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10 Best Romance Movies That Reflect the Harsh Reality of Relationships

10 Best Romance Movies That Reflect the Harsh Reality of Relationships

A lot of people love romantic movies. They provide the ultimate escapism and feel-good factor when the forces of love triumphs. Most of the times, the reason why it has such an impact on us is because of the message it brings–a message of hope. Many can relate to sitting in front of a screen with loved ones–whether at home or in the cinema, and feeling teary eyed when that moment comes up which has the power to tug on heartstrings.

The best romantic movies do not just act as entertainment, but in fact, can actually teach us important lessons of life, love and relationships. Here are 10 romantic movies and what they taught us

1. Silver Linings Playbook (2012)

    Life is sometimes difficult and we can feel like we are trapped in a situation where there is no escape. But the beauty is its unpredictability as well as the people who can come into our lives when we least expect it.

    Be open to the unexpected happening. Even though you may be struggling with demons of your own, you never know who may wander into your life when you are least expecting it. Stop looking for love and let love find you.

    2. One Day (2011)

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      This is one of those romantic movies that teaches us about the importance of friendship in a relationship. Your significant other should also be your friend. And like any good friend, they should know all your good and bad points but still love you any way.

      Even if you do not end up dating your best friend, be with someone who will ultimately be one of your closest companions and someone you can rely on–no matter what.

      3. Bridget Jones’s Diary (2001)

        Love sometimes catches us off-guard and we fall in love with the person we may least expect.

        Don’t judge a book by its cover. There are sometimes connections we have with people that we may never have envisioned. Physical chemistry is important, but it is even more important that they can connect with you on other levels.

        4. What’s Your Number? (2011)

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          Stop focusing on the past. There is a reason why people didn’t make to your present. If you are single (and single for a while) you may feel nostalgic and wonder “what if” about failed relationships. But remember, if those relationships were right, they would have worked out. So the fact is, one of you was a wrong match for the other person.

          Open yourself to welcoming new people and opportunities into your life.

          5. 10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

            Don’t change who you are. If the person is right for you, they will appreciate all those things that make you different–even the things that make you uncool to everyone else.

            The right one will love you just the way you are–and they will love you even more for your flaws and quirky bits.

            6. He’s Just Not That Into You (2009)

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              Don’t wait around for someone who doesn’t behave like they want to be with you. If you find yourself always making excuses or justifying someone’s absence or lack of attention, the reality is that they are probably just not that into you. It may hurt to accept this, but taking the first step to recognizing this will be the first step to breaking free from that hurt.

              Don’t allow yourself to be nothing more than an option for someone who doesn’t see you as a priority.

              7. Love Actually (2003)

                This is one of those romantic movies that follows the lives of a few people.

                We are reminded that everyone has the same chance of finding love–it doesn’t matter who you are, where you are from or what your circumstances may be. It’s all about being in the right place and the right time. Everyone deserves love and everyone has the possibility to find it.

                8. Breakfast at Tiffany’s (1961)

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                  If someone is more interested in the other person’s status or money, it’s not real love. This has sadly become far too common with many people more in pursuit of what they can gain from a partner, as opposed to how that person makes them feel.

                  If someone truly loves you for you, the size of your bank balance, who you know or the material things they can benefit from being with you, will not matter.

                  9. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004)

                    There is sometimes no greater pain than a heartbreak, and to some people, it may feel impossible to find a way out of that anguish.

                    Don’t force healing or deny yourself the grieving process. It is important to you give yourself the time that you need. Don’t try to find quick solutions such as partying or finding someone else immediately, as ultimately, these are just misguided ways to numb the pain. Pushing yourself too hard to get over someone often makes things worse. It should not be rushed–take as long as you need.

                    10. The Notebook (2004)

                      True love never forgets and will stand the test of time. And no matter what, it will keep fighting and being loyal till the end, irrespective of the circumstances. There are no obstacles that are too big or small when it comes to real love.

                      If you want to be further inspired by some REAL life love stories to remind you that true love does still exist, check out my other article here.

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                      Published on November 28, 2018

                      How to Do Meditation at Home to Calm Your Anxious Mind

                      How to Do Meditation at Home to Calm Your Anxious Mind

                      The woman in yoga pants sitting in a lotus position atop a rocky cliff, overlooking a valley draped in fog — this is the glamorized version of meditation you’ll come across as you search. Yet if you’re seeking meditation to calm your mind, a fantastic setting with no distractions is rarely available.

                      So how to do meditation?

                      The truth about meditation is it’s an everyday practice for anybody. You could be a mountain climber or you could be an accountant — either way, your home is just as good a place for meditation as any.

                      Are you seeking to corral your racing thoughts and relieve a sense of unease, awkwardness, or uncertainty? Look to home meditation to cultivate a laid-back, creative, confident, and organized frame of mind. According to extensive scientific research, meditation relieves stress and anxiety, decreases blood pressure, improves sleep, and improves your ability to pay attention. [1]

                      From start to finish, this article will give you quick, easy steps to follow so that you can meditate at home regularly. You’ll begin by assessing, identifying and altering things that need to change in your home environment. You’ll end by understanding the basics of meditation so that you can let yourself do what you already know how to do deep down in the hidden reality of your mind.

                      You’re ready to let your mind be, and just be, in your own home — let’s begin.

                      1. Find the Right Space in Your Home

                      Where is your right space for meditation at home? Is it in your basement, your bedroom, your living room, or your study?

                      The right space will be one with the least distractions built in to its purpose. In that case, it may be your bedroom. If you’ve set up your bedroom to be a place for sleep and only sleep, it will lend itself well to meditation.

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                      The right space will also be a reasonably spacious one. Although comfort is not your goal, you need room to sit. Choose a space that is private, spacious, and quiet. If you don’t have a space in your home like this, create one. Free it from clutter and get it ready for you to meditate there any time.

                      Ultimately, your right space is one you feel comfortable meditating in, the space you can enter with no other expectations.

                      2. Improve the Feng Shui in Your Home and Meditation Space

                      Feng shui means “wind and water.” It’s the ancient Chinese art of placement.[2]

                      Feng shui improves harmony with nature. Adherents to the principles of feng shui believe all things have energy (chi). The focus of feng shui is to send negative chi (sha) out of the space and attract positive chi (yun).

                      Here’s the truth about feng shui: it’s not complicated or hard. The following will influence feng shui positively in your home and meditation space:

                      • Living things, such as plants
                      • Beautiful objects, such as sculptures or even a well-polished piece of driftwood
                      • Mirrors in symmetrical placement with the lines in a room
                      • Mellifluous sounds, such as trickling water or wind chimes
                      • Furniture away from walls
                      • A centerpiece, such as a small table with books or an ornate lamp on it
                      • Incense or something else that smells good
                      • A lack of clutter and an attention to organization that emphasizes the usefulness, purpose, and essential being of each item in your house

                      Given that feng shui is connected to Taoism and Buddhism, it will complement the meditative atmosphere you want to cultivate in your home.

                      3. Eliminate Pervasive Distractions That Can Harm Your Wellbeing

                      In part, meditation is about accepting the existence of distractions. When you meditate, you don’t judge and assign a positive or a negative value to distractions — the ticking of a clock, an itch, the barking of a dog — you let them occur and let them dissipate like waves.

                      However, in the same way that feng shui removes objects that attract negative chi, there are certain types of distractions that don’t belong in your meditative space. You must remove them.

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                      In a survey of 1,700 people who visited social media sites at least 30 times per week, 30 percent reported high levels of sleep disturbance and 25 percent presented symptoms of depression. [3]

                      Those individuals who experience sleep disturbances or mental health issues due to social media are not setting boundaries between themselves and their connected devices.

                      Part of learning how to meditate at home is learning how and when to set boundaries between yourself and your connected devices and social media accounts. If you need your phone for a timed meditation practice, but you normally receive social media notifications on your phone, set it on Do Not Disturb or Airplane mode during your meditation time.

                      4. Flow into Meditation Through Time

                      Next, set aside a time for meditation each day. It’s right to be structured and disciplined about your meditation time.

                      Buddhist monks whose lives revolve around meditation are very structured and organized with their tasks each day. Structure provides the balance your being needs. Once you are meditating, your mind has no need for time. Outside of your given meditation time, you are completing tasks essential to the wellbeing of yourself and your home.

                      Consider meditating as the sun rises. This is a quiet and contemplative time of the day when it is natural to set your day’s balance through meditation.

                      5. Recognize the Rightness of Doing Nothing

                      At home, you’re probably used to always doing something. When you do meditation at home, you are being, which is doing something and nothing simultaneously.

                      Maryville University points out that successful people unplug by doing nothing. [4] Not only this, but they set the right expectations for the time during which they will do nothing.

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                      We oftentimes look forward to the future by expecting something to happen and by expecting something of ourselves. To meditate from home, look to that time and that space by expecting nothing. You will not do any chores. You will not catch up on work. You will do nothing but meditate for a certain amount of time each day.

                      This might sound crazy, but in taking on meditation from home, you’re not expecting yourself to improve and become a better person. As Ram Dass put it, you are expecting yourself to be here now.

                      6. Choose from the Incredible Variety of Meditative Practices

                      As I outlined in my post on types of meditation, there are many different and not-so-different types of meditation from which to choose.

                      Many beginners find it right to choose guided meditation, for which there are apps, videos, and audio tapes available.

                      If you are not necessarily a beginner but are merely moving your meditative practice into the home, you can facilitate a practice such as Nada Yoga — sound meditation — by placing a fountain in your space or listening to ambient alpha wave music.

                      If you’re used to meditating outside of your home — perhaps you are drawn to the outdoors because of the sounds of nature — a practice like Nada Yoga can help you transition into your home space.

                      7. Understand You Can Meditate Any Time at Home

                      What if I told you to throw out all of the tips that came before this? Sounds crazy but that is how radical mindfulness meditation really is. We don’t think of it as radical because it is now ingrained in our popular discourse.

                      Mindfulness meditation does start as a sitting meditation practice. It goes like this:

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                      1. Sit comfortably and close your eyes.
                      2. Focus on breathing. Inhale through your nose slowly and exhale slowly.
                      3. As distracting thoughts arise, don’t judge them and don’t hang onto them. Let each thought go as you focus on breathing.
                      4. Treat all physical sensations and feelings in the same way you do thoughts: register them, then let them go, returning to breathing.
                      5. Extend this practice to everyday activity, remaining “in the moment” of the body’s activity with each new breath.

                      As you practice mindfulness around your home, note the physical characteristics of the things in themselves. Note physical sensations: sounds, smells, textures, appearances, tastes. Stop now and then and do a body scan from head to toe, noting what each section is doing and how it’s feeling.

                      Note thoughts that come and the emotions attached to them: let them go. Concentrate on the breath and the physical activities — including the details of the objects with which you’re interacting.

                      You’ll notice that your home will lend itself to a meditative state when things are in order. This is where true feng shui originates. You will naturally sense how the arrangement of things affects the energy in a room.

                      Clutter will disappear because mindfulness tells you to dispose of unnecessary things. Plants will bloom. Birds will make their nests in your backyard. Your home will smell pleasing and people will naturally be attracted to it and your presence.

                      You’ve Reached the Beginning and the End

                      Once you are able to do mindfulness meditation even as you are attending to the normal and abnormal requirements of your home, the mundane and the unusual, you are at both the beginning and the end.

                      You are at the beginning because meditation never ends. Continue setting aside time each day to do sitting meditation in the space you’ve set aside. Continue practicing mindfulness as you attend to the energy of your house, your own energy, and the energy of those around you.

                      You are at the end because you grasped what it means to do meditation at home: it means letting go of cares and concerns and being in your home as you attend to the right tasks. The right tasks are those necessary for being in your home.

                      As you sit in your home, rise, open the door and you leave, you are calm in your mind because you are home.

                      Featured photo credit: Simon Rae via unsplash.com

                      Reference

                      [1]Healthline: 12 Science-Based Benefits of Meditation
                      [2]Marquette University: Feng Shui: The Wind and Water
                      [3]Rutgers University: Social Media and Well-Being
                      [4]Maryville University: How Successful People Unplug

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