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We Are All Flawed By Our Perceptions Of Reality

We Are All Flawed By Our Perceptions Of Reality

The story is stand-alone yet linked.  The Life to come by Michelle de Kretser offers meditations on intimacy, loneliness, and our flawed perception of reality. Enormously moving, gorgeously observant of physical detail, and often very funny, this new novel by Michelle de Kretser reveals how a shadows cast by both the past and the future can transform and pose the current.

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    Vibrancy, vividness, depth and quality acting

    Occurring in Australia, France, and Ceylon, The Life to Appear is about the reports we tell, nor explain to ourselves as individuals, as societies, and as countries. Driven by a vibrant cast of characters, it explores necessary emigration, the art of fiction, and ethnic and class discord. As Hilary Mantel has written, “I so enjoy Michelle de Kretser’s powerful technique–her characters feel in existence, and she can create a sweeping narrative that encompasses a number of yet still retain the sharp, almost hallucinatory detail.”

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    Astoundingly real, mentally stimulating

    This extraordinary book by a long way Franklin-winning creator Michelle de Kretser will punch to your spirit and make you feel the characters come alive in such a way that their complete biopsy will be presented to you in a matter of sentences. Her writing is very witty, but it additionally goes deep, prepared at every point by the harmless and far-reaching intellect that is clearly reflected in her writing; nothing is simple, yet it’s presented in such a way that the reader will have no trouble comprehending it. Michelle is a dazzlingly attained author who orders all the strokes. Her repertoire extends from a hallucinatory sense of location to a mastery of suspense, superior verbal artistry and a formidable skill in navigating those twisty pathways where record and mindset entwine.

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    A standout book full of witty humor

    The life to come is an absolutely amazing book. It’s an honest, funny and moving portrait of modern life. de Kretser’s characters are often unlikable, but because she’s so unsparing in her pictures of them – every flaw goes under the microscope. It took me a while to settle into the structure, which leaps around with time a little bit and shifts focus quite all of a sudden, but this really is an impressive achievement. The characters act as individuals and feel alive; her writing can a sweeping narrative which includes years, yet still withhold the pointed. The whole book is depicted in an almost hallucinatory and vivid way. Michelle de Kretser is aware how to create a gripping report. She creates quickly and softly of wonderful and horrendous things which makes her book the life to come even more tantalizing for the readers.

    Reading Duration: 7 hours 16 minutes

    If you want your senses to be tantalised and mental resources to be stretched, then this book is the perfect specimen for improving your view of the world. Get The Life to Come from Amazon at $24.96

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    Why Am I Exhausted? The Real Causes and How to Fix It Forever

    Why Am I Exhausted? The Real Causes and How to Fix It Forever

    Do you say “I’m exhausted” all the time? Do you constantly feel exhausted for no reason?

    Fatigue shows up in many ways, including pure exhaustion, the inability to concentrate, anger, frustration and behavioral issues, memory problems, decreased work performance, and slower reaction times.

    Chronic fatigue has also been linked to medical problems, including obesity, hypertension, depression, diabetes, as well as increased automobile accidents.

    We attempt to combat fatigue with coffee, sugar, energy drinks, vitamins, and a variety of other products that claim to increase our energy and stamina. But what if your exhaustion is trying to tell you something?

    If you’re getting enough sleep and you’re still feeling exhausted, it’s time to stop, take a step back, and look at what else is contributing to your exhaustion.

    As a life-coach and consultant with a diverse background, I like to look at things from a holistic view – from multiple levels – including your body, mind, and spirit.

    So, before you reach for that next cup of coffee, the 3 pm sugary snack, or the toxic energy drink, let’s look at some reasons why you might be tired all the time. And more importantly, let’s see what you can do about it.

    Here are 11 potential reasons why you’re exhausted even when you get enough rest and what you can do about it.

    1. You Are out of Alignment Mentally, Emotionally, or Spiritually.

    Essentially, you’re off track with who you are and what works for you. Maybe you’re unhappy, unfulfilled, stressed out, or just plain bored with some areas of your life. You might be in a relationship that isn’t working, a job you can’t stand, or a situation that drains your energy.

    Think about a time in your life when you were in the flow, in the zone, and totally engaged and excited about what you were doing. How much sleep did you need then? Even after only a few hours, my guess is you probably found yourself jumping out of bed in the morning without an alarm clock, excited to embark the day.

    On the flip side, think about a time in your life when you were in a relationship or job that zapped your energy. No matter how much sleep you got, you probably found it difficult to get out of bed in the morning and were tempted to hit that snooze button just a few more times.

    We all have things that make us feel great and energized and things that completely zap our energy.

    Maybe you’re someone who likes to move quickly but you’re drowning in detail; maybe you’re someone who thrives when you are on top of things and you’re feeling like everything is completely out of control. Or maybe you thrive on spontaneity and variety and you’re bored with your life.

    When I asked my 11-year-old daughter why she thought people are tired even when we get enough rest, here’s what she said:

    “Maybe people are bored and so they’re tired.”

    Ever wonder why you can’t drag your kid out of bed for school on the weekdays but they pop out of bed on the weekend? Perhaps this is the culprit.

    I had a client share this sentiment recently as she described a period in her life: “My boss sucked, the work was boring and it made me tired all the time.”

    Exactly.

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    When you’re doing things that align with who you are – in environments that align with what you need, you will feel more energized and alive. On the contrary, when you’re in environments that go against your grain, you will feel drained and de-energized.

    What Can You Do?

    Take a step back and identify what’s not working. Figure out what you want and work towards it. Do things that give you energy.

    What makes you feel healthy and alive, energized, and excited? What gets you in the flow and makes you feel most like you? Aim to get more of that in your life.

    Find more ways to be in alignment with who you are by reading this article: How to Get Motivated and Be Happy Every Day When You Wake Up.

    2. You Are out of Alignment Physically.

    When we are structurally out of alignment, it can cause all sorts of issues. When things aren’t moving properly, it makes it hard for your body to do its job. Not to mention, pain is exhausting and zaps energy.

    And we are pretty hard on our bodies, aren’t we? We drag them around and tell them what to do. They need to be taken care of too.

    Here’s what Chiropractor, Dr. Ruth Ziemba, who specializes in NSA (Network Spinal Analysis) has to say:

    All of life is energy. We are energy. Any disturbance or blockages to the energy flow creates imbalances. Physical, mental and emotional stressors can cause subluxations (misalignment of the vertebrae) which interfere with signals getting clearly through your body. This can result in many health problems, including fatigue and insomnia.

    Recently, I was feeling tired all the time – and felt like I was doing “everything else” right. So, I went to see my chiropractor and a cranial sacral therapist. Two days later, I felt much more energized and clear in my head.

    I love the analogy I was once given by a chiropractor: “It doesn’t matter how well you can play an instrument if the instrument is out of tune.”

    Such is true with our bodies.

    What Can You Do?

    Get some bodywork. This might include getting a massage, acupuncture, chiropractic, reiki, cranial sacral therapy – anything that works for you.

    Don’t know where to start? Ask a friend or colleague for a recommendation.

    Even better if you have a friend in the field who can refer you to another practitioner. And make sure to schedule regular bodywork, not just when you need it.

    3. You Are Not Eating Right (or Enough).

    What and how much you eat has significant effects on your energy levels.

    While there are many different diet protocols, there is one thing all the experts can agree on: sugar and processed foods make you feel sluggish and exhausted.

    They make your blood sugar go haywire, causing you to feel a brief period of energy followed by a crash. Paradoxically, those are the very things we reach for when we need to get some energy.

    What Can You Do?

    I’ve found two things to be consistently true.

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    One, you need to eat real, clean food. The food you’re putting into your body is either real or it’s not. Avoid processed foods and especially refined sugars. You’re going to feel so much better for it.

    Two, find what works for YOU – Gluten-free, Paleo, Mediterranean, high-fat, plant-based, you name it. Experts and well-meaning friends and family may tell you what’s best, but no one knows your body as well as you do.

    Pay attention. Do you feel energized or fatigued after you eat certain foods? What works – and what doesn’t for YOU? Our bodies have intrinsic wisdom if we are willing to listen – and hear them.

    4. You Are Not Really Sleeping.

    We’ve established that you’re (hopefully) getting enough sleep. But are you getting enough high-quality sleep?

    Some of the top causes of poor sleep quality include being on electronics right before bed, interruptions, an uncomfortable mattress or the wrong pillow, grinding your teeth, an inconsistent sleep routine, or the fact that you’re not getting through all of the sleep cycles.

    What Can You Do?

    Start with the basics – get off your electronics at least an hour before bed, make sure you have a comfortable pillow and mattress, set a consistent sleep routine, reduce outside noise and sleep in a well-darkened room or wear an eye mask.

    If you have difficulty falling asleep or have poor sleep quality, this guide will help you get a good night’s sleep back: Poor Sleep Quality Comes from All the Things You Do Since Morning.

    5. You Are Stressed or Worrying Too Much.

    When you’re stressed, you produce more cortisol (the stress hormone), which can significantly affect your sleep.[1] This is why one of the common side effects of stress is sleep problems.

    On top of stress hormones, excessive worrying can drain your energy. When you worry, you’re using energy.

    It’s like when you have an app on your phone that takes up a lot of battery and you have it constantly running the background, your battery will drain more quickly. Such is true with worry and stress.

    I think of this very simply. We all start the day with 100 units of energy to use throughout the day. If you’re using half of your energy units worrying, you’re inevitably going to be tired.

    What Can You Do?

    Find things that reduce your stress levels. I’ve seen clients have great success with yoga, meditation, and exercise. Worrying too much? Get a clear plan in place to take action on what’s worrying you.

      6. You Are Not Breathing Deeply Enough.

      Deep breathing increases circulation by bringing oxygen to your muscles and brain. This increased oxygen content in the bloodstream leads to greater energy and healthier muscles, organs, and tissues.

      To highlight the benefits of deep breathing, I reached out to a longtime Yoga Instructor and Ayurveda Wellness Counselor, Vivica Schwartz. Here’s what she shared:

      “Most people breathe into the chest only (shallow breathing) and don’t allow the breath to reach deeper into the abdominal region, due to stress and anxiety. Shifting the breath down, so that it expands the belly (and all the muscles that comprise the diaphragm) is one of the best ways to shift our awareness, quiet the mind, release tension and increase our energy levels”.[2]

      What happened when you started to read this one? Did you start breathing more deeply? Great, you’re already on your way.

      What Can You Do?

      Make a conscious effort to breathe deeply, more often. Try this from Vivica:

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      1. Place one hand on your chest and the other on your lower belly.
      2. Breathe smoothly in and out through the nose, noticing how your breath expands three-dimensionally in the ribcage.
      3. Now, begin to shift the inhalation into the lower abdomen first, so that the lower hand rises first, then fill the chest area.
      4. Reverse the process on the exhalation, emptying the chest area first, then the lower belly.
      5. Continue like this for a few rounds, visualizing the diaphragm contracting and pushing down and expanding the belly area.

      7. You Are Hanging out With the Wrong Crowd.

      Have you ever known someone who “sucks the life out of you”? After spending time together, you feel tired, drained, and exhausted?

      “Energy vampires” do just that – they suck your energy. It doesn’t matter how much sleep you’re getting. If you’re spending time with people who drain your energy, you’re going to feel tired.

      What Can You Do?

      Grab some garlic and your stake and ditch the energy vampires. Make a conscious effort to hang out with people who feed your soul and make you feel energized and alive.

      If you need a little help to spot these people out, you can check this article out: 15 Signs Of Negative People.

      8. You Are Not Moving.

      There’s been a lot of research conducted over many years that shows physical activity and exercise improves energy and decreases fatigue.

      In a widely acknowledged 2006 study published in Psychological Bulletin, researchers analyzed 70 studies on exercise and fatigue which involved more than 6,800 people.

      Over 90% of the studies showed the same thing: sedentary people who completed a regular exercise program reported improved fatigue compared to those that did not exercise.[3]

      What Can You Do?

      Get moving! Find ways to increase your exercise and movement.

      General guidelines are 150 minutes per week of moderate exercise or 75 minutes per week of vigorous activity (or a combination of the two). This can be as simple as taking the stairs instead of the elevator, walking 20 minutes a day, or participating in a sport you enjoy.

      Here’re some tips for you: How to Instantly Fall in Love With Moving and Start Shaking off the Extra Pounds

      9. You Are Dehydrated.

      The human body is composed of 50-65% water. Some parts of our bodies, like our brain, heart, and lungs are more than 70% water. This means even mild dehydration can cause your energy levels to fall.

      Fatigue is a telltale sign you are dehydrated. In fact, in a survey of 300 doctors in the UK, 1 in 5 patients who saw their doctor for symptoms such as fatigue and tiredness simply weren’t drinking enough water.[4]

      What Can You Do?

      First and foremost, drink enough water. A simple rule of thumb is eight 8-ounce glasses per day. And before you reach for your coffee in the morning, reach for a glass of water first.

      However, Doctor and hydration expert Dr. Zach Bush noted,

      “Proper hydration is not simply infusing your body with water. More specifically, it’s about getting the water inside your cells. To do that, you need to improve the electrical charges across your cellular membranes. Strategies that improve the electrical charge across your membranes include: reducing EMF (electromagnetic field) exposure, increasing electrolytes, and boosting your fiber intake.”

      So, try this intensive hydration protocol:

      Drink 4 ounces of water every 30 minutes from 7 am to 7 pm for 3 days. During this intense hydration, add electrolytes to every other 4-ounce dose. Then give your body a break from food and water between 7 pm and 7 am.

      Learn more about intracellular hydration with Dr. Bush here.

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      10. You Are Too Busy.

      You know the saying, “If you want something done, ask a busy person.” I say, leave the busy person alone. They clearly have enough on their plate.

      I work with many clients, especially moms, who wonder why they are so tired all the time. When I ask them to tell me about “a day in their life”, I get something like this:

      6 am wake-up, exercise, get the kids off to school, work, drive to after-school activities, get dinner on the table, do housework, coordinate schedules, bath and bedtime (for the kids of course), and then back to work after the kids go to bed.

      And they wonder why they are tired?

      I get it. I’ve been there and I have to be careful of this myself. As a working mom of three young girls, who also wants to be social and active in my community, I know all too well the life of being busy. I’ve had to reign it in, create strategies, and make very conscious decisions.

      What Can You Do?

      Look at your life as an outside observer or “fly on the wall”.

      What do you notice? Maybe you need to learn to say no? Perhaps you need to take a step back and identify what’s most important? Or set better boundaries?

      Perhaps you need to delegate more, outsource, or just get some stuff off YOUR plate! Take just ONE thing and start from there.

      If you want extra advice on this, check out this guide: The Ultimate Guide to Prioritizing Your Work And Life.

      11. There Is Something Else Going On.

      If you’ve tried everything above – you are getting enough sleep and you are still tired, you may want to see your doctor or healthcare professional to uncover any underlying issues.

      Among other things, what leads to exhaustion could be medication side effects and other health concerns, including thyroid and adrenal dysfunction, anemia, and sleep apnea.

      What Can You Do?

      Talk to your doctor. Seriously, make an appointment.

      If you’re sleeping enough and doing all the “right” things above and you still feel tired, it’s important to identify what could be the cause.

      The Bottom Line

      If you’re sleeping enough and still find yourself tired and exhausted all the time, it’s time to step back and see which of these reasons resonate with you.

      To get a different result, you have to DO something differently. In order to be more energized and less exhausted, you’re going to need to make some changes.

      What changes will you make? Are you going to eat better, exercise more, stay hydrated, take something off your plate, reassess the job you hate, or relationship that’s draining you?

      Take a few minutes right now, and think of 1 to 3 things you’re going to try. Write them down in your journal, on your phone, or send an email to yourself.

      Change takes action and it’s time for a change. You’ve got this. Take action now and your energy levels will be glad you did!

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