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Fighting In Front Of Your Kids Is Good

Fighting In Front Of Your Kids Is Good

Many studies suggest that fighting in front of your children can have adverse effects on their social and emotional growth. You see, these fights can impact how the children deal with their own anger in the future. But, could it be that parents have been doing it all wrong? As a parent, do you find yourself taking adult arguments behind closed doors? Find out whyconstructive marital conflicts can do more good for your kids than you think according to an articleParents fighting in front of their kids can be a good thing, in certain cases.

Argue Better, Impact More Positively On Your Kids

The message of the article is quite clear: there’s an upside to fighting in front of the kids, but parents have to do it the right way. That is, you need to fight constructively to encourage children to become independent thinkers. Jenny borrows a leaf from Adam Grant’s argument in the New York Times that the “right kind of fighting” can impact how kids think.

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Tips For Effective Fighting

There is a good reason this article can change your parenting style for the better. It offers you Adam Grant’s tried-and-true tricks on how to persuasively argue to cajole kids to think independently. For one, you need to frame your argument as a debate, not a conflict. It’s paramount that you listen as if you are wrong as well as argue as if you are right. The other party’s perspective should also be respected. Lastly, you need to acknowledge when you agree with your spouse and state what you’ve learned from it.

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The Right Kind Of Fighting Helps The Kids

Jenny Henderson has quoted reliable studies and research throughout the article. All these findings agree on two things: one, fighting in front of kids might not be all bad after all; two, it’s only the right kind of argument that instills children to become better and more independent thinkers. In fact, it’s how parents fight that matters, but not the intensity or the amount of fighting.

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Parents Fighting Shouldn’t Affect Kids’ Emotional Safety

Emotional security theory dictates that children need to feel protected. According to the article, if the fight or argument doesn’t threaten the kids’ emotional safety, then it’s all well and good. Otherwise, parental conflict can do more harm than good.

Become a better parent today – learn how fighting in front of your kids can actually improve their thinking. Read the full article here.

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

What Is the Purpose of Life and What Should You Live For?

What Is the Purpose of Life and What Should You Live For?

What is the purpose of life?

I want to answer the question by sharing a story about my friend, John.

My best friend John suddenly passed away a few weeks ago. John was a person who lived a purposeful life that was centred on his commitment and love for his family and serving others.

John did not seek out his purpose in life. He didn’t read personal development books on how to find your life purpose and he never asked the question “what should I live for?” He just knew what gave him joy and that was to serve his family and the people who were in his life.

John was that person that Ralph Emerson was referring to in his quote:

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

John was a man who showed compassion and kindness and who lived a full life with purpose and commitment. He was not a famous man who had achieved world recognition for his amazing feats. He was my long-time friend, a truly great man who to me lived his life purpose to the fullest.

Not all of us are like John who just knew what his purpose in life was and then just did it. Some of us need guidance as to how we can start this journey.

In society today, knowing your purpose of life and what you should live for has become the major criteria for measuring how happy your life is. There is a lot of pressure to know your purpose in life, becuase if you don’t know, then the chances of you living a fulfiling and happy life are nil. This is absolute rubbish.

Ralph Emerson’s states in his quote that our purpose in life has nothing to do with happiness but more to do with how well we lived our lives. That is the secret recipe to living a happy and fulfilling life.

So, how to attain purpose in life? Here are 3 very simple steps that if you follow, will help you to attain purpose and fulfilment in life.

1. Disconnect from Social Media

With social media, we are relentlessly exposed to thousands of people who present a life where they seem to be living incredibly fulfilled and successful lives with purpose.

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It seems to be for many people that figuring out your life purpose today is complicated and a drawn out process that can take forever. This is in fact not true at all.

On social media, you only see the fabulous and fun parts of peoples lives, you do not see their true life that can be as challenging and as complicated as yours. No one escapes the realities of life – those life curveballs that come from nowhere.

If you are comparing your quality of life and your happiness with those people on social media, then you need to stop. You need to find your own measures of success as to what a fulfilled happy life means to you.

Social Media will not give you what you are seeking when it comes to finding what it is that will bring joy to your life.

When you are consistently experiencing joy in your life, you are living a purposeful life. You know what the kind of life you want to live that is important to you. Using other peoples experiences of joy on social media is not best way for you to determine your life purpose.

2. Ask These 3 Key Questions to Define Your Life Purpose

To start your journey to figuring out your purpose in life ask yourself these 3 key questions:

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  • What is the legacy that I want to leave behind?
  • What will people say about me when I have gone?
  • What difference have I made to other peoples lives?

The answers to these 3 questions will help you determine your purpose in life.

Once you have defined these answers, the next step is for you is to take action and consistently demonstrate those qualities you believe are important for you to attain living a life with purpose and joy.

3. Focus on the Specific Actions That Bring You Joy

“You do not write your life with words. . . You write it with actions. What you think is not important. It is only important what you do” — Patrick Ness

Discovering your purpose in life and what you should live for is the same for everyone in the world – rich or poor. Everyone has the opportunity to live life to the fullest. It is not complex, difficult or out of your reach.

Finding your life purpose is very achievable. All you have to do is decide what it is that living a fulfilled happy life means to you and then you go do it. Go and be kind to others and live your life the best way you can every day.

Acts of kindness, generosity, gratitude and love are the core actions of living a life with purpose. If you focus on these actions on a daily basis, you will be living your life with purpose. It is at this point that the feelings of happiness fill your life.

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The more you do for others, the more happy you will be.

A Word of Warning

When you are living your life with purpose, it does not mean that you will transform into living the life of an angel.

Remember your reality – you will still have your faults, make huge mistakes, fail and have to navigate your way through the challenges that life throws at you.

However, living a life with purpose and commitment builds your resilience and enables you to deal with life challenges from a place of strength and certainty.

Your power of choice is the only thing that you have that enables you to live a life with purpose and joy. My friend John knew how to use his power of choice to the fullest. He chose to live a life with purpose and he knew what he had to do to bring joy into his life and to those people he loved – a very simple recipe to living life to the fullest.

The journey to knowing your life purpose and living your life purpose is within your reach. You are the only person who can do it and you have control over how you want to live your life.

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Remember that nobody else does – it is all down to you. I suggest that you go do it now!

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