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In the Hot Seat: The Gold Digger

In the Hot Seat: The Gold Digger

Can you spot the sugar daddy? He’s the older, affluent man with a young, attractive woman on his arm. They’re at nice restaurants, where she’ll fawn over him, and he’ll pick up the tab. They shop at branded stores and stay in swanky hotels.

Gold diggers are the subjects of songs, gossip, and scorn. Most people believe the man is unsuspecting and think the woman is predatory. What does it take to be a gold digger, and is the title reserved only for women?

We’ve compiled responses from actual gold diggers, Tiffany, Matthew, and Tina, to see if we can understand why they do what they do.

Living above your means

Lifehack: Why did you become a gold digger?

Tiffany: I always knew I wanted a lifestyle I couldn’t get as an actress. I figured I could trade my good looks and personality for financial stability.

Lifehack: What have you learned from this experience?

Tiffany: There’s nothing wrong with going after what you want.

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Tina: I wasn’t madly in love with my husband at first, but I found him to be kind and attractive. I learned that the security he offered made it possible for me to grow to love him.

Lifehack: Do your family and friends know what you do?

Tiffany: Yes. My family isn’t happy with the way I handle my love life. My friends are all looking for sugar daddies too.

Lifehack: What does being a gold digger entail?

Tina: Sugar babies have to be appealing to wealthy men. We not only need to look nice and dress well, but we also need to be interesting.

After you’ve snagged a guy, you can look forward to fancy gifts and maybe even an allowance. Usually a sugar daddy is too busy to spend lots of time with you, but he wants a companion for his free time. It’s like he’s keeping you on retainer for when he’s around.

Lifehack: Share a bad experience you had as a sugar baby.

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Tina: The guy I was with spotted a younger and better looking woman at the club. I poured on extra charm keep him distracted. When we left the club, I thought my worries were over.

As we were waited for the car, she showed up. He invited her to spend the night with us. This crossed a line for me.

Lifehack: Is this a thinly-veiled form of prostitution?

Tiffany: No. Prostitution is a transaction. There isn’t a value that the guy can put on what I do. I’m caring, compassionate, and I improve his life.

Lifehack: What’s it like to be a guy who goes after rich women?

Matthew: I’d say it’s more difficult. There are fewer wealthy women to choose from, but with persistence you can find someone.

You can get security from a sugar mama, but it never lasts. I’m more like their pet. I do what they ask and sleep with them when they want. I’ve never been with one for more than a year, but I know a guy who wound up having a real love connection with his.

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Lifehack: Is it getting more common for guys to be involved with rich older women?

Matthew: Women have a lot more freedom today. They’re empowered to go after what they want, and a lot of them want a young guy. This trend will continue as women get better jobs and have less time to deal with the issues from men their own age.

Lifehack: How long will you do this?

Tiffany: Until I find someone to marry me. My plan is to never work hard for the finer things.

Lifehack: Do you intend to have a real relationship or marry someone closer to your age in the future?

Tiffany: I feel good about the caliber of men I’m dating. I don’t mind if they’re older. I don’t think I can go back to dating someone who makes less than me.

Matthew: Yes. I am feeling pretty used up after dealing with cougars for so long. I’m ready to find a nice girl my own age that I can introduce to my parents.

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Lifehack: What’s something you wouldn’t expect to know about this lifestyle?

Tina: Some men are aware that they’re entering into a relationship with a sugar baby. They may keep more than one, and make different arrangements with each.

Lifehack: What are some extravagant things you’ve received from your sugar daddy?

Tiffany: I got an apartment in Dubai. He does a lot of business there, and he wanted to have me on standby.

Money does buy happiness for some

The experiences of the “sugars” do vary. Some have fallen in love, and others are just waiting for something better to come along. The position of a gold digger is more complicated than we realized.

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Anna Chui

Anna is a communication expert and a life enthusiast. She's the Content Strategist of Lifehack and loves to write about love, life, and passion.

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Last Updated on March 24, 2021

8 Smart Home Gadgets You Need in Your House

8 Smart Home Gadgets You Need in Your House

We’ve all done it. We’ve gone out and bought useless gadgets that we don’t really need, just because they seemed really cool at the time. Then, we are stuck with a bunch of junk, and end up tossing it or trying to sell it on Ebay.

On the other hand, there are some pretty awesome tech inventions that are actually useful. For instance, many of the latest home gadgets do some of your work for you, from adjusting the home thermostat to locking your front door. And, if used as designed, these tools should really help to make your life a lot easier—and that’s not just a claim from some infomercial trying to sell you yet another useless gadget.

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Take a look at some of the most popular “smart gadgets” on the market:

1. Smart Door Locks

A smart lock lets you lock and unlock your doors by using your smartphone, a special key fob, or biometrics. These locks are keyless, and much more difficult for intruders to break into, making your home a lot safer. You can even use a special app to let people into your home if you are not there to greet them.

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2. Smart Kitchen Tools

Wouldn’t you just love to have a pot of coffee waiting for you when you get home from work? What about a “smart pan” that tells you exactly when you need to flip that omelet? From meat thermometers to kitchen scales, you’ll find a variety of “smart” gadgets designed to make culinary geeks salivate.

3. Mini Home Speaker Play:1

If you love big sound, but hate how much space big speakers take up, and if you want a stereo system that is no bigger than your fist, check out the Play:1 mini speaker. All you have to do is plug it in, connect, and then you can stream without worrying about any interruptions or interface. You can even add onto it, and have different music playing in different rooms.

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4. Wi-Fi Security Cameras

These are the latest in home security, and they connect to the Wi-Fi in your home. You can use your mobile devices to monitor what is going on in your home at all times, no matter where you are. Options include motion sensors, two-way audio, and different recording options.

5. Nest Thermostat

This is a thermostat that lives with you. It can sense seasonal changes, temperature changes, etc., and it will adjust itself automatically. You will never have to fiddle with a thermostat dial or keypad again, because this one basically does all of the work for you. It can also help you to save as much as 12% on heating bills, and 15% on cooling bills.

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6. Smart Lighting

Control your home lighting from your remote device. This is great if you are out and want to make sure that there are some lights on. It is designed to be energy efficient, so it will pay for itself over time because you won’t have to spend so much on your monthly energy bills.

7. Google Chromecast Ultra

Whether you love movies, television shows, music, etc., you can stream it all using Google Chromecast Ultra. Stream all of the entertainment you love in up to 4K UHD and HDR, for just $69 monthly.

8. Canary

This home security system will automatically contact emergency services when they are needed. This system offers both video and audio surveillance, so there will be evidence if there are any break-ins on your property. You can also use it to check up on what’s happening at home when you are not there, including to make sure the kids are doing their homework.

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