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10 Life Difficulties Only Tall People Can Understand

10 Life Difficulties Only Tall People Can Understand

Are you over 6 foot? You probably despise riding public transport and staying over at someone’s place as the couch always tends to be too short. Here are ten more life difficulties any tall person can absolutely relate to:

1. Hearing all those shabby lines and recycled jokes

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    People are not original with their jokes about your height. If you got a dollar each time you hear: “What’s the weather like up there?”, “Can we stand back to back for a pic?”, “Do you play basketball?”, “What did your mother feed you as a child? Miracle Grow?” etc, you’d be a millionaire today. Yet, the most frustrating is that some people still find it witty and are 100% sure you have never heard that before.

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    2. Flying anywhere

    Firstly, you are always asked to put something in the upper baggage storage. Secondly, economy class was not designed with even a single thought for tall people. I don’t even want to mention low-cost airlines where you basically have to sit with your knees pulled up to your chin. Sometimes we just have to splurge for those luxurious seats with extra leg room to sit next to a much shorter passenger who’s still complaining!

    3. Standard-sized furniture

    Kitchen stalls, desks, sofas and even toilets are designed for “normal-sized” people. Your office desk is too low, your chair is uncomfortable in every possible way and you can make it even lower to have your computer at your eye level. You often get cut when slicing veggies and spill salt, sugar or whatever as it’s just too low for you to watch properly what you do. Getting a massage isn’t your best relaxation method either – the tables are always too short.

    4. Pants equal to capris

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      Your awesome cozy pajama pants turn into capris after the first wash. High-waisted shorts are not your thing either as they seriously need to make inseam more than 2 inches. Dresses look like shirts on you and shirts never have the right sleeve and collar length. I know bare ankles are trendy this season, but it’s damn cold in winter!

      5. Talking to shorter companions in loud places

      How many times have you got severe neck pain after having a night out at a crowded bar? Or a music gig? Either you stand in silence and sip your drink or spend the night bending down to hear your mates talks and looking awkward.

      6. Being a grabber

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        Can you, please, fetch me that book/ mag/ cookie/ backpack/ cat from that top shelf/cupboard/overhead storage/tree?

        7. Hiring clothes

        So you need a wetsuit for diving/rafting or sky gliding. Good luck getting a decent size! XL versions will either be too short or too short and too loose. Just deal with the fact that no what epic extreme sports you are doing, people would still laugh at your ridiculous outfit on the photos.

        8. Amusement parks are not your thing.

        You simply don’t fit properly in those tiny roller coaster sits and even if you do, you have serious concerns about your safety and always have to watch your head if there’s a tunnel ahead.

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        9. Being easily spotted

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          You always stand out in the crowd, so your friends can easily call you up and you rarely have troubles locating your buddies at jam-packed event either. Yet it get’s really awkward when you try to sneak unnoticed (good luck!), avoid someone or just pretend you didn’t see them (duh, how could you from that high?!). The apogee of this is when random people approach you and ask if you can direct them to their friends.

          10. Caressing is always clumsy

          You think your hugs feel like a clamp. Or worry about smashing into your rib cage. Your partner has to stand up on tip toes when you kiss or you have to lean down really really low if they are shorter. Cheek kisses isn’t your type of greeting either. It’s hard to side-hug someone as either you end up leaning too low to place your arm around their shoulders or they have to clasp you around the waist.

          The struggle is real as a tall person! But overall, the benefits outweigh the difficulties.

          Featured photo credit: mendhak via flickr.com

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          Last Updated on January 24, 2021

          How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

          How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

          Do you say yes so often that you no longer feel that your own needs are being met? Are you wondering how to say no to people?

          For years, I was a serial people pleaser[1]. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time, especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

          But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

          It took a long while, but I learned the art of saying no. Saying no meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. When that happened, I became a lot happier.

          And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

          The Importance of Saying No

          When you learn the art of saying no, you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

          In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

          Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey, considered one of the most successful women in the world, confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything.

          Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

          Warren Buffett views “no” as essential to his success. He said:

          “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

          When I made “no” a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success, focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

          How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

          It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say no.

          From an early age, we are conditioned to say yes. We said yes probably hundreds of times in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work, to get a promotion, to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

          We say yes because we feel good when we help someone, because it can seem like the right thing to do, because we think that is key to success, and because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist.

          And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves.

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          At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we are feeling bad that we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

          The message, no matter where we turn, is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

          How Do You Say No Without Feeling Guilty?

          Deciding to add the word “no” to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say no, but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of no that you could finally create more time for things you care about.

          But let’s be honest, using the word “no” doesn’t come easily for many people.

          3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

          1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

          Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time, especially you haven’t done it much in the past, will feel awkward. Your comfort zone is “yes,” so it’s time to challenge that and step outside that.

          If you need help getting out of your comfort zone, check out this article.

          2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

          When you want to learn how to say no, remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it: who else knows about all of the demands in your life? No one.

          Only you are at the center of all of these requests. You are the only one that understands what time you really have.

          3. Saying No Means Saying Yes to Something That Matters

          When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else that we may care more about. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

          6 Ways to Start Saying No

          Incorporating that little word “no” into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

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          1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

          One of the biggest challenges to saying no is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no will reflect poorly on you?

          Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

          2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

          Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because of FOMO, even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

          Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better[2].

          3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say No

          Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say yes because we worry about how others will respond or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose their respect. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

          Keep in mind that saying no can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way.

          You might disappoint someone initially, but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to. And it will often help others have more respect for you and your boundaries, not less.

          4. When the Request Comes in, Sit on It

          Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

          Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say no. There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

          5. Communicate Your “No” with Transparency and Kindness

          When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest[3] to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

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          How do you say no? 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

            Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

            Clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

            6. Consider How to Use a Modified No

            If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” as this will give you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

            Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task, but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

            Final Thoughts

            Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

            Use the request as a way to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself.

            Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project, but not by working all weekend. You’ll find yourself much happier.

            More Tips on How to Say No

            Featured photo credit: Chris Ainsworth via unsplash.com

            Reference

            [1] Science of People: 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You
            [2] Anxiety and Depression Association of America: Tips to Get Over Your FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out
            [3] Cooks Hill Counseling: 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

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