Every January, most of us start the New Year with fresh new resolutions, including the simple and realistic ones and some bizarre, impractical promises. But along the way, a sizeable number of us start to slowly lose sight of the goal and end up ditching all of them, one after the other. We may blame the failure to fulfill the resolutions on being over-ambitious, other more demanding commitments, and more excuses.
It is January, February or whatever month of the year and being a distinguished psychologist, Susan David knows why many resolutions go unfulfilled. She, therefore, sets out to help using an inspiring post – “Want to help your resolutions stick? Make this one-word change.”
Read about Ted and why Alex, his adopted son is worried!
Susan had a London-based client who also doubled as her friend called Ted – an obese, intrepid traveler and ardent lover of cheeseburgers and beers. Ted along with his wife, chose to adopt Alex, an orphaned Romanian boy whose artistic skills are simply phenomenal. But realized that his dad would die because of his failure to stick to his resolution of keeping fit, he did what not even a single ordinary boy can do. He did art of himself, desolate and abandoned!
How “The Orphan” changed Ted and made him re-look at his resolutions
Touched and inspired by the painting, Ted didn’t do what many would have done immediately. He, instead, started changing his lifestyle in gradual steps. As Susan writes, Ted “doubled down on discipline and willpower,” not because he needed to impress his wife and Alex or appear like he’s making a change. He’s a testament to how Susan’s “Want-to” ideology can help a person achieve any New Year’s goal with ease.
Lessons extracted from the post
It isn’t easy to stick to your promises and utterly fulfill all of them. But with a tiny tweak made, not in a rush, but rather by positioning your goals in terms of “want to” not “have to,” everything soon gets back on course to fruition. You see, she explains that behind every “want to” goal is unexplained genuine interest and values that are powered by personal enjoyment and the inherent importance of attaining the goal.
You can choose to pursue your goals out of the fear of failure and end up failing terribly. Consequently, you may set out to conquer your resolutions because, out of them, is a genuine appreciation from within your heart. She says that life is a series of small wins that, all of them combine to be one mega win. These aren’t even half of the lessons obtained from Susan’s “Want to help your resolutions stick? Make this one-word change,” and I’d recommend that you go through it.
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