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How to Spot out True Friends in a World Full of Fake People

How to Spot out True Friends in a World Full of Fake People

We face tons of responsibility in life. Study. Work. Family. In face of the stress from life, a good friend is like a refuge during a storm. However, not all friends are reliable, only the TRUE ones deserve our trust.

This article defines what a true friendship means, and how a fake friendship can destroy a person. It will help you reflect on your current friend circle, and help you squeeze the juice out of friendship.

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What True Friendship Means

How REAL Friends Are Different From FAKE Friends

It can be hard to distinguish good friends from bad friends. This article will help you figure out if your friends are real or fake ones.

Things True Friends Never Do

It is hard to stay clear-minded in any relationship, friendship included. Even when our friends do wrong to us, we find excuses for them. But after all, we ought to be honest to ourselves, and ask “Do my friends really value our friendship?”

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The Love Embedded in Every True Friendship

The famous writer, Elbert Hubbard, once said: “A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” Are you feeling love from your friends? This article reveals the relationship between love and friendship.

How to Recognize Friends Who Help You Grow

The Friends You Need to Keep You Growing

Science does say that people without friends die sooner, while people who acquire meaningful friendship do get healthier. This article displays 8 types of people that are going to help you “stay away from the doctor”.

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The Only 4 Types of Friends that Make Your Life Meaningful

You’re the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with. This article provides a helpful benchmark to check if a friendship is fruitful or not.

How to Avoid Friendships that Harm You

Warning Signs of a Toxic Friend

Do your friends find you only when they need you, or lose temper easily? These are signs of a harmful friendship. This article displays the red flags of a harmful friendship through gorgeous illustrations.

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10 Types of Toxic Friends Everyone Should be Careful Of

The liars. The gossipers. We all know these people are dangerous. But there are other types of people we should be careful of. This article tells you about the 10 types of toxic friends we ought to keep an eye on.

Hidden Damages That Hurtful Friendships Do to You

Sometimes, we may not be aware of the damages bad friendships are doing to us. But a harmful friendship does undermine our value. This article tells how hurtful friendships can slowly destroy you.

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Last Updated on April 1, 2019

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

When we talk about happiness, we often think about staying happy all the time – every single day, every single minute with zero negativity. Many try to pursue this constant state of “happiness” as their ultimate goal, and avoid anything that may take it away from them.

But, what is the meaning of this type of “happiness”?

It’s a lot like your favorite food. The more often you have it isn’t always better. On the contrary, when you only have a chance to eat it sparingly, that’s when you really savor every bite. So is it the food itself that makes you happy, or is it how valuable it is to you when you are eating it?

Always remember that only by experiencing sadness do we understand what it is to be happy.

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Don’t Assume Others Are Always Happy

Most people see those who have seemingly perfect lives and assume they are happy all the time. Since childhood, we are conditioned to chase the idea of “happily-ever-after” that we see in fairytales. On social media, everyone tends to share only the best looking aspects of their lives. So, it’s very easy to have a distorted view of what “happiness” is around us.

In reality, there is always something missing, something lacking, or something unpleasant.

No one has a perfect life. Even the most glamorous celebrities or the richest billionaires have their own set of challenges and problems.

When we feel negative, we’re only focusing on a small fluctuating curve. As CEO of Lifehack, I’ve had to deal with countless problems, and some of them felt like real setbacks at the time. During those moments, it really seemed like these problems would be the life or death of my company and my life goals. But, I got through them; and, weeks, months and eventually years passed with many more ups and downs.

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You need to keep your sights on the extended curve.  Looking back now, a lot of those “really big” problems at the time now seem like only small blips in a long line of experiences. Recalling them in my mind now makes me smile!

Stop Trying to Be Happy–Just Be

It’s natural to want to be happy as often as possible.

So what can we do?

First, throw away the belief that a perfect life means happiness. Personally, I would be miserable if everything was perfect. It’s through experiencing the pains of lifelong challenges that drives us to care for others when they are experiencing similar trials. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t be able to empathize. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t grow.

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To be truly happy, stop chasing permanent happiness.

It sounds like a paradox. But, what I mean is to accept that there will be ups and downs throughout life. Gracefully understand that happiness is a fluctuation of positive and negative events.

Understand the importance of gratitude. Instead of focusing on the unpleasant moment, flash back your memory to when you didn’t have something. I like to think about my career, for example. When I didn’t have a career I was passionate about, I felt lost and demotivated. I felt like everyone was figuring out their lives but me. But, when I found my purpose and started Lifehack, I was deeply happy, even before I realized I would be successful! This memory keeps me going when I hit tough spots. It takes the darkness to make us grateful for the light.

Happiness and Sadness Exist Together

What it all comes down to is this: your life will be filled with beautiful, happy and incredible moments–happy tears and joyous shouts and funny stories. But, your life will also be filled with rain and storms that never seem like they will pass while you’re going through them.

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But, whether your face is warmed by the sunshine, or your heart is dampened by the rain, know that it’s all part of the ebb and flow of life.

Treasure the happy moments and power through the sad ones. Don’t try to avoid “sad” or “negative” experiences, and blindly chase being “happy”. In the end you will achieve a true level of contentment in your life, based on meaningful experiences and achievements. Being able to create growth and meaning out of both positive and negative events — that is the true meaning of “happiness”.

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