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What to Do When Your Kid Says He’s Bored Again

What to Do When Your Kid Says He’s Bored Again

“Muuuuum… Daaaaad… I’m BORED!”

If this is a cry you dread hearing, then you’re in the right place.

Children get bored easily and need lots of stimulation.

It can feel really challenging to keep kids entertained, especially if you have other commitments.

You might be tempted to simply sit them in front of the TV, but that won’t help in the long term.

Your child can learn to entertain themselves, with a little help from you.

Following the steps below will make your child much less likely to complain of boredom – giving you some much needed peace and quiet.

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Work out when your child is likely to get bored

Is there a particular time or place your child often complains of being bored?

Perhaps it’s during long car journeys, or while visiting elderly relatives.

Identify the situation and start thinking about how it could be improved.

For example, you could try to avoid rush hour when travelling with your child, to keep the journey as short as possible.

If there’s no way to avoid the situation, try to plan activities that will keep your child occupied.

For example, if they’re always bored at grandma’s house, why not keep a few games or toys in a cupboard there? If it’s the car that’s the problem, plan some travel games, like ‘I Spy,’ and ’20 Questions’.

Being prepared is the first step towards beating boredom.

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Make your child’s daily routine more fun

If boredom seems to be a routine for your child, rather than a one-off event, you should look at ways to make their daily activities more interesting.

Here are some examples that will make your child’s morning routine a lot more fun:

  • Time how quickly they can get up and dressed in the morning – make it a competition.
  • Put on music and dance while completing chores.
  • Play underwater-themed pretend games in the bath.
  • Give them lots of choices – like what to wear and what to eat for breakfast.

Try to make things into a game wherever possible – you’ll find that your child is much more engaged and co-operative.

Break homework/chores into small chunks

If there are things your child really doesn’t enjoy but still has to do, try breaking them into small chunks.

Promise your child a reward and a break at the end of each section – don’t just force them to work for hours on end.

You could create a chart with planned rewards, which might look something like this.

One chore completed: a packet of sweets.

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Three chores completed: a trip to the park.

Five chores completed: an hour playing their favourite game.

Kids will be much more motivated when they have something to look forward to, and breaking tasks into pieces makes them feel less overwhelming.

Write a list of boredom beating activities

When your child is bored, it’s important that they learn to deal with it on their own.

After all, you won’t always be there to entertain them, and learning how to use their time is a valuable life skill. [1]

However, that doesn’t mean you can’t help out with ideas.

Sit down together and write a big list of boredom-beating activities, then put them in a jar or box and tell you child to pull one out each time they feel bored.

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Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Draw a picture
  • Play in the garden
  • Write a story
  • Blow bubbles
  • Play catch
  • Do a jigsaw
  • Build an obstacle course
  • Make up a dance
  • Sing a song

Items like board games, toys, and play equipment can be kept a special ‘boredom box’ which your child can go to whenever they’re at a loose end.

Add new activities regularly to keep things fresh and interesting.

Ensure your child’s boredom isn’t due to depression

Boredom is generally harmless, but it can sometimes be a symptom of depression.

But how do you tell the two apart?

A child who’s bored will usually be excited to take part in a new activity or game, and will soon be back to their usual self.

On the other hand, a child who’s depressed may be uninterested, even in things they usually like. [2] They might continue to appear bored even while engaged in an activity.

If you’re worried about how often your child is getting bored, speak to a medical professional for help and advice.

Reference

[1] Aha! Parenting: Handling Boredom
[2] Healthline: Boredom

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Last Updated on May 7, 2019

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Work in any competitive field long enough, and you’re bound to run into a wolf in sheep’s clothing. It’s a powerful image. A shepherd watches over his flock to protect them from harm. He’d chase away any predator that tried to make its way into the flock. A clever wolf wearing the skin of a sheep as a disguise can sneak by the vigilant shepherd and get into the herd undetected.

The story isn’t just a colorful description–it’s a warning to all of us to beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing. They may seem innocent, but they have ulterior motives. They’ll use different tactics to camouflage their intentions.

The person who is kind to you, but undercuts you when you aren’t around is a wolf in disguise. A wolf in sheep’s clothing might pick your brain for ideas and then pass them off as their own to get a promotion. They’re always looking out for themselves at the expense of everyone around them.

Wearing a Disguise Has Its Advantages

People don’t go out of their way to manipulate others unless they’re getting something out of it. Hiding their intentions gives wolves the chance to manipulate other people to advance their own agenda. They know that what they’re trying to do wouldn’t be popular, or it might cause struggle if they presented themselves honestly.

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    They’ll be able to do what they want with less interference if they put on an act. By the time people figure out their true motives, the wolf has what it wants.

    Signs That Someone Is a Wolf in Disguise

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        1. They live to take power instead of empowering others. A wolf uses people as stepping stones to get the things that they want. They don’t care what happens to anyone else.[1] A wolf at work might make you look bad during a presentation to make themselves look amazing in front of the boss.
        2. Wolves seem sweet on the outside, but they’ll show you their teeth. If wolves revealed their true identity, people wouldn’t associate with them. They develop a friendly or kind persona, but they can’t keep up the act 24/7. Eventually, they’ll reveal their aggressive tendencies. A wealthy person who likes to break the law may make sizable charitable donations to convince people that they are kind and thoughtful. These donations largely keep them out of trouble, but if someone calls them out, they destroy that person’s reputation to stifle the criticism.
        3. They manipulate through emotions to get what they want. Wolves know that they can get ahead by appealing to your emotions. They find out what you want and need, and they give you just enough to keep you quiet and compliant. Imagine that your boss is a wolf in sheep’s clothing, and you want to ask for a vacation. She might try to play on your guilt and feelings of insecurity to get you to skip vacation or take fewer days off.
        4. A wolf will charm you first. Wolves are experts at manipulating the people around them. They appear interested in whatever you’re doing, and you’ll get the impression that they care. After they get you where they want you, they do just enough to keep you on the hook. This is the coworker who may start out being your friend, but they end up dumping responsibility onto you. When they see that you are growing frustrated, they’ll surprise you with something to charm you some more. Then, they’ll continue to do whatever they want.
        5. Their stories are full of holes.  Calling a wolf out is the surest way to make them squirm. When this person tries to come up with a story, it won’t make much sense because they are improvising.[2] The classic example of this is the significant other that you suspect has cheated on you. When you ask them why they came home so late, they’ll either become upset with you, or they’ll make up a weak explanation.

        How to Spot a Wolf

          Know What’s Real So You Can Spot the Phony

          Do some homework so that you have as much of the story as possible before you work with them. Research how they respond in certain situations, or give them hypothetical problems to see how they respond.

          A job applicant might tell you that she’s always positive and thinks of herself as a team-player. That’s what every employer wants to hear. During the interview you ask applicants to work in groups to solve a problem to see how they handle the situation. The applicant “positive team-player” is bossy and negative. You’ve spotted the wolf.

          A wolf will tell you something that ultimately benefits them. Gather evidence that proves or disproves their position, and see what happens. Chances are, when you choose the side that supports their agenda, they’ll act like your best friend. If you disagree, they’ll become aggressive.

          Spotting a potential wolf–especially if you are one of the sheep–can present you with some challenges. If your gut tells you that a wolf is lurking among all the other sheep, pay attention, and make sure you take the next step.

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          Ask Questions, the More the Better

          There’s nothing wrong with asking questions to uncover the truth. The safety of everyone in your group is at risk. Since wolves often make up stories, you may be able to call them out when their tales lack details.

          When they state an opinion, ask “Why do you think that?” or “How do you know it’s like that?” They’ll have trouble coming up with enough information to pull off the lie.

          Since wolves are always pretending to be something they aren’t, they don’t usually have a clearly thought-out reason for what they say. In a debate, they won’t understand the root of an issue.

          They may also tell you what they think you want to hear, but when pressed for more information, they won’t have anything to add. Their knowledge is superficial. No matter how much you try to encourage discussion, they will not be able to carry on a conversation about the subject.

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          Wolves Are Everywhere

          As much as we want to believe that everyone has the best intentions, it isn’t always the case. Some people only do things to benefit themselves, and they don’t care who they hurt in the process.

          Wolves in sheep’s clothing can be found in almost every setting. You can’t get rid of them, but if you can spot them, you can avoid falling into their traps.

          Reference

          [1] Association of Biblical Counselors: Three Ways to Spot a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing
          [2] Power of Positivity: Beware of a wolf in sheep’s clothing

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