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What to Do When Your Kid Says He’s Bored Again

What to Do When Your Kid Says He’s Bored Again

“Muuuuum… Daaaaad… I’m BORED!”

If this is a cry you dread hearing, then you’re in the right place.

Children get bored easily and need lots of stimulation.

It can feel really challenging to keep kids entertained, especially if you have other commitments.

You might be tempted to simply sit them in front of the TV, but that won’t help in the long term.

Your child can learn to entertain themselves, with a little help from you.

Following the steps below will make your child much less likely to complain of boredom – giving you some much needed peace and quiet.

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Work out when your child is likely to get bored

Is there a particular time or place your child often complains of being bored?

Perhaps it’s during long car journeys, or while visiting elderly relatives.

Identify the situation and start thinking about how it could be improved.

For example, you could try to avoid rush hour when travelling with your child, to keep the journey as short as possible.

If there’s no way to avoid the situation, try to plan activities that will keep your child occupied.

For example, if they’re always bored at grandma’s house, why not keep a few games or toys in a cupboard there? If it’s the car that’s the problem, plan some travel games, like ‘I Spy,’ and ’20 Questions’.

Being prepared is the first step towards beating boredom.

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Make your child’s daily routine more fun

If boredom seems to be a routine for your child, rather than a one-off event, you should look at ways to make their daily activities more interesting.

Here are some examples that will make your child’s morning routine a lot more fun:

  • Time how quickly they can get up and dressed in the morning – make it a competition.
  • Put on music and dance while completing chores.
  • Play underwater-themed pretend games in the bath.
  • Give them lots of choices – like what to wear and what to eat for breakfast.

Try to make things into a game wherever possible – you’ll find that your child is much more engaged and co-operative.

Break homework/chores into small chunks

If there are things your child really doesn’t enjoy but still has to do, try breaking them into small chunks.

Promise your child a reward and a break at the end of each section – don’t just force them to work for hours on end.

You could create a chart with planned rewards, which might look something like this.

One chore completed: a packet of sweets.

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Three chores completed: a trip to the park.

Five chores completed: an hour playing their favourite game.

Kids will be much more motivated when they have something to look forward to, and breaking tasks into pieces makes them feel less overwhelming.

Write a list of boredom beating activities

When your child is bored, it’s important that they learn to deal with it on their own.

After all, you won’t always be there to entertain them, and learning how to use their time is a valuable life skill. [1]

However, that doesn’t mean you can’t help out with ideas.

Sit down together and write a big list of boredom-beating activities, then put them in a jar or box and tell you child to pull one out each time they feel bored.

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Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Draw a picture
  • Play in the garden
  • Write a story
  • Blow bubbles
  • Play catch
  • Do a jigsaw
  • Build an obstacle course
  • Make up a dance
  • Sing a song

Items like board games, toys, and play equipment can be kept a special ‘boredom box’ which your child can go to whenever they’re at a loose end.

Add new activities regularly to keep things fresh and interesting.

Ensure your child’s boredom isn’t due to depression

Boredom is generally harmless, but it can sometimes be a symptom of depression.

But how do you tell the two apart?

A child who’s bored will usually be excited to take part in a new activity or game, and will soon be back to their usual self.

On the other hand, a child who’s depressed may be uninterested, even in things they usually like. [2] They might continue to appear bored even while engaged in an activity.

If you’re worried about how often your child is getting bored, speak to a medical professional for help and advice.

Reference

[1] Aha! Parenting: Handling Boredom
[2] Healthline: Boredom

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Last Updated on February 28, 2019

The Desire to Be Liked Will End You up Feeling More Rejected

The Desire to Be Liked Will End You up Feeling More Rejected

Admit it, you feel good when other people think you’re nice. Maybe you were complimented by a stranger saying that you had a nice outfit. You felt good about yourself and you were happy for the rest of the day.

    We all like to feel liked, whether by a stranger or a loved one. It makes you feel valued and that feeling can be addictive. But when the high wears off and you no longer have validation that someone thinks you’re a good, sweet person, you may feel insecure and lacking. While wanting others to like you isn’t in itself a bad thing, it can be like a disease when you feel that you constantly need to be liked by others.

    Humans are wired to want to be liked.

    It’s human nature to seek approval from others. In ancient times, we needed acceptance to survive. Humans are social animals and we need to bond with others and form a community to survive. If we are not liked by others, we will be left out.

    Babies are born to be cute and be liked by adults.

      The large rounded head, big forehead, large eyes, chubby cheeks, and a rounded body. Babies can’t survive without an adult taking care of them. It’s vital for adults to find babies lovely to pay attention to them and divert energy towards them.[1]

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      Recognitions have always been given by others.

        From the time you were a child, whether at school or at home, you have been receiving recognition from external parties. For instance, you received grades from teachers, and if you wanted something, you needed approval from your parents. We’ve learned to get what we want by catering to other people’s expectations. Maybe you wanted to get a higher grade in art so you’d be more attentive in art classes than others to impress your teacher. Your teacher would have a generally good impression on you and would likely to give you a higher grade.

        When you grow up, it’s no different. Perhaps you are desperate to get your work done so you do things that your manager would approve. Or maybe you try to impress your date by doing things they like but you don’t really like.

        Facebook and Instagram have only made things worse. People posting their photos and sharing about their life on Instagram just to feels so good to get more likes and attention.

        Being liked becomes essential to reaching desires.

          We start to get hyper focused on how others see us, and it’s easy to imagine having the spotlight on you at all time. People see you and they take an interest in you. This feels good. In turn, you start doing more things that bring you more attention. It’s all positive until you do something they don’t like and you receive criticism. When this happens, you spiral because you’ve lost the feeling of acceptance.

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          But the reality is this is all just perception. Humans, as a species, are selfish. We are all just looking at ourselves; we only perceive others are giving us their focus. Even for those who please others are actually focusing on making themselves feel good. It’s like an optical illusion for your ego.

            The desire to be liked is an endless chase.

              Aiming to please others in order to feel better will exhaust you because you can never catch up with others’ expectation.

              The ideal image will always change.

              It used to be ideal to have a fair weight, a little bit fat was totally acceptable. Then it’s ideal to be very slim. Recently we’ve seen “dad-bods” getting some positive attention. But this is already quickly changing. In fact, a recent article from Men’s Health asked 100 women if they would date a guy who had a dad-bod, about 50% of women claimed to not care either way, only 15% exclusively date men with a “dad bod”.[2]

              People’s expectations on you can be wrong.

              Most people put their expectations on others based on what’s right in the social norms, yet the social norms are created by humans in which 80% of them are just ordinary people according to the 80/20 rules.[3]

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              Think about it, every day, from the time you wake up to the time you go to sleep, you filter what you believe to be truth. If someone compliments you, you take it and add it to an idea of what the best version of yourself is. When someone criticizes you, even in a destructive way, you might accept it altogether, or add it to a list of things you’re insecure about. When you absorb the wrong opinion from others, you will either sabotage your self-esteem or overestimate yourself by accepting all the good compliments and stop growing; or accepting all the destructive criticisms and sabotage your own self-esteem and happiness.

              Others’ desires are not the same as yours.

                If you live your life as one long effort of trying to please other people, you will never be happy. You’re always going to rely on others to make you feel worth living. This leads to total confusion when it comes to your personal goals; when there’s no external recognition, you don’t know what to live for.

                The only person to please is yourself.

                  Think of others’ approval as fuel and think of yourself as a car. When that fuel runs out, you can’t function. This is not a healthy mindset.

                  In reality, we’re human and we can create our own fuel. You can feel good based on how much you like yourself. When you do things to make you like yourself more, you can start to see a big change in your opinion. For example, if being complimented by others made you feel good and accepted, look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Say what you wish others would say about you.

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                  Internal approval takes practice, but it’s worth the effort. You have to re-train your own mind. Think of the dog who knows there is food when the bell rings, the reflex is hard wired into the dog.[4] We need our own triggers to reinforce the habit of internal approval too. Recognize yourself every day instead of waiting for people to do it for you, check out in this article the steps to take to recognize your own achievements and gain empowerment: Don’t Wait for People to Praise You. Do It Yourself Every Single Day

                  Notice that when you start to focus on yourself and what to do to make yourself happy, others may criticize you. Since you’ve stopped trying to please others to meet their expectations, they may judge you for what you do. Be critical about what they say about you. They aren’t always right but so are you. Everyone has blind spots. Let go of biased and subjective comments but be humble and open to useful advice that will improve you.

                  Remember that you are worth it, every day. It will take time to stop relying on others to make you feel important and worth something, but the sooner you start trying, the happier and healthier you will be.

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