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What We Think Love Is and What Love Really Is

What We Think Love Is and What Love Really Is

People say love is the most powerful thing in the world that can beat everything and that’s what most people are looking for.

But what is love? Do they really know what love truly means?

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Sometimes we have misinterpreted love or we have never realized that love is just around us. When you understand the true meaning of love, your life will be more fruitful and satisfying.

What We Were Wrong About Love

Real Love Is Different from Emotional Attachment

It’s always a common misunderstanding that we confuse real love with emotional attachment. But there’s a subtle difference between the two.

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The Difference Among Love, Like and Lust

Don’t confuse love with like and lust. They may have something in common but there’s a clear difference between them. Mixing them up can result in a hurtful experience.

The Subtle Difference Between “Love” and “In Love”

Being in love and to love are two different states. Here are the signs when someone is in love.

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True Love Can Be Easily Mixed up with Other Types of Love

What makes true love so precious is its rarity. Most often when you think you have finally found your true love, it is actually other types of love in disguise.

Is Love at First Sight Love?

Is “Love at First Sight” a myth? Do people really love at first sight?

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What Really Is Love

Looking at Love from Different Perspectives Gives Different Definitions of Love

Love does not have a fixed definition. When we look at it differently, we have a different interpretation of love.

The 5 Stages of Love (The Last 2 Stages Are the Most Challenging Ones)

Falling in love consists of a series of stages. Some go through them quickly and become a life-long romantic couple, while some simply stay at the earlier stages.

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Last Updated on August 15, 2018

What Makes a Relationship Boring and How to Avoid It

What Makes a Relationship Boring and How to Avoid It

You’ve finally reached that comfortable spot in your relationship. You finish each other’s sentences and know before they order what the other one will have for lunch at your favorite restaurant. But, it’s starting to feel like boredom to you.

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Security Can Lead to Boredom

It is normal to reach this level of security in a relationship. The longer you’re with somebody, the more you get to know them and what to expect from them. This level of familiarity is the cause of relationship boredom.

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Although security is definitely something you want with your significant other, what you don’t want is the boredom. One of the biggest mistakes a couple can make is believing that their predictability makes up for the loss of intimacy or excitement they used to feel together.[1] Why? Because this boredom increases your chances of losing the love between you.

When a couple starts to settle for feeling safe and secure, they believe nothing in the world can tear them apart. And this sense of confidence means they often stop putting effort into their relationship. Instead, their shared life becomes automatic, occurring without too much thought or investment and becoming indifferent. The last thing you want is to be in an indifferent romantic relationship. With indifference comes a whole slew of other feelings like annoyance and irritation, which in turn, prompts arguments.[2]

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Don’t allow this to happen to you and your significant other.

How to Prevent Boredom in Your Relationship

So, what can you do to avoid boredom in your relationship? Here are some great ideas to spark the passion and excitement:

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Try Something New Together

There’s nothing better for breaking up monotony than doing something new together. Do you two love taking pictures? Take a photography class together. Do you usually go hiking on the weekends? Throw a zipline or paragliding session into the mix. Research indicates that trying new activities is a great way to beat boredom.

Make a Plan for the Future

No, you don’t have to plan where you’ll buy your house or how many kids you’ll have if you’re not ready for that sort of conversation. You can, however, plan a weekend getaway or a vacation for a few months down the road. Making a plan gives you something to look forward to, which helps fight boredom. According to life coach Kelly Rogers, making plans for the future gives your relationship a little adrenaline rush, making you feel a sense of appreciation for each other.[3]

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Establish a Date Night

In your everyday, mundane life together, it can be easy to forget to make the two of you a priority. Establishing a mandatory date night is a wonderful way to bring you and your significant other together for some quality time. Melanie Schilling, a relationship psychologist, claims that date nights are actually critical to relationship health.[4] Set something specific to do together as often as your schedule allows. It doesn’t have to be dinner at an expensive restaurant either. You can plan a “no cell phone” night, a walk at the park, or even try to recreate one of your first dates together.

Remember to Say “I Love You”

Don’t forget to remind your partner why you are together, especially when boredom creeps its head between you two. Simple things like saying, “I love you” or letting them know how much you appreciate them can help you keep the romance alive in your relationship. Try to think about the happy memories the two of you have shared; it can be far too easy to dwell on the problems. Remembering why and how much you love your significant other is a great way to forget about any boredom you thought you were feeling.

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