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10 Best Romance Movies That Reflect the Harsh Reality of Relationships

10 Best Romance Movies That Reflect the Harsh Reality of Relationships

A lot of people love romantic movies. They provide the ultimate escapism and feel-good factor when the forces of love triumphs. Most of the times, the reason why it has such an impact on us is because of the message it brings–a message of hope. Many can relate to sitting in front of a screen with loved ones–whether at home or in the cinema, and feeling teary eyed when that moment comes up which has the power to tug on heartstrings.

The best romantic movies do not just act as entertainment, but in fact, can actually teach us important lessons of life, love and relationships. Here are 10 romantic movies and what they taught us

1. Silver Linings Playbook (2012)

    Life is sometimes difficult and we can feel like we are trapped in a situation where there is no escape. But the beauty is its unpredictability as well as the people who can come into our lives when we least expect it.

    Be open to the unexpected happening. Even though you may be struggling with demons of your own, you never know who may wander into your life when you are least expecting it. Stop looking for love and let love find you.

    2. One Day (2011)

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      This is one of those romantic movies that teaches us about the importance of friendship in a relationship. Your significant other should also be your friend. And like any good friend, they should know all your good and bad points but still love you any way.

      Even if you do not end up dating your best friend, be with someone who will ultimately be one of your closest companions and someone you can rely on–no matter what.

      3. Bridget Jones’s Diary (2001)

        Love sometimes catches us off-guard and we fall in love with the person we may least expect.

        Don’t judge a book by its cover. There are sometimes connections we have with people that we may never have envisioned. Physical chemistry is important, but it is even more important that they can connect with you on other levels.

        4. What’s Your Number? (2011)

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          Stop focusing on the past. There is a reason why people didn’t make to your present. If you are single (and single for a while) you may feel nostalgic and wonder “what if” about failed relationships. But remember, if those relationships were right, they would have worked out. So the fact is, one of you was a wrong match for the other person.

          Open yourself to welcoming new people and opportunities into your life.

          5. 10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

            Don’t change who you are. If the person is right for you, they will appreciate all those things that make you different–even the things that make you uncool to everyone else.

            The right one will love you just the way you are–and they will love you even more for your flaws and quirky bits.

            6. He’s Just Not That Into You (2009)

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              Don’t wait around for someone who doesn’t behave like they want to be with you. If you find yourself always making excuses or justifying someone’s absence or lack of attention, the reality is that they are probably just not that into you. It may hurt to accept this, but taking the first step to recognizing this will be the first step to breaking free from that hurt.

              Don’t allow yourself to be nothing more than an option for someone who doesn’t see you as a priority.

              7. Love Actually (2003)

                This is one of those romantic movies that follows the lives of a few people.

                We are reminded that everyone has the same chance of finding love–it doesn’t matter who you are, where you are from or what your circumstances may be. It’s all about being in the right place and the right time. Everyone deserves love and everyone has the possibility to find it.

                8. Breakfast at Tiffany’s (1961)

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                  If someone is more interested in the other person’s status or money, it’s not real love. This has sadly become far too common with many people more in pursuit of what they can gain from a partner, as opposed to how that person makes them feel.

                  If someone truly loves you for you, the size of your bank balance, who you know or the material things they can benefit from being with you, will not matter.

                  9. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004)

                    There is sometimes no greater pain than a heartbreak, and to some people, it may feel impossible to find a way out of that anguish.

                    Don’t force healing or deny yourself the grieving process. It is important to you give yourself the time that you need. Don’t try to find quick solutions such as partying or finding someone else immediately, as ultimately, these are just misguided ways to numb the pain. Pushing yourself too hard to get over someone often makes things worse. It should not be rushed–take as long as you need.

                    10. The Notebook (2004)

                      True love never forgets and will stand the test of time. And no matter what, it will keep fighting and being loyal till the end, irrespective of the circumstances. There are no obstacles that are too big or small when it comes to real love.

                      If you want to be further inspired by some REAL life love stories to remind you that true love does still exist, check out my other article here.

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                      Writer at Lifehack

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                      20 Amazing Facts About Dreams that You Might Not Know About

                      20 Amazing Facts About Dreams that You Might Not Know About

                      Dreams — Mysterious, bewildering, eye-opening and sometimes a nightmarish living hell. Dreams are all that and much more.

                      Here are 20 amazing facts about dreams that you might have never heard about:

                      Fact #1: You can’t read while dreaming, or tell the time

                        If you are unsure whether you are dreaming or not, try reading something. The vast majority of people are incapable of reading in their dreams.

                        The same goes for clocks: each time you look at a clock it will tell a different time and the hands on the clock won’t appear to be moving as reported by lucid dreamers.

                        Fact #2: Lucid dreaming

                        There is a whole subculture of people practicing what is called lucid or conscious dreaming. Using various techniques, these people have supposedly learned to assume control of their dreams and do amazing things like flying, passing through walls, and traveling to different dimensions or even back in time.

                        Want to learn how to control your dreams? You can try these tips:

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                        Fact #3: Inventions inspired by dreams

                        Dreams are responsible for many of the greatest inventions of mankind. A few examples include:

                        • The idea for Google -Larry Page
                        • Alternating current generator -Tesla
                        • DNA’s double helix spiral form -James Watson
                        • The sewing machine -Elias Howe
                        • Periodic table -Dimitri Mendeleyev

                        …and many, many more.

                        Fact #4: Premonition dreams

                        There are some astounding cases where people actually dreamt about things which happened to them later, in the exact same ways they dreamed about.

                        You could say they got a glimpse of the future, or it might have just been coincidence. The fact remains that this is some seriously interesting and bizarre phenomena. Some of the most famous premonition dreams include:

                        • Abraham Lincoln dreamt of His Assassination
                        • Many of the victims of 9/11 had dreams warning them about the catastrophe
                        • Mark Twain’s dream of his brother’s demise
                        • 19 verified precognitive dreams about the Titanic catastrophe

                        Fact #5: Sleep paralysis

                        Hell is real and it is called sleep paralysis. It’s the stuff of true nightmares. I’ve been a sleep paralysis sufferer as a kid and I can attest to how truly horrible it is.

                        Two characteristics of sleep paralysis are the inability to move (hence paralysis) and a sense of an extremely evil presence in the room with you. It doesn’t feel like a dream, but 100% real. Studies show that during an attack, sleep paralysis sufferers show an overwhelming amygdala activity. The amygdala is responsible for the “fight or flight” instinct and the emotions of fear, terror and anxiety. Enough said!

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                        Fact #6: REM sleep disorder

                        In the state of REM (rapid-eye-movement) stage of your sleep your body is normally paralyzed. In rare cases, however, people act out their dreams. These have resulted in broken arms, legs, broken furniture, and in at least one reported case, a house burnt down.

                        Fact #7: Sexual dreams

                        The very scientifically-named “nocturnal penile tumescence” is a very well documented phenomena. In laymen’s term, it simply means that you get a stiffy while you sleep. Actually, studies indicate that men get up to 20 erections per dream.

                        Fact #8: Unbelievable sleepwalkers

                          Sleepwalking is a very rare and potentially dangerous sleep disorder. It is an extreme form of REM sleep disorder, and these people don’t just act out their dreams, but go on real adventures at night.

                          Lee Hadwin is a nurse by profession, but in his dreams he is an artist. Literally. He “sleepdraws” gorgeous portraits, of which he has no recollection afterwards. Strange sleepwalking “adventures” include:

                          • A woman having sex with strangers while sleepwalking
                          • A man who drove 22 miles and killed his cousin while sleepwalking
                          • A sleepwalker who walked out of the window from the third floor, and barely survived

                          Fact #9: Dream drug

                          There are actually people who like dreaming and dreams so much that they never want to wake up. They want to continue on dreaming even during the day, so they take an illegal and extremely potent hallucinogenic drug called Dimethyltryptamine. It is actually only an isolated and synthetic form of the chemical our brains produce naturally during dreaming.

                          Fact #10 Dream-catcher

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                            The dream-catcher is one of the most well-known Native American symbols. It is a loose web or webs woven around a hoop and decorated with sacred objects meant to protect against nightmares.

                            Fact #11: Increased brain activity

                            You would associate sleeping with peace and quiet, but actually our brains are more active during sleep than during the day.

                            Fact #12: Creativity and dreams

                            As we mentioned before, dreams are responsible for inventions, great artworks and are generally just incredibly interesting. They are also “recharging” our creativity.

                            Scientists also say that keeping a dream diary helps with creativity.

                            In rare cases of REM disorder, people actually don’t dream at all. These people suffer from significantly decreased creativity and perform badly at tasks requiring creative problem solving.

                            Fact #13: Pets dream too

                              Our animal companions dream as well. Watch a dog or a cat sleep and you can see that they are moving their paws and making noises like they were chasing something. Go get ’em buddy!

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                              Fact #14: You always dream—you just don’t remember it

                              Many people claim that they don’t dream at all, but that’s not true: we all dream, but up to 60% of people don’t remember their dreams at all.

                              Fact #15: Blind people dream too

                              Blind people who were not born blind see images in their dreams but people who were born blind don’t see anything at all. They still dream, and their dreams are just as intense and interesting, but they involve the other senses beside sight.

                              Fact #16: In your dreams, you only see faces that you already know

                                It is proven that in dreams, we can only see faces that we have seen in real life before. So beware: that scary-looking old lady next to you on the bus might as well be in your next nightmare.

                                Fact #17: Dreams tend to be negative

                                Surprisingly, dreams are more often negative than positive. The three most widely reported emotions felt during dreaming are anger, sadness and fear.

                                Fact #18: Multiple dreams per night

                                You can have up to seven different dreams per night depending on how many REM cycles you have. We only dream during the REM period of sleep, and the average person dreams one to two hours every night.

                                Fact #19: Gender differences

                                Interestingly, 70% of all the characters in a man’s dream are other men, but women’s dream contain an equal amount of women and men. Also men’s dreams contain a lot more aggression. Both women and men dream about sexual themes equally often.

                                Fact #20: Not everyone dreams in color

                                As much as 12% of people only dream in black and white.

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