about anything you desire, connect with old friends, explore job opportunities, search for support communities, and network with people all around the world.

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2. Can you go outside without fear of death?

Car bombs and mass shootings are a regular event in some countries, so be happy you have it so easy.

3. Did you eat something today?

One out of eight people in the world are suffering from hunger, so be thankful that you’re not one of them.

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4. So you’re stressed out about what to do with life?

Good. That means you’re ambitious and won’t settle for whatever life hands you. Channel your nervous energy into positive action, because consistent hustle always wins.

5. Do you hate your job?

At least you have one unlike the 11,500,000 people who are currently unemployed in the United States. If you have dreams of self-employment (and enough savings to support yourself), I’m sure an unemployed person would be happy to trade places with you so that you can pursue your passion.

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6. Is there a roof over your head?

I don’t know about you, but I’m glad I’m not at risk of shivering in the cold when winter comes.

7. Did you fail at something recently?

Failure is the most effective teacher you’ll ever meet, so be happy you learned a lesson. Stop looking at failure as a bad thing and see it as a learning opportunity. Improve yourself in some way every time you fail and eventually, you will become so developed that the only option left is success.

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8. Are you mad because your pet ate, destroyed, or pooped on something?

Before you answer that question, think about how happy your pet has made you over the years and ask yourself, “Would I trade that feeling for the world?” Didn’t think so. Yelling at it won’t make you feel any better, nor will your pet understand what all the ruckus is about, so just shrug it off. Live alone and feeling lonely? Adopt a pet and you’ll likely end up with the most loving and loyal companion you’ll ever meet.

9. Could you stand up right now if you wanted to?

Movement should be an expression of joy and thankfulness. You have working limbs and a body that can carry you wherever you want to go in this beautiful world. The next time you catch yourself putting off exercise, think about all the people in the world who are confined to wheelchairs. Some people don’t move because they can’t, so move because you can.

10. Are you feeling a little better about life now?

If this article made you thankful for things you’ve been taking for granted, I challenge you to make a list of every specific thing in your life that you’re happy about today. I would bet my bank account that you’ll discover you’re doing better than you think. What are you thankful for right this second? Tell us in the comments and you just might make somebody’s day.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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