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Want To Know How Strong You Are? Try this out

Want To Know How Strong You Are? Try this out

Whether it be at school, work or even in your personal life, I’m sure we would have all gone through a particular phase or instance where we had to evaluate what our strengths and weaknesses are. This might be when we were deciding what career path to pursue, what subjects to take, whether or not we were up to heading a particular project at work, or even deciding on shared preferences between our partner.

It is only natural that we strive to excel, and be aware of our strengths so as to harness that potential, yet being aware of our weaknesses or soft spots so as to improve. Our mentors, loved ones, or bosses can only go so far as to point that out to us. But with the CliftonStrengths finder test, it provides us with a whole new level of understanding what our potential and abilities are, to empower individuals to set, achieve and accomplish great goals.

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Highlights of the CliftonStrengths assessment

    The CliftonStrengths assessment takes about an hour to complete online. During this time, you’ll see 177 paired statements and choose which one best describes you. The assessment measures your natural patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving, so when you’re done you’ll have discovered your talents.

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    After completing the test, you will get a set of results that include your customized order of the 34 CliftonStrengths themes and personalized insights about how they appear in your life.

    One of the reports – Signature Theme Report, will show you your top 5 strengths. Research indicates that your greatest room for overall personal improvement isn’t where you’re weakest, but rather where you’re strongest!

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    From the reports and other resources to development opportunities and the ability to help your team and your organization at the work place, use your talents to accomplish great things, no matter the situation. You also receive questions you can reflect on and answer to help increase your awareness and application of each talent, no matter the facet of life.

    Unleash Your Full Potential

    Through this CliftonStrengths assessment, you will be aware of what your top strengths are and can take greater action in ensuring different areas of your life are flourishing to the fullest with these strengths. Personal awareness of your potential is an important step in achieving your goals, besides relying on feedback from others or approval from your superiors at the workplace. It will give you a greater sense of satisfaction and allow you to be in greater control of your life.

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    To do the test, visit CliftonStrength to purchase the assessment at $89.00

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    Last Updated on July 2, 2020

    Why Negative Self Talk Is Bad for You (And How to End It in 3 Steps)

    Why Negative Self Talk Is Bad for You (And How to End It in 3 Steps)

    Everyone I have met in my life wants unlimited opportunities, better relationships, a healthy body, a forgiving heart, a sharp mind, amazing skills, and financial security. If we all want these things, why can’t we accomplish them? The answer is simple: negative self talk.

    The reason why many of us can’t get there is because we have a critical inner voice inside our head that tends to be negative and convincing.

    Our inner voice is trying to convince us that we are not smart enough, strong enough, or good enough to do what we want to do in life. This invisible enemy inhibits us from pursuing the life we deserve, leading to anxiety, depression, and a higher stress level.

    If we want to reach our potential and improve our mental health, we have to take control of this inner voice and learn how to tame it and transform it into a positive force.

    It is important for us to learn more about this negative self talk before we can tame it to become a helpful positive force. Let’s start with the 4 different types of negative self-talk.

    Types of Negative Self Talk

    Studies show that there are four main types of negative self talk[1]:

    1. Filtering
    2. Personalizing
    3. Catastrophizing
    4. Polarizing

    Let’s go through these one-by-one.

    Filtering

    You magnify the negative aspect of every situation. For example, you gained three pounds this week. You focus on this, and you ignore that you have lost 20 pounds this month.

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    Personalizing

    You always blame yourself for everything. For example, you hear that your soccer practice got canceled, and you assume that it is canceled because no one wanted to be around you.

    Catastrophizing

    You always expect the worst. For example, you have a flat tire in the morning, and you automatically assume the rest of your day will be horrible.

    Polarizing

    You either see things as perfect or horrible. For example, you got mad at your son and lost your temper; therefore, you are a horrible parent.

    Next time you catch yourself talking negatively to yourself, ask yourself:

    • Am I filtering the positive out of this issue?
    • Am I blaming myself for something that I have no control over?
    • Am I expecting the worst of this?
    • Am I seeing things as black and white?

    If you answered yes to any of these questions, take a step back and consider what you can do to turn your thinking from negative to positive.

    It is important to take control of these thoughts before they become beliefs. A belief is something that you are certain about. The sooner you address these negative thoughts, the sooner you can move your life and business forward.

    3 Steps to End Negative Self Talk

    It is clear that negative self talk hinders your progress and prevents you from living the life that you deserve. Here are three methods you can use daily to overcome this innate habit.

    1. Respond to Your Inner Voice

    In a recent HBR article, Erica Ariel Fox stated that the toughest conversations any of us can have are the ones that we have with ourselves[2].

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    She mentions a story about Dominique, a high performing executive who has great self-confidence but a critical inner voice. Dominique commands everyone’s attention and respect, but not her own.

    Dominique has a serious problem when she talks to her captivated audience. She has an inner voice in her head saying, “Why should they listen to you?” I’m a fraud. I can’t do this.”

    Dominique’s inner voice will impact her performance if she does not learn how to turn it to positive self talk.

    It is clear that Dominique is filtering out all of her positive abilities and polarizing the situation. She has a lot of good things to offer, and she is not a fraud. So, the author gives her one enormous piece of advice:

    “Do not ignore your inner voice, respond to it.”

    Many executives do not shy away from having hard conversations with others, but they avoid having difficult conversations with themselves.

    She advises people not to ignore their negative self-talk, but to respond to it. If your inner voice says, “That was terrible parenting,” you can respond with, “I’m not a perfect parent, and I’m okay with it.” This will make you feel awkward at first, but it gets easier with time.

    Instead of ignoring your negative self talk, try learning to identify and respond to it kindly. Practice positive self-talk every day. Do not allow negative self-talk to rob you of your potential.

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    2. Be Kind to Yourself

    Do not say anything to yourself that you would not say to your best friend. We often say things to ourselves that are unkind, unfounded, and untrue.

    When you are passed over for a promotion, be kind to yourself. When you forget to drop your clothes at the dry cleaner, be kind to yourself. We all make mistakes, we are all imperfect, we all have bad days, but it does not make us bad people.

    When Jon Gordon[3] was 29 years old, he was facing a divorce. His wife was tired of his negativity. He made a decision to change. He developed a positive mindset, and he started to drown out negative thoughts with positive words.

    This approach saved his marriage and changed his life. He encourages his readers to be kind to themselves and to be positive. Gordon understands that being positive won’t guarantee that you will succeed, but he knows that being negative will guarantee your failure and destroy your relationships.

    If your friends cancel a dinner plan, don’t assume that no one wants to be around you. Stop personalizing events, and start framing it correctly. Your friends canceled your planned dinner because they are busy, and it has nothing to do with you.

    Always choose to be kind to yourself. If you are having a hard time being kind to yourself, surround yourself with positive, kind people who are willing to support you and provide you with immediate kind feedback when you start having negative thoughts. Extensive research shows that positive people surround themselves with positive friends that help inspire them to be positive.

    3. Stop Trying to Be Perfect

    If your goal is to be perfect, you will fail. Do not expect perfection.

    No one is perfect. Embrace imperfection. The key to a positive mindset is progress and not perfection. If you expect perfection, you will be allowing your negative self-talk to seep back into your mind.

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    As a perfectionist, you will strive to keep everyone happy, and that is an unrealistic goal. Every time you have an argument with someone, you will keep replaying the conversations in your head over and over. These conversations will be negative in nature. If you want to stop this negative self talk, stop trying to be perfect.

    Most perfectionists keep comparing themselves to other people. This habit is an official invitation to your negative self talk to reenter your mind again. Do not compare yourself to anyone. You will always find others who are better off than you.

    Instead, focus on being grateful for the great things that you have.

    Antoine de Saint-Exupery expressed this in his bestselling book Airman’s Odyssey:

    “Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.”

    Be content of what you have, and stop worrying about comparing yourself to others. Always be grateful, and when you catch yourself with negative thoughts, think of all the things you are grateful for.

    If you want some inspiration about what to be grateful for every day, here they are: 60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

    The Bottom Line

    Next time you catch yourself being negative, do not ignore your inner voice. Respond to it kindly, and give up the need to be perfect.

    You’ve got this!

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