You’ve likely heard a famous quote by Mark Twain “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did...“ But how many of us follow our dreams? More importantly, how many of us regret not following them?
I think most of us will find that we fit into question number two. I know I did.
Until one day I asked myself some serious questions about where I was at in my life journey…
Is this really where I see myself 20 years from now? Do I still feel fulfilled? Am I the person I spent my whole life wanting to be?
Just like that, my entire life changed.
Asking myself questions like these changed the way I perceived myself. I wired my thought process to seek change and drive ambition.
Being confident in your decisions and in your capabilities can play a huge part in avoiding self-doubt and regret. I was already regretting not pursuing my ambitions earlier. At least I finally asked myself the question I needed to, affirmed who I was, where I wanted to be, and acted.
This is how I practice self-affirmation.
However, learning how to stay aligned with your dreams and goals while staying confident can be a serious struggle.
Most of us will be plagued with regrets throughout our life; however, learning how to develop self-affirmation can go a long way in making decisions and living the fulfilling life that isn’t plagued with self-doubt.
What is self-affirmation?
In its simplest form, it is the act of having a positive attitude toward yourself. It is valuing who you are and believing you have a purpose. It’s being confident in you.
However, identifying and practicing self-affirmation can be much more difficult than it sounds.
Thankfully, a few simple questions can help guide us in the right direction and help affirm that we are working towards the life that we have always wanted for ourselves. This means reducing the regrets we may have 20 years down the road.
What questions should we ask ourselves daily?
- Am I happy?
- Am I excited for life?
- Is this the life I envisioned for myself?
- Am I making decisions today that will positively impact my life tomorrow?
- Is my daily routine allowing me to cross of my “bucket list” items (throughout the long term)?
- Is today a step that helps me towards the goals that I want to pursue?
- Am I making the most of opportunities?
- Am I proud of where I’m at in life?
- Has today made me feel fulfilled?
Now, I’m not suggesting you need to ask yourself each one of these questions every day. However, taking time every day to evaluate how you feel by choosing a few of these questions can help keep your brain be “trained” to think positively. Doing this daily can wire your thought process towards ambition and fulfillment. It helps keep you focused on who you want to be. It allows you to think positively about yourself and your aspirations.
Out of all of those questions, I recommend asking yourself if you are feeling fulfilled every day. Fulfilment can go a long in self-confidence and optimism.
As for asking yourself some of these questions daily, are you confident in your answers? Are you living up to your potential?
If you are not, maybe it is time to start reavaluating somethings.
What did my affirmation questions result in? Me quitting my job, finally pursing my dreams, and trying this adventure through self-affirmation.
Give it a try, you might be surprised where it will lead you.