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Self-Esteem: What Is Self-Esteem and What Is Not

Self-Esteem: What Is Self-Esteem and What Is Not

When the subject of self-esteem is raised, the air suddenly becomes dense with the negative connotation that the topic suggests. It has become a deep-seeded issue that resonates with the majority; we can find solidarity in the fact that we never feel whole. Therein lies the problem. It has become normal to feel obsolete. Although highly influenced by external factors, our level of self-worth can come from nowhere but within ourselves.

Self-esteem issues effect our everyday performance, and basically just every moment of everyday. How you perceive yourself is transmitted through every action you take, every expression you make. You can vastly improve your quality of life by positively altering the way that you view yourself, and realize that you’re awesome, and so deserving of love and the rewards from your success. Changing your thought process is next to impossible, but it can be done. And it is quite literally, a labor of love.

Here are a few Lifehack articles (written by yours truly) covering different facets of self-esteem.

The Most Appropriate Definition of Self-Esteem

Fame Doesn’t Equal Self-Esteem

Social Media presence has such a hold on society, that we gauge or self-worth based on our “following” or “fame.”

How We Are Confusing Self-Love With Narcissism In This Generation

Identifying narcissistic behaviors within yourself or others, and how to nurture self-love without allowing it to turn into narcissism.

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Signs of People Who Have Self-Esteem Issues

Signs Of Low Self-Esteem And The Root Causes You Might Not Know

People who have low self esteem are always hard on themselves. Sometimes they don’t accept compliments because they second guess others’ intentions.

15 Signs Of Self-Absorbed People

Self-absorbed people portray certain patterns that are similar to narcissistic people, and these  self-esteem.

The Hidden Causes of Low Self-Esteem

How Parents’s Love Destroy Their Children’s Self-Esteem

Some friendly advice on how to be a healthy and positive influence on a growing child’s self esteem.

How Social Media Secretly Manipulates Our Views On Winners and Losers

A look into the negative effects of social media, Spot-light culture, and the fear of missing out.

How Our Obsession With Other People’s Approval Is Destroying Us

Spotlight Culture has given us all the impression that everyone is always watching and judging our every move. Here’s how to separate yourself from that silly mentality.

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Where Self-Esteem Comes From

Winning It All Doesn’t Guarantee High Self-esteem

Battling Shame Culture, and learning how to not lose yourself in the process of winning your success.

The More We Compare, The More We Lose Ourselves

The toxicity that comes along with comparison, when we put too much focus on the success of others, that it inhibits our own growth.

Why People’s Approval Shouldn’t Matter

If you want to live a fulfilling life, let go of your need for approval from others.

People Who Have A Life Purpose Have Higher Self-Esteem

How finding your life’s work and committing to it will greatly improve your self-esteem.

The Magic of Boosing Self-Esteem Lies within You

True self-esteem comes from within, not external stuff like the number of likes on the social media.

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How to Build Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence

10 Ways To Believe In Yourself Again

We have to believe in ourselves and in our abilities to succeed in life.

15 Things Highly Confident People Don’t Do

Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve greatness. Learn from them and become a confident person.

63 Ways to Build Self-Confidence

Confidence is a tool you can use to boost your self-esteem and achieve what you want in your everyday life.

Incredible Ways to Make You a Charming Person

When you start to believe in yourself and demonstrate confidence, you’ll become more charming than ever.

How to Love Yourself More for Better Self-Esteem

3 Simple Steps to Make You Constantly Feel Good About Yourself

By feeling good about yourself, you let your true self shine.

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30 Ways to Practice Self-Love and Be Good to Yourself

It’s not about being self-absorbed, it’s about getting in touch with our well-being and happiness.

How to Love Yourself, Even if No One Else Does

You don’t need anyone else to complete your life, you’re the one responsible for your own love.

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Last Updated on April 1, 2019

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

When we talk about happiness, we often think about staying happy all the time – every single day, every single minute with zero negativity. Many try to pursue this constant state of “happiness” as their ultimate goal, and avoid anything that may take it away from them.

But, what is the meaning of this type of “happiness”?

It’s a lot like your favorite food. The more often you have it isn’t always better. On the contrary, when you only have a chance to eat it sparingly, that’s when you really savor every bite. So is it the food itself that makes you happy, or is it how valuable it is to you when you are eating it?

Always remember that only by experiencing sadness do we understand what it is to be happy.

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Don’t Assume Others Are Always Happy

Most people see those who have seemingly perfect lives and assume they are happy all the time. Since childhood, we are conditioned to chase the idea of “happily-ever-after” that we see in fairytales. On social media, everyone tends to share only the best looking aspects of their lives. So, it’s very easy to have a distorted view of what “happiness” is around us.

In reality, there is always something missing, something lacking, or something unpleasant.

No one has a perfect life. Even the most glamorous celebrities or the richest billionaires have their own set of challenges and problems.

When we feel negative, we’re only focusing on a small fluctuating curve. As CEO of Lifehack, I’ve had to deal with countless problems, and some of them felt like real setbacks at the time. During those moments, it really seemed like these problems would be the life or death of my company and my life goals. But, I got through them; and, weeks, months and eventually years passed with many more ups and downs.

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You need to keep your sights on the extended curve.  Looking back now, a lot of those “really big” problems at the time now seem like only small blips in a long line of experiences. Recalling them in my mind now makes me smile!

Stop Trying to Be Happy–Just Be

It’s natural to want to be happy as often as possible.

So what can we do?

First, throw away the belief that a perfect life means happiness. Personally, I would be miserable if everything was perfect. It’s through experiencing the pains of lifelong challenges that drives us to care for others when they are experiencing similar trials. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t be able to empathize. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t grow.

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To be truly happy, stop chasing permanent happiness.

It sounds like a paradox. But, what I mean is to accept that there will be ups and downs throughout life. Gracefully understand that happiness is a fluctuation of positive and negative events.

Understand the importance of gratitude. Instead of focusing on the unpleasant moment, flash back your memory to when you didn’t have something. I like to think about my career, for example. When I didn’t have a career I was passionate about, I felt lost and demotivated. I felt like everyone was figuring out their lives but me. But, when I found my purpose and started Lifehack, I was deeply happy, even before I realized I would be successful! This memory keeps me going when I hit tough spots. It takes the darkness to make us grateful for the light.

Happiness and Sadness Exist Together

What it all comes down to is this: your life will be filled with beautiful, happy and incredible moments–happy tears and joyous shouts and funny stories. But, your life will also be filled with rain and storms that never seem like they will pass while you’re going through them.

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But, whether your face is warmed by the sunshine, or your heart is dampened by the rain, know that it’s all part of the ebb and flow of life.

Treasure the happy moments and power through the sad ones. Don’t try to avoid “sad” or “negative” experiences, and blindly chase being “happy”. In the end you will achieve a true level of contentment in your life, based on meaningful experiences and achievements. Being able to create growth and meaning out of both positive and negative events — that is the true meaning of “happiness”.

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