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Last Updated on February 27, 2018

The 36 Most Important Questions You Will Ever Ask In Your Love Life

The 36 Most Important Questions You Will Ever Ask In Your Love Life

Sometimes, people meet strangers who suddenly become friends – they get closer and perhaps become lovers. Sounds pretty easy, right? But hey! Without the proper steps, it’s never an easy task to achieve. Many people lose their possible lovers because they fail to get along or ask the right questions. Here’s the big one; Josh Haner in his article, Try the 36 Questions on the Way to Love, gives an in-depth insight into how mutual vulnerability calls for more intimacy. Apparently, Josh Haner’s article will make you understand how to find your love and foster closeness in no much time.

36 questions to finding your love!

Getting to know someone, and suddenly a developing friendship could be quite a herculean task if the proper steps are not taken. Haner’s article will not just open your eyes into what being in love is, instead it would go deep to give you access to 36 questions that can make you get closer to a stranger, and perhaps become lovers. If you’ve ever come across a stranger that you admired so much to the point that you wish you had talked to him/her, then you can attest to the fact that throwing friendly questions matters on your way to love. You don’t need to be caught up in such scenario anymore if you can lay your hands on Haner’s work and follow the instructions diligently.

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Am I doing it right?

Often, I wonder what stops me from walking up to a stranger, start up a conversation and not sound boring. Perhaps I lack what to say or ask – this is common to many people nowadays, and that’s where John Haner’s work and the guide come to play. You just need to know the questions to chip in at that beginning time to win the stranger’s heart and get closer.

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Get this; mutual vulnerability fosters closeness, and you may not get close to a stranger if you cannot be bold and ask series of personal and friendly questions. You’ll be doing yourself right to read this article. Then you’ll learn how to improve your love life and get along with strangers without hassle. To read the full article, click here.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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