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The One Practice That Will Help You Face with Every Challenge Much More Easily

The One Practice That Will Help You Face with Every Challenge Much More Easily

Do you see a challenge and immediately start feeling anxious? Do you worry that you won’t be able to make your dreams come true because of the roadblocks in your path? We’ve all been there—but you don’t have to keep looking at problems in the same way forever—value-based affirmations have the potential to make your life a lot easier.

It can be very difficult to prepare yourself for a challenge or roadblock, because emotions can so easily take over.[1] This can paralyze your decision-making, and make it difficult for you to find the best solution or meet the challenge head on. While simply taking a deep breath and diving in might seem like the best way to proceed, it doesn’t help you find the right solution or help dispel your anxiety about the situation.

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We all have challenges and goals in life, but if you don’t have a method for meeting these challenges, then you may not be able to achieve success as often as you’d like. The good news is that there’s one simple (but not easy) practice that will help you face any challenge you come across: value-based affirmation. This practice will help you lead a more empowering and focused life, and you’ll likely experience less stress by having a method for meeting challenges head on. So how does it work?

Visualizing what you want beyond the roadblocks is the key to overcome them

Mindset has a huge impact on how you deal with problems and challenges, and value-based affirmations affect your overall mindset to help you succeed.[2] So how does value-based affirmation work? Basically, it is a practice in which you see the desired result in your head before you begin a task. The idea is to affirm your own values before you begin in order to be more open to the change ahead and avoid getting in your own way. Value affirmation may be the reason that people tend to only make healthy changes in their lives once they’ve realized the importance of doing so on their own—not because of someone else telling them they should eat well, exercise, or even meditate.[3]

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This is why you need to work on visualizing what you want, in order to overcome challenges in front of you. An example of how value-based affirmation works would be visualizing the desired outcome of a test (seeing an A) or running and completing a marathon—then having the willpower and motivation to make that visualization reality. In practical application, this can be very powerful—a friend of mine, who had twice failed the CFA exam tried this practice—and ended up acing the test through value-based affirmation. See the outcome, don’t say it.

Try using value-based affirmation on small things first

Now, you can’t just start off using this technique and expect to run a marathon immediately. You have to develop your skills and belief in the practice before you can use it to meet a very demanding task. Instead, try using value-based affirmation on a task that you know you can accomplish, but is slightly challenging. Building on these successes will allow you to develop the technique and use it to meet even the most difficult challenges over time.

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Don’t let obstacles stop you. The right mindset helps you get through them

If you’ve ever been discouraged about achieving your dreams, practicing value-based affirmation could help you reach them—provided you use the technique to develop the right mindset. Many entrepreneurs have successfully used the practice to design the future structure and success of their business before they even get it off the ground. Seeing the success they want allows them to face setbacks and make good decisions during the challenging first few years in business.

Many successful celebrities have also used mindset to become the best of the best in their industries. Michael Jordan, for example, used a form of this technique on the road to becoming arguably the greatest basketball player of all time. Jordan practiced the growth mindset, which allowed him to push through innumerable setbacks. His own words sum up why using value-based affirmations is so important to success:[4]

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“If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”

Visualizing that success beyond the roadblocks is the first step in getting past them. And the best part? You don’t need any special skills to successfully leverage this technique, and it can work for everyone. You just have to start using it and believing it—the rest will follow.

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Last Updated on May 7, 2019

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Work in any competitive field long enough, and you’re bound to run into a wolf in sheep’s clothing. It’s a powerful image. A shepherd watches over his flock to protect them from harm. He’d chase away any predator that tried to make its way into the flock. A clever wolf wearing the skin of a sheep as a disguise can sneak by the vigilant shepherd and get into the herd undetected.

The story isn’t just a colorful description–it’s a warning to all of us to beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing. They may seem innocent, but they have ulterior motives. They’ll use different tactics to camouflage their intentions.

The person who is kind to you, but undercuts you when you aren’t around is a wolf in disguise. A wolf in sheep’s clothing might pick your brain for ideas and then pass them off as their own to get a promotion. They’re always looking out for themselves at the expense of everyone around them.

Wearing a Disguise Has Its Advantages

People don’t go out of their way to manipulate others unless they’re getting something out of it. Hiding their intentions gives wolves the chance to manipulate other people to advance their own agenda. They know that what they’re trying to do wouldn’t be popular, or it might cause struggle if they presented themselves honestly.

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    They’ll be able to do what they want with less interference if they put on an act. By the time people figure out their true motives, the wolf has what it wants.

    Signs That Someone Is a Wolf in Disguise

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        1. They live to take power instead of empowering others. A wolf uses people as stepping stones to get the things that they want. They don’t care what happens to anyone else.[1] A wolf at work might make you look bad during a presentation to make themselves look amazing in front of the boss.
        2. Wolves seem sweet on the outside, but they’ll show you their teeth. If wolves revealed their true identity, people wouldn’t associate with them. They develop a friendly or kind persona, but they can’t keep up the act 24/7. Eventually, they’ll reveal their aggressive tendencies. A wealthy person who likes to break the law may make sizable charitable donations to convince people that they are kind and thoughtful. These donations largely keep them out of trouble, but if someone calls them out, they destroy that person’s reputation to stifle the criticism.
        3. They manipulate through emotions to get what they want. Wolves know that they can get ahead by appealing to your emotions. They find out what you want and need, and they give you just enough to keep you quiet and compliant. Imagine that your boss is a wolf in sheep’s clothing, and you want to ask for a vacation. She might try to play on your guilt and feelings of insecurity to get you to skip vacation or take fewer days off.
        4. A wolf will charm you first. Wolves are experts at manipulating the people around them. They appear interested in whatever you’re doing, and you’ll get the impression that they care. After they get you where they want you, they do just enough to keep you on the hook. This is the coworker who may start out being your friend, but they end up dumping responsibility onto you. When they see that you are growing frustrated, they’ll surprise you with something to charm you some more. Then, they’ll continue to do whatever they want.
        5. Their stories are full of holes.  Calling a wolf out is the surest way to make them squirm. When this person tries to come up with a story, it won’t make much sense because they are improvising.[2] The classic example of this is the significant other that you suspect has cheated on you. When you ask them why they came home so late, they’ll either become upset with you, or they’ll make up a weak explanation.

        How to Spot a Wolf

          Know What’s Real So You Can Spot the Phony

          Do some homework so that you have as much of the story as possible before you work with them. Research how they respond in certain situations, or give them hypothetical problems to see how they respond.

          A job applicant might tell you that she’s always positive and thinks of herself as a team-player. That’s what every employer wants to hear. During the interview you ask applicants to work in groups to solve a problem to see how they handle the situation. The applicant “positive team-player” is bossy and negative. You’ve spotted the wolf.

          A wolf will tell you something that ultimately benefits them. Gather evidence that proves or disproves their position, and see what happens. Chances are, when you choose the side that supports their agenda, they’ll act like your best friend. If you disagree, they’ll become aggressive.

          Spotting a potential wolf–especially if you are one of the sheep–can present you with some challenges. If your gut tells you that a wolf is lurking among all the other sheep, pay attention, and make sure you take the next step.

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          Ask Questions, the More the Better

          There’s nothing wrong with asking questions to uncover the truth. The safety of everyone in your group is at risk. Since wolves often make up stories, you may be able to call them out when their tales lack details.

          When they state an opinion, ask “Why do you think that?” or “How do you know it’s like that?” They’ll have trouble coming up with enough information to pull off the lie.

          Since wolves are always pretending to be something they aren’t, they don’t usually have a clearly thought-out reason for what they say. In a debate, they won’t understand the root of an issue.

          They may also tell you what they think you want to hear, but when pressed for more information, they won’t have anything to add. Their knowledge is superficial. No matter how much you try to encourage discussion, they will not be able to carry on a conversation about the subject.

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          Wolves Are Everywhere

          As much as we want to believe that everyone has the best intentions, it isn’t always the case. Some people only do things to benefit themselves, and they don’t care who they hurt in the process.

          Wolves in sheep’s clothing can be found in almost every setting. You can’t get rid of them, but if you can spot them, you can avoid falling into their traps.

          Reference

          [1] Association of Biblical Counselors: Three Ways to Spot a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing
          [2] Power of Positivity: Beware of a wolf in sheep’s clothing

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