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10 Life Difficulties Only Tall People Can Understand

10 Life Difficulties Only Tall People Can Understand

Are you over 6 foot? You probably despise riding public transport and staying over at someone’s place as the couch always tends to be too short. Here are ten more life difficulties any tall person can absolutely relate to:

1. Hearing all those shabby lines and recycled jokes

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    People are not original with their jokes about your height. If you got a dollar each time you hear: “What’s the weather like up there?”, “Can we stand back to back for a pic?”, “Do you play basketball?”, “What did your mother feed you as a child? Miracle Grow?” etc, you’d be a millionaire today. Yet, the most frustrating is that some people still find it witty and are 100% sure you have never heard that before.

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    2. Flying anywhere

    Firstly, you are always asked to put something in the upper baggage storage. Secondly, economy class was not designed with even a single thought for tall people. I don’t even want to mention low-cost airlines where you basically have to sit with your knees pulled up to your chin. Sometimes we just have to splurge for those luxurious seats with extra leg room to sit next to a much shorter passenger who’s still complaining!

    3. Standard-sized furniture

    Kitchen stalls, desks, sofas and even toilets are designed for “normal-sized” people. Your office desk is too low, your chair is uncomfortable in every possible way and you can make it even lower to have your computer at your eye level. You often get cut when slicing veggies and spill salt, sugar or whatever as it’s just too low for you to watch properly what you do. Getting a massage isn’t your best relaxation method either – the tables are always too short.

    4. Pants equal to capris

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      Your awesome cozy pajama pants turn into capris after the first wash. High-waisted shorts are not your thing either as they seriously need to make inseam more than 2 inches. Dresses look like shirts on you and shirts never have the right sleeve and collar length. I know bare ankles are trendy this season, but it’s damn cold in winter!

      5. Talking to shorter companions in loud places

      How many times have you got severe neck pain after having a night out at a crowded bar? Or a music gig? Either you stand in silence and sip your drink or spend the night bending down to hear your mates talks and looking awkward.

      6. Being a grabber

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        Can you, please, fetch me that book/ mag/ cookie/ backpack/ cat from that top shelf/cupboard/overhead storage/tree?

        7. Hiring clothes

        So you need a wetsuit for diving/rafting or sky gliding. Good luck getting a decent size! XL versions will either be too short or too short and too loose. Just deal with the fact that no what epic extreme sports you are doing, people would still laugh at your ridiculous outfit on the photos.

        8. Amusement parks are not your thing.

        You simply don’t fit properly in those tiny roller coaster sits and even if you do, you have serious concerns about your safety and always have to watch your head if there’s a tunnel ahead.

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        9. Being easily spotted

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          You always stand out in the crowd, so your friends can easily call you up and you rarely have troubles locating your buddies at jam-packed event either. Yet it get’s really awkward when you try to sneak unnoticed (good luck!), avoid someone or just pretend you didn’t see them (duh, how could you from that high?!). The apogee of this is when random people approach you and ask if you can direct them to their friends.

          10. Caressing is always clumsy

          You think your hugs feel like a clamp. Or worry about smashing into your rib cage. Your partner has to stand up on tip toes when you kiss or you have to lean down really really low if they are shorter. Cheek kisses isn’t your type of greeting either. It’s hard to side-hug someone as either you end up leaning too low to place your arm around their shoulders or they have to clasp you around the waist.

          The struggle is real as a tall person! But overall, the benefits outweigh the difficulties.

          Featured photo credit: mendhak via flickr.com

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          Published on April 7, 2021

          6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

          6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

          Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

          While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

          1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

          Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

          If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

          In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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          2. They Make Everything Transactional

          Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

          For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

          Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

          A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

          Some statements to be wary of include:

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          • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
          • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
          • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
          • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

          3. They Criticize Everything

          One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

          However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

          Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

          • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
          • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
          • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
          • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

          4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

          We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

          For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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          This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

          5. They Socially Isolate You

          Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

          Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

          This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

          In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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          6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

          It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

          Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

          Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

          • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
          • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
          • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
          • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

          Final Thoughts

          It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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