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Stop Self-Pitying Now Because Falling Down Is An Accident, Staying Down Is A Choice

Stop Self-Pitying Now Because Falling Down Is An Accident, Staying Down Is A Choice

Life is not always easy. The one guarantee that we all have is that it can change at a moment’s notice. Sometimes this is a good thing, and other times, we face struggles. When we go through hard times, it is easy to slip into self-pity. If we place mind over matter, we’re capable of incredible feats.

Determination can help you beat the odds

The Diving Bell and the Butterfly (2007), starring Mathieu Amalric and Emmanuelle Seigner, tells the true story of Jean-Dominique Bauby (Jean-Do), former editor for Elle magazine.

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When Jean-Do suffers a stroke, he becomes trapped inside his body. Although he is paralyzed, his mind is sharp. He learns to communicate despite his physical limitations.

Move beyond what you think is possible

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    Your mindset can be your greatest asset. Jean-Do proves that we are capable of overcoming obstacles if we don’t allow them to define us. While most of us will not face physical trauma nearly as daunting, we can learn a great deal from his perseverance.[1]

    We can either be overcome by challenges, or we can look at struggle as an opportunity to learn and grow. This film is a reminder that we can be extremely resilient–even in the face of difficult circumstances.

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    Close down the pity-party. Your only limitation is your imagination.

    We all go through failures and challenges, but having the right mindset can help us overcome the lowest lows. Jean-Do’s story made me realize that I have no excuse for self-pity. His determination inspired me to have a better attitude when faced with adversity. Moments of struggle have told me the most about who I am. They made me stronger, faster, and more dedicated than I was before.

    The Diving Bell and the Butterfly gets 4 out of 5 stars for its inspirational storytelling.

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    Don’t let self-limiting thoughts get in the way of your dreams. Keep moving forward no matter where life takes you.

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    7 Signs You’re Burnt out (And How to Bounce Back)

    7 Signs You’re Burnt out (And How to Bounce Back)

    If you are in a fairly stable career, the likelihood that you’ve experienced feeling burnt out at some point is quite high. We all have moments where we get tired of doing the same thing, day in and day out. Fortunately, there are ways to get out this funk.

    Burnout can happen to any of us. It can happen as a direct result of a toxic work environment, or it can creep up on us as we pour all of our energy into doing the work that we love. Either way, when signs of burnout become apparent, they tend to look the same. Furthermore, adjustments must be made to reverse burnout and to prevent it again in the future.

    Behaviors and habits that can lead to burnout include staying up long nights working on projects, saying yes to every request or opportunity, taking on extra work from co-workers, and decreasing connections with your family members and friends outside of work.

    Outside forces, such as ineffective leadership, unclear expectations, a toxic work culture, a persistently high workload that blocks work-life balance, and no room for growth can all raise stress levels and add to burnout.

    Keep in my mind that burn out may mimic other conditions such as depression or anxiety disorder. Please see your trusted doctor or mental health provider to rule out any of these conditions.

    Keep reading for some key signs and symptoms of burnout:

    1. Poor Performance and Loss of Self-Confidence

    Noticeable declines in work performance and confidence in your ability to complete previously mastered assignments are signs of being burnt out.

    The pace of the work environment can seem faster and more demanding than ever. The goal of you doing world-class work may diminished to hopes of you barely getting by. You may have decided that staring into space or searching for a new job seems like a better alternative to working.

    Poor work performance can become a routine and often leaves the person wondering how this became a problem in the first place. You may even think that your boss will call you out on your performance sooner or later.

    How to Bounce Back:

    Think back to the motivation you had when you were hired or when you were getting your job done with ease. Think about your thoughts and actions that allow you to perform well. The ability to perform at or around this level is still within reach.

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    Make a plan to eliminate distractions at work. Also, prior to coming to work, make sure you are well rested and are eliminating interactions that drain your energy levels.

    2. Pessimism

    Talking about the amazing work you do has given way to negative talk. Constantly complaining over small tasks that didn’t bother you in the past is a sign of pessimism. Your co-workers may even point out that you have been increasingly negative with your communication lately.

    Your outlook on life, especially work, is in the dumps. It’s harder to find positive things to say.

    How to Bounce Back:

    Even in the midst of feeling burnt out, your time should be spent on forward-moving thoughts.

    Change the way you are looking at your current situation. Your body will do everything in its power to make sure that your actions are in alignment with your mindset and thoughts.

    Therefore, thoughts that are negative and self-defeating will need to undergo a productive reframe. A high level of awareness must be initiated. Coaching yourself through negative thinking can be the first step in awareness.

    When you catch yourself having negative thoughts, first ask yourself “How does this make me feel?” Then, decide if those feelings will push you closer towards your goals and priorities or keep you from taking action.

    If your thoughts are not forward-moving, ask yourself what thinking and feeling the opposite of this looks like? It may seem awkward at first, but keep at it until positive thoughts are at the forefront of your thinking once again.

    If this doesn’t work, try implementing a long-term gratitude practice. Studies have shown that increasing a sense of gratitude is a major factor in determining overall well-being and optimism[1].

    3. Feeling Unfulfilled

    Sometimes, the workplace is known for being a fast-paced, high-stress environment. Feeling like you’re part of the team and your contributions matter can really help increase your level of fulfillment.

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    When our talents and strengths are highlighted in an environment, we will thrive as we get things done.

    When we are constantly left out of vital conversations, we will feel irrelevant and as if things are happening to us and not on behalf of us.

    How to Bounce Back:

    Talk to the person in charge and discuss your concerns. Confiding in a trusted and knowledgeable co-worker prior to meeting with your boss will help to make your communication with your boss fair and objective.

    Set goals and deadlines with your boss or team leader to help increase your fulfillment. Follow up with your plan of action on your goals.

    Keep in mind that there will be some level of compromise, but making your boss aware of your viewpoint and feelings is a major step in feeling fulfilled and feeling like a contributing member of your team.

    4. Poor Sleep Quality

    Staying up late at night, tossing and turning, thinking about your day’s work can really affect your sleep quality. Studies have shown that just a few hours of missed sleep is detrimental to our performance and mental capacity[2].

    How to Bounce Back:

    If you’re burnt out, try setting a bedtime routine and stick to it. Make sure that your bedroom environment is supportive of a good night’s sleep[3].

    Bedtime routine when feeling burnt out

      Social media never sleeps, and it’s best to cut back or eliminate your social media time for about 1 hour before you go to bed. Blue light interferes with your ability to feel sleepy and messes with your sleep cycle[4]. Your electronics can be set to switch to a softer light prior to bedtime.

      5. Dread

      The thought of work sends you into a tailspin of negative thoughts and bodily sensations. You wonder if this will ever end, and the amount of tension in your neck is at an all-time high.

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      The feeling of dread can make you retreat from your daily activities to ruminate on the idea of returning to work. Feelings of dread steals valuable time.

      How to Bounce Back:

      Develop a routine to relax and practice deep breathing. Stress management is key when experiencing burnout.

      Consider a short breathing exercise that you can practice at work if dread or overwhelm creeps in. Go into an empty room or the bathroom, close your eyes, and take 10 deep breaths. Control your breathing as you inhale and fully exhale.

      Notice what time of the day you are needing to step away to take a breath and start scheduling your routines.

      Neck massages at bedtime or therapeutic massages may also help to relax your body and prepare you for the work week ahead. Keep in mind that self care is a necessity.

      6. Lashing out

      You notice that you are short-tempered and lash out at your loved ones more than usual. When you are feeling burnt out, you may find yourself less patient about certain things and snapping at your loved ones.

      You know they don’t deserve this treatment, and you want to get this behavior in check so that you can restore the loving, supportive environment you are used to having.

      How to Bounce Back:

      Be aware that your loved ones may not understand how your work environment is affecting you.

      Consider how you would feel if you were the recipient of irritable interactions when you didn’t have the whole picture of what was happening.

      Take time to explain your situation with your support system. Also, seek services through your work or independently in order to preserve the relationships within your support system.

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      7. Exhaustion

      Does the phrase “this job is sucking the life out of me” ring a bell? Mental exhaustion is totally apparent when work has taken its toll on you.

      Being too tired to do simple house chores or attend events that you once loved is a sign of exhaustion.

      How to Bounce Back:

      Rethink your priorities, and set small goals to take action daily on your priorities. If your priorities include keeping a clean living area or hanging out with your friends once a week, stick to your plans.

      You will find that your mood is improved, and you are not as drained once you are doing things in alignment with your goals and priorities.

      The Bottom Line

      Feeling burnt out can creep up on you. It can be caused by personal behaviors, habits, or toxic work environments. Regardless of the factors that lead to burnout, the signs are the same.

      Awareness is the first step of knowing what is happening. The next step is taking action based on the specific signs you are displaying.

      Recovery from burnout may look like identifying the culprit that caused you to feel burnt out so that you can continue making progress in your work.

      Recovery can also require you to make a strategic exit from your current situation to restore your peace of mind and fully recover—and never look back.

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