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Is Living In This Moment Enough For You?

Is Living In This Moment Enough For You?

Life’s troubles can be somewhat confounding and a tough challenge to scale. Whilst trying to solve the myriad of problems life throws on our way, we often consider many factors especially those ones that are without us.

The articleWhen this moment is enoughby Allison Carmen explains by sharing her personal story about succumbing to life’s pressures and allowing external pressures owing to her goals and aspirations, and what we all feel we should grasp out of life determine how we act, feel and react. Allison also shares how she brilliantly overcame the challenge and recommends it as the perfect solution for life’s raging troubles.

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We often focus on what we don’t have and neglect all the present moments

Life is fleeting, one moment you are here, the next moment, you are there. Truly, most of life’s troubles arise from a place of uncertainty about the future and usually until this future comes, we allow pressure and stress take over the directions of our lives. Consequently, we start to “obsess about what we do not have or what might not be,” we never get to enjoy whatever we have and are experiencing in any instant; we do not count our present achievement as anything significant, instead we look forward to the next success and after achieving that, we aspire towards the next and the train never ends. There is no mincing words about this, it is suffering and it should be discontinued and not allowed to fester for long.

Getting out of its hold does not come easy. In fact, it can only be successful through the implementation of a well thought out plan of choosing to live and appreciate the present, the moment, above everything else. Living in the moment entails feeling satisfied about the present, feeling joy and comfort and with an open heart, looking forward to the future with many thanks for the past.

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Why we have to fear about the future if no one knows what would happen

The fear of the future in its entirety is centered around another fear – the fear of failure. Unfortunately, our society is one that gives no room for failing. This creates a fear that further creates room for these life problems to thrive. The question then is this – can living in the moment suffice? Look at it this way. Who tries to put out a fire without removing the fire source first? In essence, as much as we try to live in the moment, we try to appreciate the things we have, while looking forward to the future in high hopes that our efforts are sufficient to deliver results, we should equally cut off channels that maybe unnecessary demands of us.

The 14th Dalai Lama says “The purpose of our lives is to be happy,” in essence, while we pursue those goals and results, they should only come after the pursuit of happiness. Happiness is all encompassing and if properly and diligently pursued, it will lead to the actualisation of all other goals without undue pressure on the way to achieving them. “Life is a gift that allows us create the future we want.”

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Don’t sacrifice the moment.

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Last Updated on October 13, 2020

10 Things You Can Do Now to Change Your Life Forever

10 Things You Can Do Now to Change Your Life Forever

“How do I change my life?” If you’re asking this question, remember that the one constant thing in our life is change. The more we resist it, the tougher our life becomes. Instead of avoiding it, ask how you can change your life to work with the changes happening around you.

We are surrounded by change, and it is the one thing that has the most dramatic impact on our lives. There is no avoiding it because it will find you, challenge you, and force you to reconsider how you live your life.

Change can come into our lives as a result of a crisis, choice, or chance. In any situation, we are all faced with having to make a choice – do we make the change or not?

We cannot avoid the unexpected events in our lives. What we can control is how we choose to respond to them. It is our power of choice that enables us to activate positive change in our lives.

Acting on our power of choice provides us with more opportunity to change our lives for the better. The more opportunities we create to change our lives, the more fulfilled and happier our lives become.

If you’re wondering how to change your life, here are 10 things that you can do to get started.

1. Find Meaning

Spend some time trying to sort out what is important in your life and why it is important.

What is it that you want to achieve in your life? What are your dreams? What makes your happy?

Your meaning in life gives you purpose and sets the direction of how you want to live your life. Without meaning, you will spend the rest of your life wandering aimlessly with no direction, focus, or purpose.

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If you’re not sure where to begin your search for meaning, check out this article.

2. Create a Dream Board

When we were children, we would daydream all the time. We were skilled at dreaming and visualizing what we would be when we grew up. We believed that anything was possible.

As we grew into adults, we lost our ability to dream. Our dreams became hidden once we started to feel like achieving our dreams was impossible.

A dream board is a great way for you to start believing in your own dreams again. Seeing your dreams every day on a dream board brings them life. It will also act as a daily reminder to refocus your energy and direct it toward what you really want to achieve.

3. Set Goals

Once you know what is important in your life and what your dream life looks like in the long run, you need to take action and set your long-term, medium, and short-term goals. Acting on these goals will enable you to achieve your dreams and change your life[1].

Set goals when you want to change your life.

    Remember that your goals may change. Always be flexible with setting and achieving your goals as things in life change, and your goals need to reflect these changes. It’s the small steps that you take that create the momentum when you’re learning how to change your life.

    4. Let Go of Regrets

    Regrets will only hold you back in life. If you spend all your time thinking about the past, you will miss the present and the future.

    You cannot change what you did or did not do in the past, so let it go. The only thing you have control over now is how you choose to live your present and future life. Each time you experience a negative thought about your past, challenge it.

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    If you want to have some fun and visualize letting go of your regrets, try writing down each regret on a piece of paper and then burying it in your backyard or burning it in a bonfire with friends.

    5. Do Something That Scares You

    This is all about you choosing to step out of your comfort zone and see limitations from a different perspective.

    Public speaking is one of the most frightening things anyone can do. I was petrified of public speaking; however, I knew that I wanted to be a motivational speaker. So I joined Toast Masters to overcome my fear of public speaking.

    My first speech was terrible. My knees were knocking, I broke out in a sweat, and I couldn’t stop shaking. But I did it, and the feeling of completing the speech was better than I ever expected. I chose to keep going, and now I earn a living as a motivational speaker.

    Make a list of scary things that you would like to do but are too afraid to. Start small, put a plan in place, and then go do them. Never stop doing scary things if you genuinely want to avoid complacency and comfort and change your life.

    6. Start Living a Well-Balanced Life

    Our health does not remain the same. Our physical, emotional, and spiritual state changes as we get older. What we can control, however, is how we feed our minds and our bodies.

    Living a balanced and healthy life builds our resilience to the physical changes of our body. Exercise is the best way in which we can attain a positive and optimistic attitude toward life.

    Living a healthy, well-balanced life with lots of exercise is a lifestyle choice that will give you a happier and more fulfilled life. Exercise is an incredibly powerful tool that will improve your life and help you feel good.

    What kind of exercise is best? One recent study found that patients with mild to moderate depression experienced similar decreases in symptoms regardless of whether they participated in light, moderate, or vigorous exercise groups[2]. The bottom line: just get moving.

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    If you’re wondering how to ensure a well-balance life, take a look at this guide: The Ultimate Guide to Prioritizing Your Work And Life

    7. Face Your Fears

    It’s easy to ignore our fears and hope that they will go away. Unfortunately, it does not work like that.

    If you want to change your life, learn to master your fears so they can’t control you any longer. Whether it’s a fear of failure, loneliness, or the unknown, it can stop you from living your life to the fullest. We know when our fears are controlling our lives because we feel discontent and unfulfilled.

    Once we face our fears we take back our power to choose how we want to live our lives and when we do this we change our lives forever.

    Learn how to face your fears with this guide: How to Overcome Fear and Realize Your Potential (The Ultimate Guide)

    8. Accept Yourself

    The only person who is going to change your life is you! To create that change, you have to like yourself.

    There will be times in your life where you will face rejection, and there will be people who will not like you or your choices. Accepting who you are and loving yourself despite adversity helps you to move forward in your life.

    Find your courage, love yourself, and step out and do something crazy. Don’t worry about what anyone thinks or whether it is the right thing to do. If it feels right, act on it and go create the life you love.

    9. Live in the Moment

    Many of us tend to think that the grass is greener on the other side. Often, we get to the other side of the fence and find that this is not so.

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    The motivation to change our lives comes from our desire to be happy. We are often so busy focusing on our pursuit of happiness that we miss the joy of actually living in the moment.

    Our desire to have happiness in our lives is a desire of a future state, not of the present. We become so consumed with all our problems in the present that we miss the precious beauty of the moment.

    Sitting on the beach eating an ice-cream with your best friend is a moment of happiness. Appreciating and showing gratitude on a daily basis is experiencing happiness in the moment. Helping those in need brings us joy and happiness.

    This is what living your life in the moment is all about – don’t miss these moments because you are too busy focusing on your pursuit of happiness.

    If you want more tips for this, take a look at this article: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying

    10. Experience the Joy of Learning

    Each time you learn something new, you gain more knowledge, and with more knowledge comes more confidence.

    Learning new skills helps us to be more adaptable in new situations. It also encourages us to be more creative and innovative in our thinking, and we are, therefore, more comfortable with the unknown.

    Reading is a great way for us to learn. To fully embrace the joy of learning, pick up that novel you’ve heard so many people talking about. Once you find the genre that interests you most, devour as many pages as you can.

    The Bottom Line

    You have a choice to make as to how you want to change your life. Choosing to act on these 10 things will help you get started as you seek to improve various areas of your life. Go at it with a positive attitude and remember that change takes time. Life starts when you decide to change!

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    Featured photo credit: Priscilla Du Preez via unsplash.com

    Reference

    [1] Reach Out: Set goals like a boss
    [2] Training fast or slow? Exercise for depression: A randomized controlled trial

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